aviva_dawn Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My best friend's boyfriend (She's 21 like me, he's 23) gave her a silver ring that he called a "promise ring". They're not engaged yet, but want to get married a few years down the road. I've never heard of a promise ring. Is it sort of like a pre-engagement ring? Please explain!
agnf666 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 I found this online. It is the ring before the engagment ring. It means... A promise to love. A promise to cherish. A promise of friendship. A promise of loyalty. A promise of hope for a future together that is without end.
katie79 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 A promise ring is geared towards the teenage public upon the diamond industry. It's a real diamond, very small; a *chip* with a gold/siler/platinum band. It signifies *going steady* amongst the world of teens mainly. Sometimes it's just given as a gift. It's not an engagement since there is no wedding date set or plan to be married soon. I never understood the term "pre-engagement" exactly. Though I do know my fiance pulled that on me after two years of dating when he wanted to use that as a way to string me along to avoid the responsiblity of getting engaged to be married. After a few weeks, I stopped wearing it. Too many people laughed, especially men, and I thought it was a fake and unrealistic tradition. Being I was about 22-23 when I recieved the ring, I thought it was just a bit sophomoric. However, I am engaged now, with a ring, and getting married on June 17th, 2006. When I was in high school and my early years of college, I knew a few girls who got "pre-engaged" and recieved a promise ring. I thought it was stupid then! Some guys would give their high school girlfriends a promise ring before prom night because they wanted to look like they were serious about marrying their gf's one day so they could get laid The other girls I knew broke up with the "pre-fiance's" and kept the "pre-ring" and got married years later to someone who committed to a real engagement; a promise of marriage to soon come. Besides, what does pre-engagement mean in any context? The "term" itself makes no sense. Engagement is a waiting period! So what does "pre-engagement" mean??? The "waiting period before the waiting period" ??? Makes no sense. If you want to get married, just get engaged and make the engagement two years (maximum). Otherwise, use the option of getting her a nice necklace/bracelet/earings to show your current caring for her.
Gemini02 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My boyfriend gave me a promise ring (I'm 20 and he's 23). And I don't think it's stupid, I think it's sweet. Neither one of us is ready to be thinking about engagments or marriage, but a promise ring is exactly what agnf666 said: "A promise to love. A promise to cherish. A promise of friendship. A promise of loyalty. A promise of hope for a future together that is without end." It goes on my left hand, like a an engagment ring and it's a sign that I'm "taken" so to speak. Also the ring finger on the left hand is tied to the heart. It's just a promise to each other that one day in the future we'll start planning ours together, but not thinking about marriage, because that's a big step. So this is a little step, before the big step
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 My highschool boyfriend gave me his Initial ring, and called it a promise ring. I laughed at him (yeah i was immature) and told him that yeah in the 50's it was the thing to give a girl YOUR ring, but nowadays (talkin 80's here) a promise ring is a DIAMOND ring lol. goofball! He did cough one up a couple years later.
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