wildpillow Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I've been seeing this girl for only a couple of months. We had plans to hangout the other night and she cancelled out on them because she had homework. I asked if we could hangout afterwards she said yes. I hardly heard from her the rest of the day. Tried calling her later that night around 5:30 and no answer but she promptly texted me "what's up" I said I wanted to tak she said well I can't right now. Meanwhile I noticed on Facebook one of her friends was at the lake and I instantly thought she was there as well. I have no proof but I still believe she was. So I called her out, and actually called her a liar. Wake up today, break down and text her at 2 pm and asked her if we could talk. She said yes so I called her and she claims she wasn't lying and was at home doing homework. Anyways I apologized ... The convo seemed to go well. Have been texting her tonight and she is super short with me, which I get because she is mad. I asked her if she could forgive me and move on from this she said "I just need a little time". What do I do?
aloneinaz Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 #1 Stop smothering her #2 Don't be so needy and clingy #3 Give her what she asks for Ok, this is a little blunt, I know. However, read what you said. You really need to chill out and play it a bit cooler. If not, your going to fully push her out of your life as she dumps you. You texted or called her last. She requested some time to cool down. Give it to her. Don't call or text her. Wait till she contacts you. If you get impatient and text her "what's up" or anything else, she's going to roll her eyes and really get pissed off. You can do this 2
TheBathWater Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I've been seeing this girl for only a couple of months. We had plans to hangout the other night and she cancelled out on them because she had homework. I asked if we could hangout afterwards she said yes. I hardly heard from her the rest of the day. Tried calling her later that night around 5:30 and no answer but she promptly texted me "what's up" I said I wanted to tak she said well I can't right now. Meanwhile I noticed on Facebook one of her friends was at the lake and I instantly thought she was there as well. I have no proof but I still believe she was. So I called her out, and actually called her a liar. Wake up today, break down and text her at 2 pm and asked her if we could talk. She said yes so I called her and she claims she wasn't lying and was at home doing homework. Anyways I apologized ... The convo seemed to go well. Have been texting her tonight and she is super short with me, which I get because she is mad. I asked her if she could forgive me and move on from this she said "I just need a little time". What do I do? Consider yourself lucky and give her time. I just had a very similar incident with someone I started seeing and I totally ****ed it up! Don't do the same. Play it cool and keep your interests outside of her alive.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I think there was already something wrong to begin with. I mean a girl cancelling plans because she'd rather be doing homework? That's a huge warning sign. I'd back off and give her some space. 1
TunaCat Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I think there was already something wrong to begin with. I mean a girl cancelling plans because she'd rather be doing homework? She didn't say she'd RATHER be doing homework, she said she HAD homework. Plus she told OP they could hang out after she finished. It's not like she was trying to ignore the OP completely. Sometimes homework takes precedence over time with a boyfriend. 1
Gary S Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 When they say they need "time" or "space", that usually means they are getting ready to breakup with you. The bad-boy routine you pulled did not help matters. That's just a turnoff. I would pull back and not contact her, let her contact you. Playing hard to get doubles love level - if there is anything left. If there is nothing left, there's nothing you can do anyway.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I agree with this. If she wanted to spend time with you, she could invite you to hang out with her while she did her homework. I am also a student, and I have gotten plenty of offers from female friends to hang out while we work on homework together, and I am not even dating those women. I think she just used homework as an excuse to cancel on you. At the very least, I'd say her feelings for you are rather lukewarm. I would not have asked a guy to watch me do homework. When I studied, I needed to be alone. Some people are like that; they don't want any distractions. Having said that, I would agree that her feelings are lukewarm. OP, you need to back off now. She isn't happy that you called her a liar and it indicates you have trust and insecurity problems. I would probably be done after a stunt like that, sorry. 1
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 When someone asks for space, I become NASA. They can contact Houston when they figure out what their problem is. 2
lovexocoach Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 You insulted her and offended her by calling her a liar. You need to back off and give her time to cool down. And hope she forgets this happened.
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