AnotherChance Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 (edited) Please read all to understand completely. I'm 16 and from three years ago i love a girl, from the first time i saw her.day by day the feeling increased.i started with do a friendship with her. It seemed she liked me. When i told it (after first summer together) to her by message (what a mistake... :/ )she doesn't respond early then she said she dont wanna make me suffer, but said for her im just a friend.i met her for the first time in holidays in another city and all the hangouts happened there, but she s of my same home town. After the confession she used to frequent me in holidays, like she used to do before the confession but she never call or text me in the rest of the year. I'm so depressed. Her image does not let me a moment and i feel depressed by three years,maybe depressed is not the right word...i'm not to that point yet (i still have a social life,friends and few occasional girls),but i can't feel real happy from 3 years and I used to feel the real happiness before her rejection.in other girls i cant match the same things she has. She s extremely beautiful, nice and educated. watching in her eyes isnt same watching in the eyes of another girl.During holidays she's always searching for me and she hasn't problems to be alone with me,even if for hours,after confession too.For her is just the same.In this three years i tried to text and keep in touch with her after holidays but nothing,she usually never answer to me... i think she disgust me. But when i saw her in street she always hug me strongly and start to talk without embarrasment with her friends (girls and boys) or with her boyfriend too (now she hasn't a boyfriend but she had a bofriend for quite a year).I made a so big mistake...my first,real and unique confession was by message...i was so unskilled (i was 13,she was 13 too,but she was blatantly more experienced than me)...i would never do it again.Now i ask to myself...she strives to be kind with me because she feels guilty? (sometimes in the holiday location,after the rejection,i was really upset because she talked to other boys in private or something like that,and I'm sure she noticed that,one time she said to me "why are you bad?it's summer,just have some fun") Or maybe she expect i do my first step in the real life,physically,face to face?Im really sad and i cant see a way out. She s steadily in my mind... i will see her again in August in holidays.She never told to me about my famous (and so stupid)message.What sould I do?Maybe I should try a physical approach in a private moment ?(I never had a real physic approach wit her...)I should just talk to her and explain everything by the beginning?(but she already knows...)Or i should let her be bygone?I already know I can't do this...so maybe I will try however the first hypothesis...Do not consider me only a stubborn.Usually feelings and emotions cant break down me..i used to be always very strong in hard times too...but in this situation is different.Thanks if you read everything and please try to give me an help,for me was important to recap this story and give you a full picture of my problem.Wish you all the best. Edited June 17, 2015 by AnotherChance
Gloria25 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 (edited) Paragraphs might help you get more responses because people can read your OP better... Ok, read it.... I'm very concerned that you have so much emotion invested in another person at your young age. Do you have other ways to fill this emotional void (ie strong family ties, friends, activities, sports, hobbies, etc)? Yes, people - especially people we fancy - give us goosebumps and all that, but you are quite entralled/attached to someone you barely know. I suggest you talk to her and make her a friend. When we stop idolizing someone and actually engage them, with time anxiety will go down. Also, I guarantee with you being 16, this girl WILL NOT be the woman you marry one day and have kids with. Use this opportunity to learn how to speak/deal with women you are attracted to w/o the pressures of sex. So yes, speak to her...find out if she's into something you're into (ie sports, hobbies) or shoot, invite her to do a hobby, sport, and/or volunteering. If you two click, then in time you can probably take her to the movies and/or out for ice cream. Relax...breathe...and paragraphs... Edited June 17, 2015 by Gloria25
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