Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 That's pretty much where I'd leave it frankly. I'd forget about this guy OP. Alrighty then.
Popsicle Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I hear ya. It's also an extremely small office. I tend to avoid too, so I understand. I just wish things had gone differently. Really? How do you wish it would have gone exactly? What would have happened in your ideal world? I am interested in your thoughts because you remind me of someone I know.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 Really? How do you wish it would have gone exactly? What would have happened in your ideal world? I am interested in your thoughts because you remind me of someone I know. What I mean is I wish we never worked together and knew each other in some other time/space. He seemed like a pretty decent guy. Anything wrong with that?
Popsicle Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) What I mean is I wish we never worked together and knew each other in some other time/space. He seemed like a pretty decent guy. Anything wrong with that? In other words, you wish you never worked together and he pursued you in the same fashion he did before... No, nothing is wrong with that You know, if you behaved so disinterested towards him, he probably believed it and his feelings were hurt. . Edited June 18, 2015 by Popsicle 1
HansonGirl Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) Right, but how do I ease into that being as though I never really talked to him before? He might brand me a weirdo! How do you know he likes you though? I wouldn't go full on out admit you like him immediately then. maybe contact him and say i heard you left the company, that's too bad we didn't really get a chance to get to know each other. or maybe get another friend to organize a group get-together or a goodbye party for this guy, and that way you will be able to talk to him there. EDIT: I was just reading back over this thread wait ok, so you are saying he asked you out and you rejected him? and you are POSITIVE he left the company because he couldn't bare working along side you? Are you sure about that last part or is that someone speculating? I am just a LITTLE confused about how you have never spoken to him yet he was trying to go out with you and was pursuing you. Can you please start from the beginning of the story? tell us exactly your interactions and what he was doing to show he wanted to go out with you? Edited June 18, 2015 by HansonGirl 1
Lois_Griffin Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 It's pretty doubtful this guy gave up his job and found a job elsewhere just because you turned him down. Your friend is scraping the bottom of the barrel, coming up with that nonsense. Furthermore, if he WAS that "broken up" about you turning him down that it forced him to leave and get another job, I would think he'd be jumping for joy to hear from you - not turning you down as you think he will. I think your friend has a vivid imagination. 1
sandylee1 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 I'd think they were so into you and couldn't handle seeing you every day. They've taken the rejection pretty hard and it Probably hurt or embarrassed them to keep seeing you. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) How do you know he likes you though? I wouldn't go full on out admit you like him immediately then. maybe contact him and say i heard you left the company, that's too bad we didn't really get a chance to get to know each other. or maybe get another friend to organize a group get-together or a goodbye party for this guy, and that way you will be able to talk to him there. EDIT: I was just reading back over this thread wait ok, so you are saying he asked you out and you rejected him? and you are POSITIVE he left the company because he couldn't bare working along side you? Are you sure about that last part or is that someone speculating? I am just a LITTLE confused about how you have never spoken to him yet he was trying to go out with you and was pursuing you. Can you please start from the beginning of the story? tell us exactly your interactions and what he was doing to show he wanted to go out with you? No, we work at the same company. I was there on his last day. Other co-workers had a little party for him. I stayed in the back working. After the shindig, he came to where I was sitting acting like he was looking for something and I wished him luck. As for him liking me, here are a few things that he did that made me believe there was some interest?... Valentine's Day of last year while I was distracted on the phone, he set a piece of candy down in front of me (had a strange feeling all day in my stomach that if he got me alone, he would do something). I said nothing about the candy (not even after I got off the phone) because my mind was elsewhere and it just didn't mean much because at this point, he just wasn't on my radar. Wasn't thinking about him in that way. Same night he also asked me what I was doing that evening, and I admit, I gave him 'tude and told him that I was going home to do something. Another night he waited to give me a ride to the train (I could feel that he had been wanting to do this for a while). During the ride, I was talkative, but kept things strictly professional. He seemed annoyed when he dropped me off. He would posture a lot, and even started coming in early all nicely dressed with an excited look on his face when he would see me. Would get all happy and peppy like a kid with candy when I did talk to him. He would literally be all over the place, laugh at my unfunny jokes. He would always give me adoring looks and he clenches up and turns red when I come near him, would always sit next to me during company functions. stare incessantly...started staring and smiling while holding eye contact, until I would get nervous and walk away, staring at my hair/around my face when were up close, would check out my clothes, shoes. would always try to engage me in conversation. Would ask not only about work, but personal interests as well. I was usually abrupt. Would have an angry look on his face/exhibit disappointment whenever I talked to other males, ignored him, would hang his head sometimes when he would see me. That's just some stuff. I won't bore you with all of the details. He and I are also both very shy but it warmed my heart when I saw that he was trying(?) to connect(?) I felt like I should have made more of an effort but, I guess I blew it. I started to put distance between us because my attraction for him started to grow, and of course, because we worked together. Also, he is very popular with the female species (funny, smart, handsome...) and my insecurities often got the better of me even though there was a clear difference in the way he interacted with me from the rest. I could sometimes even hear him making that deep breathe in/hissing sound when I would walk by. yiiiiikes Edited June 18, 2015 by LoveIsABattlefield36
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 It's pretty doubtful this guy gave up his job and found a job elsewhere just because you turned him down. Your friend is scraping the bottom of the barrel, coming up with that nonsense. Furthermore, if he WAS that "broken up" about you turning him down that it forced him to leave and get another job, I would think he'd be jumping for joy to hear from you - not turning you down as you think he will. I think your friend has a vivid imagination. I hear you and I don't plan to contact him. I put some more details up however, see my post above. Do you think there was some interest? And I know even if he was interested, and although my friend told me he left because of me, doesn't have to mean it's true.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 In other words, you wish you never worked together and he pursued you in the same fashion he did before... No, nothing is wrong with that You know, if you behaved so disinterested towards him, he probably believed it and his feelings were hurt. . I put more details of his actions towards me a few posts above. You're right. Now that I reflect, I was such an ass. Why do we always have these revelations when it's too late???
Popsicle Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 If you don't plan to ever contact him (because you're scared), I don't know why you even waste your time thinking about him and all of this. You can think about your feelings and his feelings all day long, but you never plan to do anything about it, then it's pointless. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 If you don't plan to ever contact him (because you're scared), I don't know why you even waste your time thinking about him and all of this. You can think about your feelings and his feelings all day long, but you never plan to do anything about it, then it's pointless. I agree, but he's already in my head. *shrugs* guess this is just my way of getting him out of my system...talking about it.
Popsicle Posted June 20, 2015 Posted June 20, 2015 I agree, but he's already in my head. *shrugs* guess this is just my way of getting him out of my system...talking about it. People like you fascinate me. It's like it's clear that you want love and affection, yet when it's offered to you, you fight it... 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 20, 2015 Author Posted June 20, 2015 People like you fascinate me. It's like it's clear that you want love and affection, yet when it's offered to you, you fight it... Does it sound like the universe was bringing me love and affection. Sometimes I get so confused.
Popsicle Posted June 20, 2015 Posted June 20, 2015 Does it sound like the universe was bringing me love and affection. Sometimes I get so confused. Yes. Popsicle. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 20, 2015 Author Posted June 20, 2015 Yes. Popsicle. Thanks Popsicle.
preraph Posted June 20, 2015 Posted June 20, 2015 If you are the person who wouldn't date them because of common sense and you like the person romantically and you are both single and unattached, then by all means contact him now that you're not working together. If you are the person who left the company and are just hoping she actually misses you, then do not contact the person. That would be her move. 3
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 21, 2015 Author Posted June 21, 2015 If you are the person who wouldn't date them because of common sense and you like the person romantically and you are both single and unattached, then by all means contact him now that you're not working together. If you are the person who left the company and are just hoping she actually misses you, then do not contact the person. That would be her move. That's a lot of pressure.
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