LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it?
alphamale Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? if they liked their job and the company and still left, i would think they are stupid. 4
MissBee Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? LMAO! I would think they were a simpleton to leave their job because I wouldn't date them. I mean seriously. They need to get their priorities together. If they left because of you and if you didn't date them because you don't like to date coworkers, now you don't work together, so there's your chance to date them. 1
katiegrl Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I don't think I would be so presumptuous in assuming he left because I would not date him...unless he told me he was leaving because I wouldn't date him....is that what happened? If not, then maybe he left for other reasons... another job, didn't like his boss, the work, it could be anything. In any event, stop being chicken and say hi on FB. Not sure why you are stressing about...it's just a "hi." See what unfolds, maybe he will ask you out! I mean, now that you no longer work at the same company. Good luck!
TheBathWater Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? I established for myself your same policy several years ago. When someone I'm interested in leaves the company though, I absolutely ask them out. I think you should hit this person up on facebook if you are interested. 2
Popsicle Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? Now that they left and are feeling dejected, I think you SHOULD contact them via FB or whatever if you like them. The onus is on you now. 1
HansonGirl Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? first of all, if that happened I would think wow, they really liked me, and I would totally go for it and contact them!! i would tell them i like them too and now that they don't work there, we can go out! 2
Emilia Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 if they liked their job and the company and still left, i would think they are stupid. A couple of the girls in my previous work slept with a guy each. Didn't work out and the women left, the men stayed. Sod that man, I'd rather kick a guy's chair every time I passed it than give up a lucrative job. You've got to be kidding me 2
Toodaloo Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Holy crap thats sad Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? Probably And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Oh dear God... the drama of it all... I am running out of popcorn Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? Sounds to me as though the pair of you are way to young and have way too much baggage... Did they leave to go and work else where or just leave? Its really dumb to quit your job like that. And shows a potential lack of responsible behaviour... 1
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If A co-worker that liked you left the company because you wouldn't date them, what would you think? Are they emotionally/mentally unstable? And you didn't date them because you live by the code; " don't get your honey where you get your money", and not because the feelings weren't mutual. Besides, you are very, very shy and never reciprocated their many advances to talk, hang out, etc. Now you are missing them like hell and are too afraid to contact them via FB? Anyone ever experience this? Or left their job because of a co-worker they liked? How did you handle it? How do you know that's the reason they left? They told you that? Either way, I'd leave it alone. If you've never reciprocated their advances and never really had a conversation with them, I'm wondering how you know all this. You would have had to engage them in some way in order to know what you know. That being said, you likely sent mixed messages and even if you contact them now, they won't be able to trust. Nevertheless, them leaving their job over it, is at best, extreme. 1
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 LMAO! I would think they were a simpleton to leave their job because I wouldn't date them. I mean seriously. They need to get their priorities together. If they left because of you and if you didn't date them because you don't like to date coworkers, now you don't work together, so there's your chance to date them. I would like to date him but just scared to contact him.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 I don't think I would be so presumptuous in assuming he left because I would not date him...unless he told me he was leaving because I wouldn't date him....is that what happened? If not, then maybe he left for other reasons... another job, didn't like his boss, the work, it could be anything. In any event, stop being chicken and say hi on FB. Not sure why you are stressing about...it's just a "hi." See what unfolds, maybe he will ask you out! I mean, now that you no longer work at the same company. Good luck! Well, I heard from a friend, but, who knows! Thanks for the well wishes!
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 I established for myself your same policy several years ago. When someone I'm interested in leaves the company though, I absolutely ask them out. I think you should hit this person up on facebook if you are interested. Aye! But he might think I'm an idiot? Because I never really interacted with him before? Then to just hit him up on FB like that???
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 first of all, if that happened I would think wow, they really liked me, and I would totally go for it and contact them!! i would tell them i like them too and now that they don't work there, we can go out! Right, but how do I ease into that being as though I never really talked to him before? He might brand me a weirdo!
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 Sounds to me as though the pair of you are way to young and have way too much baggage... Did they leave to go and work else where or just leave? Its really dumb to quit your job like that. And shows a potential lack of responsible behaviour... Weird, it was kinda like HS but I try to stay detached from it all.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 How do you know that's the reason they left? They told you that? Either way, I'd leave it alone. If you've never reciprocated their advances and never really had a conversation with them, I'm wondering how you know all this. You would have had to engage them in some way in order to know what you know. That being said, you likely sent mixed messages and even if you contact them now, they won't be able to trust. Nevertheless, them leaving their job over it, is at best, extreme. A friend told me but, who knows. Really, you don't think he would trust me? Even if I explained myself?
SomeDude16 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 (edited) What would u think?? How can I get a restraining order 'cause this will not end well... Something like that may seem flattering but it's a move way outside reality. Edited June 17, 2015 by jab116 1
MissBee Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I would like to date him but just scared to contact him. What are you scared of? Also how do you know he left the job because of you? 1
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 A friend told me but, who knows. Really, you don't think he would trust me? Even if I explained myself? I guess the reality is that you don't have anything to lose. But, him leaving because of it kinda is a little bit of a flag to me. He runs away from uncomfortable situations to the point of giving up a job? Eh. That is avoidance to a spectacular degree. 5
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 What would u think?? How can I get a restraining order 'cause this will not end well... Something like that may seem flattering but it's a move way outside reality. Really? Jeez, why do I attract all the crazies.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 What are you scared of? Also how do you know he left the job because of you? Afraid he may reject me. A friend told me.
Author LoveIsABattlefield36 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 I guess the reality is that you don't have anything to lose. But, him leaving because of it kinda is a little bit of a flag to me. He runs away from uncomfortable situations to the point of giving up a job? Eh. That is avoidance to a spectacular degree. I hear ya. It's also an extremely small office. I tend to avoid too, so I understand. I just wish things had gone differently.
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 (edited) I hear ya. It's also an extremely small office. I tend to avoid too, so I understand. I just wish things had gone differently. Your friend should have just minded her own business . . . let it go. If he was so enamored with you, he would have contacted you by now himself. Really, the only way it would make sense for him to leave is if he did it because of the "don't --hit where you eat thing so that that wouldn't be an issue and then contact you again. He knows how to reach you. Edited June 17, 2015 by Redhead14
TunaCat Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 This is insane. Why would anyone male or female leave a job because one of their co-workers wouldn't go out with them? I would think that their priorities are very screwed up.That alone would dissuade me from ever wanting to date them. 2
MissBee Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 This is insane. Why would anyone male or female leave a job because one of their co-workers wouldn't go out with them? I would think that their priorities are very screwed up.That alone would dissuade me from ever wanting to date them. That's pretty much where I'd leave it frankly. I'd forget about this guy OP. 1
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