JJCaliGirl Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 A man I've seen a few times continuously wears athletic shorts and a t-shirt on dates. Actually, several men I've dated have done this. None of them are heavy to justify the elastic waist. At least one of these men asked what I was wearing to make sure I dressed appropriately (red flag and just one of the many things I dislike about him), but yet he wouldn't put any effort forward himself. I've wondered this for years when a former boss would tell me how the women would dress to the nines in her home country, but when I visited, I saw women dresses beautifully, but men wearing jeans and futbol (soccer) jerseys. Why is this? Why do some men expect their women to dress fashionably, but yet look nearly like slobs? Is it just me and the area of the country I live in? Oh disclaimer, we went out to dinner normal restaurants, nothing super fancy, and in retrospect, I would've been much happier in a t-shirt and jeans instead of in a skirt and pretty top. We also would have dinner and movies at his place and he would ask me to dress more than just casual. 1
jen1447 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 That's a little odd ....he asks you to dress up a bit but he shows up in his frumpy crap? Usually bad dressers don't care about how anyone dresses. Um ....does this guy even have a regular wardrobe? btw my most disliked date outfit is a sports team shirt. I don't want to see that sh*t unless we're going to a game, and not even really then. If you want to wear your 'uniform,' do it at home where no one can see you. 2
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Date different men. usually I was meeting professional men after work. Most wore a suit. At the very least they had on khakis & a golf shirt with a sports jacket. This includes the few guys I met off OLD. 1
leavesonautumn Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 A man I've seen a few times continuously wears athletic shorts and a t-shirt on dates. Actually, several men I've dated have done this. None of them are heavy to justify the elastic waist. At least one of these men asked what I was wearing to make sure I dressed appropriately (red flag and just one of the many things I dislike about him), but yet he wouldn't put any effort forward himself. I've wondered this for years when a former boss would tell me how the women would dress to the nines in her home country, but when I visited, I saw women dresses beautifully, but men wearing jeans and futbol (soccer) jerseys. Why is this? Why do some men expect their women to dress fashionably, but yet look nearly like slobs? Is it just me and the area of the country I live in? Oh disclaimer, we went out to dinner normal restaurants, nothing super fancy, and in retrospect, I would've been much happier in a t-shirt and jeans instead of in a skirt and pretty top. We also would have dinner and movies at his place and he would ask me to dress more than just casual. Gross. If a guy ever asked me to dress a certain way I would bail so fast. If someone tells you what to wear or how to wear your make up then they don't like/love you for who you are, they like an image. I'm SO thankful I've never been with a guy who cared that much about how I dress. Not that I'm a slob but I am usually pretty casual. Jeans with a nice blouse is what I wear and have never heard a complaint from a boyfriend. On one of the first movie dates with my ex I wore a baggy sweater tunic over leggings and he couldn't keep his hands off of me haha. Unless there is a specific dress code for whatever event you'll be at, there's no reason to do it. I live in a city that's known for being super casual and I've only lived in small towns before living here so that may have something to do with my feelings on the matter. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 It's funny. As a personal trainer, I spend the majority of my time in shorts, athletic pants, t-shirts, sweats, etc.. One of my favorite aspects is that I'll never have to wear a suit to work. Also, I am not very fashionable at all and hate to shop. But when I go out on dates, I will at least wear a nice pair of jeans and a decent shirt. 3
MissBee Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 (edited) A man I've seen a few times continuously wears athletic shorts and a t-shirt on dates. Actually, several men I've dated have done this. None of them are heavy to justify the elastic waist. At least one of these men asked what I was wearing to make sure I dressed appropriately (red flag and just one of the many things I dislike about him), but yet he wouldn't put any effort forward himself. I've wondered this for years when a former boss would tell me how the women would dress to the nines in her home country, but when I visited, I saw women dresses beautifully, but men wearing jeans and futbol (soccer) jerseys. Why is this? Why do some men expect their women to dress fashionably, but yet look nearly like slobs? Is it just me and the area of the country I live in? Oh disclaimer, we went out to dinner normal restaurants, nothing super fancy, and in retrospect, I would've been much happier in a t-shirt and jeans instead of in a skirt and pretty top. We also would have dinner and movies at his place and he would ask me to dress more than just casual. It would be a red flag for someone to ask me to dress up or dress in a particular way when I don't even know them and we're not together and worse if I do it but they aren't dressed up themselves. I like to be well put together in general and especially on a first date I go the extra mile and appreciate a man who does the same. Especially if I'm excited and it wasn't last minute, I pick out my outfit, my hair is done, my nails are done, my brows are waxed, my make-up is done, I look good and I smell good so I expect the man I'm out with to also look like he gave two shyts and to look good and smell good. For men it's SO EASY...I don't understand why any man dresses badly. Literally, get a collared button down, iron it, get some dark wash jeans, some dress shoes, get a hair cut, and that's literally ALL you have to do to look put together. If a man showed up in t-shirt and athletic shorts I would be turned off, unless we have a date to the gym or something of that nature. But if we're going to a restaurant or something else, no way. You're an adult. If you don't know what's appropriate then let's not even bother. Thankfully most men I've gone out with had good sense and dressed well. I remember one of my horrible dates, I was dressed to the nines, I suggested the restaurant since he was coming to my area, it was a nice restaurant, not 5 star but upscale enough, and he arrives in dirty khakis and a washed out t-shirt and ratty old sneakers. I was so embarrassed. He then asked if we could go to IHOP before we even headed to the restaurant and I was all too thrilled because there was no way I was even showing up at that other place with him, we went to IHOP and I paid for my own meal and never saw him again. Add to the awkwardness he kept complimenting me on my possessions : he kept saying, "Nice watch, looks expensive" "Nice phone" "Nice bracelet" I was like wtf...is he sizing me up to rob me or what??! Usually a man compliments your appearance not your possessions! Edited June 16, 2015 by MissBee 1
Author JJCaliGirl Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 It would be a red flag for someone to ask me to dress up or dress in a particular way when I don't even know them and we're not together and worse if I do it but they aren't dressed up themselves. I like to be well put together in general and especially on a first date I go the extra mile and appreciate a man who does the same. Especially if I'm excited and it wasn't last minute, I pick out my outfit, my hair is done, my nails are done, my brows are waxed, my make-up is done, I look good and I smell good so I expect the man I'm out with to also look like he gave two shyts and to look good and smell good. For men it's SO EASY...I don't understand why any man dresses badly. Literally, get a collared button down, iron it, get some dark wash jeans, some dress shoes, get a hair cut, and that's literally ALL you have to do to look put together. If a man showed up in t-shirt and athletic shorts I would be turned off, unless we have a date to the gym or something of that nature. But if we're going to a restaurant or something else, no way. You're an adult. If you don't know what's appropriate then let's not even bother. Thankfully most men I've gone out with had good sense and dressed well. I don't mind dressing nice which is why I did it, but I would at least my effort to be reciprocated in the way my date dressed too. I'm not seeing the guy(s) anymore, but I thought it was worth mentioning here to see if anyone ever had the same experience or if I just happened to be the lucky one to find all the men who don't care about their appearance on dates. Um ....does this guy even have a regular wardrobe? I have no idea. When I saw his closet from afar, I saw books and movies in it. I'm sure there were clothes that weren't visible to me. And he also wore a polo shirt and nice jeans on our first date, so there has to be something else other than athletic clothing...I guess.
Author JJCaliGirl Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 But when I go out on dates, I will at least wear a nice pair of jeans and a decent shirt. What about it when you have a stay at home date? Do you dress down? And if you do, do you tell your date to be casual as well?
Ruby Slippers Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I think decent pants and a t-shirt should be the minimum male attire for a date. Beyond that, it's meaningless. My last boyfriend was dressed in sexy, perfectly fitted, designer threads on our first date, and he turned out to be arrogant, rather selfish in bed, and kind of a jerk. My new man wore basic attire and in a very short time, in terms of the way he treats me, has already danced circles around the snazzy dresser.
candie13 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I agree, fancy dressers - at least those I met - were usually selfish and self centered. However men with no sense of fashion are the worst... I mean, maybe they're good guys, just... have some common sense, please!!!
Haydn Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Chelsea tops never let me down. Especially the white away top..... Pair of low tops........ 1
Gaeta Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 To you it may appear frumpy but to him maybe he's fashionable within his style. Soccer jerseys are really trendy these days and are sold at $75 a piece for a brand name. Is it what he's wearing?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Some men are just clueless I guess.... If we were going to a restaurant that was somewhat upscale, I would at least have the common sense to check it out on yelp to see what I should wear Lol. Oh well, I'm not complaining, these clueless Men make my life easier!
Author JJCaliGirl Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 To you it may appear frumpy but to him maybe he's fashionable within his style. Soccer jerseys are really trendy these days and are sold at $75 a piece for a brand name. Is it what he's wearing? The soccer jersey is what I observed in Europe. I don't think it would've been nearly as obvious had a former manager not commented on how trendy and fashionable people dressed in Europe. As for the guys I mentioned, think Hanes t-shirts and Nike/Adidas/Fila/Under Armor shorts. I'm not shallow but found it funny they asked me to dress a certain way or expected it all the while wearing gym clothing.
candie13 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 The soccer jersey is what I observed in Europe. I don't think it would've been nearly as obvious had a former manager not commented on how trendy and fashionable people dressed in Europe. I live in Europe, no they're NOT. It's poor taste, simple as that. And no amount of cash can make up for that - if the shirt is 75 or 100 or 150 USD. Can't buy taste with $$$. As for the guys I mentioned, think Hanes t-shirts and Nike/Adidas/Fila/Under Armor shorts. :eek: don't mean to be horribly superficial... but why ? why? why ?
Author JJCaliGirl Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 I live in Europe, no they're NOT. It's poor taste, simple as that. And no amount of cash can make up for that - if the shirt is 75 or 100 or 150 USD. Can't buy taste with $$$. :eek: don't mean to be horribly superficial... but why ? why? why ? Oh I'm not saying the soccer jerseys are hot fashion , but what I saw when I was there. It made me confused with what my former manager said. Perhaps, she and I thought differently. I was actually expecting to see nothing but designer clothing by what she said. Yes, women did dress nice but their men, jerseys and jeans or sweats.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 What about it when you have a stay at home date? Do you dress down? And if you do, do you tell your date to be casual as well? Well I won't lie. I appreciate a woman that wears a skirt or a dress/heels from time to time. I mean when a woman has a great body, it's a shame to hide it. Plus nothing is hotter than her wanting attention from me. But if it's a really casual staying in date, she could show up in PJ's for all I care. Sooner or later, I am gonna have all her clothes ripped off anyways. Haha
Haydn Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 I live in Europe, no they're NOT. It's poor taste, simple as that. And no amount of cash can make up for that - if the shirt is 75 or 100 or 150 USD. Can't buy taste with $$$. :eek: don't mean to be horribly superficial... but why ? why? why ? Replica designer footy tops are effortlessly fashionable. Especially the Low key ones. Very popular in Central Europe where boys and girls follow premier league football. They a tailored fit these days. Chelsea have a wide range of these. Obviously if you support Luton town........then no.
candie13 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Replica designer footy tops are effortlessly fashionable. Especially the Low key ones. Very popular in Central Europe where boys and girls follow premier league football. They a tailored fit these days. Chelsea have a wide range of these. Obviously if you support Luton town........then no. my point is: they may be popular, but no, they are not fashionable. One can say that me and sports - that's 2 people. I cannot not associate soccer jerseys with those big brand tshirts - and that makes me think of a certain category of men - low education, in your face, no knowledge as to how to at least stay on the safe side of fashion. Something like being an ignorant and screaming to the world about it. They actually make me feel uncomfortable. if going to a soccer match - ok. As for men telling women what to wear: it depends on how it's done. If a man tells me to wear heels on a date with him, I won't comment or have a fit. I'll simply show up in baggy trousers and flats for sure. I should be enough for a date with him. I decide the pace of the RS, what I'm wearing, when and why. If we are seeing eachother and I see he loves to show me off and we're going to meet people and he sort of suggests that I wear a certain dress, because he thinks I'm sexy in it... who am I to not please my man ? 1
Haydn Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 my point is: they may be popular, but no, they are not fashionable. One can say that me and sports - that's 2 people. I cannot not associate soccer jerseys with those big brand tshirts - and that makes me think of a certain category of men - low education, in your face, no knowledge as to how to at least stay on the safe side of fashion. Something like being an ignorant and screaming to the world about it. They actually make me feel uncomfortable. if going to a soccer match - ok. As for men telling women what to wear: it depends on how it's done. If a man tells me to wear heels on a date with him, I won't comment or have a fit. I'll simply show up in baggy trousers and flats for sure. I should be enough for a date with him. I decide the pace of the RS, what I'm wearing, when and why. If we are seeing eachother and I see he loves to show me off and we're going to meet people and he sort of suggests that I wear a certain dress, because he thinks I'm sexy in it... who am I to not please my man ? Errr, quite a lot of us are well educated. Chelsea has loads of girls who wear their colours as fashion. What`s the safe side of fashion? But i think we are talking about meeting someone for a first date? Online dating? Every girl i have met has been in a social setting so what i was wearing how they first saw me and vice versa. If i happened to be wearing a classic Argentine retro top then they never voiced a concern....... Indeed a few months later these kinds of tops were `borrowed` by them. Or if i was wearing a simple Black t shirt........... I guess if you are meeting someone on an arranged date for the first time then yes it is different. But i would rather meet someone in what they normally wear......
candie13 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 safe side of fashion is when you stick to plain tshirts or shirts as to not to make a fashion faux pas. I think it's relatively easy for men to stay safe. In a sense, I get your comment, it's the attitude and how you wear that dreaded tshirt, on top of the subjects of conversation.
Radu Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Oh I'm not saying the soccer jerseys are hot fashion , but what I saw when I was there. It made me confused with what my former manager said. Perhaps, she and I thought differently. I was actually expecting to see nothing but designer clothing by what she said. Yes, women did dress nice but their men, jerseys and jeans or sweats. Depends where in Europe. Italians dress great, especially in the North.
Radu Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Errr, quite a lot of us are well educated. Chelsea has loads of girls who wear their colours as fashion. What`s the safe side of fashion? But i think we are talking about meeting someone for a first date? Online dating? Every girl i have met has been in a social setting so what i was wearing how they first saw me and vice versa. If i happened to be wearing a classic Argentine retro top then they never voiced a concern....... Indeed a few months later these kinds of tops were `borrowed` by them. Or if i was wearing a simple Black t shirt........... I guess if you are meeting someone on an arranged date for the first time then yes it is different. But i would rather meet someone in what they normally wear...... Good question ... I like to dress in the most comfortable wear possible, and i do not color coordinate. Judging by what candie said, she should have no problem with how i present myself on the 1st date; and if she asks for a good outfit, i shall come in my most moth-eaten shirt !!!
candie13 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Good question ... Judging by what candie said, she should have no problem with how i present myself on the 1st date; and if she asks for a good outfit, i shall come in my most moth-eaten shirt !!! I'm a sucker for moth-eaten shirts, careful, Radu !!
Stupid Sexy Flanders Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 A man I've seen a few times continuously wears athletic shorts and a t-shirt on dates. Actually, several men I've dated have done this. None of them are heavy to justify the elastic waist. At least one of these men asked what I was wearing to make sure I dressed appropriately (red flag and just one of the many things I dislike about him), but yet he wouldn't put any effort forward himself. I've wondered this for years when a former boss would tell me how the women would dress to the nines in her home country, but when I visited, I saw women dresses beautifully, but men wearing jeans and futbol (soccer) jerseys. Why is this? Why do some men expect their women to dress fashionably, but yet look nearly like slobs? Is it just me and the area of the country I live in? Oh disclaimer, we went out to dinner normal restaurants, nothing super fancy, and in retrospect, I would've been much happier in a t-shirt and jeans instead of in a skirt and pretty top. We also would have dinner and movies at his place and he would ask me to dress more than just casual. Speaking only for myself, I couldn't care less what a woman wears, because I prefer casual over formal myself. She could show up in scrubs, and I'd likely like her even more for not giving a damn. Most people's priorities are completely warped.
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