truncated Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 If you are a married man or woman, and you feel your marriage is a happy one, what do you think makes it so? If your days are busy because of work, the kids or something else, what do you do to reconnect with each other every day? Did you go into the marriage with a realistic expectation of what it would be like, or was your head sort of in the clouds? If so, how did you come back down to earth in a way that leaves you satisfied with married life?
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Ours is a happy marriage. We talk. Even when we disagree we try not to be disagreeable. We make each other laugh. We make time to play together in & out of the bedroom. We continue to date. We trust each other. 3
cocorico Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 If you are a married man or woman, and you feel your marriage is a happy one, what do you think makes it so? We enjoy each other's company, prioritise our relationship, love and respect each other. And we have a great deal of fun together. If your days are busy because of work, the kids or something else, what do you do to reconnect with each other every day? We both mostly work from home, so tend to spend much time together anyway, but we always make time for each other, just to talk, to touch, to listen, to make love, to eat together, to read to each other, to dance. Did you go into the marriage with a realistic expectation of what it would be like, or was your head sort of in the clouds? If so, how did you come back down to earth in a way that leaves you satisfied with married life? We had both been married before - so we knew how awful it could be. Because of this, we went in with our eyes wide open. We knew we'd have his kids with us for a few years, and that that would bring its own demands, and we knew his xW would likely snipe from the wings, but we underestimated how long she'd take to get over it or the extent to which she would go to inflict misery all round. How we dealt with that was simply by speaking to people honestly, letting them know what the situation was, and by allowing the kids to have progressively less and less to do with her, as they chose, and not forcing them into a relationship with her that they didn't want. While she has been a nuisance, she has never been a threat - we've always both known where we stood, and we stood together as a family. We allowed the kids to express their feelings but never bad mouthed her ourselves. They were old enough to make up their own minds. With the kids grown and left, our lives are our own, and we love every single day together. 2
Mr Carson Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 We communicate well and also give each other space, we love to be together but don't hold the other back. One thing my wife has always loved is when she goes out with a friend I never call questioning where, when, how much longer? She has friends who's H's call every hour and drive them nuts it's like they can't do anything without W's help. Supporting each others passions or dreams is a big one also. My wife wanted to start a business and I supported her whole heatedly. I'm smart enough to know if I tried to hold her back for selfish reasons it could have detrimental consequences in our marriage. Plus I want her to grow and be the best person she can be because then she will be happy, and if mama's happy... 1
Author truncated Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 For us, we've been married a fairly long time, and the nice thing is that it has never been work. I do the things I do for him because I want him to be happy, and he reciprocates. We've also stood by one another through some very tough times, and encourage one another to pursue their goals and find new parts of themselves. I encouraged my husband to paint, and he has gotten quite good at it and sold some of his work, and he encouraged me to write, and I've gotten good at that and been able to make a career out of it. We also really do think the same way about a lot of things and have fun together. Sometimes that can mean making something as bland as a trip to the grocery store fun. We act like a couple of teenagers and even hold hands while we shop. 2
central Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Being compatible makes it easy. Add in a sincere desire to help each other be happy and feel safe, show and say appreciation and love, support each other in growing, learning and achieving goals, and give each other the benefit of the doubt when something goes wrong (and kindly talk to each other). 1
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