jessyy Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 I am just curious here. If your partner says that they aren't "IN" love with you anymore and you break up... can the "IN" love feelings come back with no contact or being apart?
Tayla Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 My grand daddy used to say, Gee darlin, When you were "IN" diapers you wanted to be out of them, Now that you are out of them, Hows Life? - There's your answer. 2
Satu Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Being 'In love' is a temporary state, which often consists of nothing more than infatuation. People can 'fall' in and out of love, ten times in a year if it's an experience they crave. Real love can last a lifetime, and very often does. Nobody 'falls into,' or out of real love. What is real love? Go find out 1
minimariah Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 don't really know if the feelings can come back or not... but when someone tells you that they love you but aren't IN love with you -- it usually means that they don't love you, that they're about to break up with you & don't plan on getting back together. just from my experience. so be prepared for the worst scenario. 2
leavesonautumn Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Honestly, I take the words themselves with a grain of salt in general. Not from being in denial or not believeing the person but because they are just words. People can also say "I love you" when they don't mean it. They can say "wow, that dress looks great on on you" if it doesn't. I had been "in" and "out" of love with the same person for 5 years but I didn't break up with them because I loved that person and realized that the feelings fluctuate - it's quite a common phenomenon and people say it because there's nothing else to say to describe it. It could mean the passion has died down a bit and they don't want to work on rebuilding it. It could also mean that they no longer see you as a romantic partner but as a friend or roomate or worse, they feel neutral. Sometimes so much bad has happened that you don't see the person quite the same. Being "in love" or loving someone is an action. You can say literally anything you want to someone but you need to back it up. If I break up with someone, I keep love out of it and just tell them I don't want to be with them anymore. 2
jen1447 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 It's tough to get the feelings back bc usually when someone says that to you there's some contempt that goes along with it that they're not telling you about. So you have to get past the contempt, then re-seduce them. That's a tall order. It can be done superficially but that's usually the domain of players. 1
Satu Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 If someone tells you that they don't love you anymore, it usually means that they never did.
Author jessyy Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 Being 'In love' is a temporary state, which often consists of nothing more than infatuation. People can 'fall' in and out of love, ten times in a year if it's an experience they crave. Real love can last a lifetime, and very often does. Nobody 'falls into,' or out of real love. What is real love? Go find out THAT IS WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!! Thank God someone with brains!! My ex said he fell out of love with me and I told him the exact thing you told me because people fall in and out of love all the time. BUT I think he has the green grass syndrome because I was his first real lasting relationship and first love and he wants to explore and compare. It is a shame but oh well moving on! I won't be there when he gets back from he adventure. 2
Author jessyy Posted June 16, 2015 Author Posted June 16, 2015 It's tough to get the feelings back bc usually when someone says that to you there's some contempt that goes along with it that they're not telling you about. So you have to get past the contempt, then re-seduce them. That's a tall order. It can be done superficially but that's usually the domain of players. He wants to explore because I am his first real lasting relationship and we have been together for 4 years .. he is a young very attractive male who has been getting a lot of attention at work and he never had the college experience nor much life/relationship experience so I think he is using that as an excuse to see what else is out there. Whomp whomp.
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