Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 Not able to keep up with my words.. Feel f****** crying..
Familia Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Not able to keep up with my words.. Feel f****** crying.. Hang in there mate, I can feel your pain and share it with you. I am going through very similar
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 Hang in there mate, I can feel your pain and share it with you. I am going through very similar I feel so lost without her..im in office and its affecting my work
Chi townD Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Yep! Our Ex's are literally like a drug and you are an addict trying to get clean. And you are now going through withdrawl symptoms that are NO DIFFERENT! Can't eat, can't sleep...the drug is constantly on your mind. And the treatment is exactly the same. You need to take it one day at a time. Just get through today without contacting your Ex. And then do it again tomorrow. When she contacts you, ignore it. That's going to be a hard part for you. But, when it happens, don't respond! Post about it here instead. People will be here to listen. Remember, one day at a time. 1
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 Yes brother that's what im doing..she messaged me last night..asking how i was..i didn't reply..im feeling better for now..
ravfour4 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Don't reply. Sometimes having them be the one who last texts you makes you feel powerful because you feel like you have a valid reason to respond if you want to and you can wait to respond as long as you want. 1
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 She keeps doing these messages..she did it before too..but at that time i replied.. This time i didn't.. I think what we have is salvageable..but only if she can feel that on her own..
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 (edited) In the mean time iam working on myself what hurts the most is..what if she never come s back..that thought depresses me Edited June 18, 2015 by ssandeepsingh02
ravfour4 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 You're correct in saying that if it's going to work she has to come back on her own accord. It's hard to focus on yourself and not hope she comes back, to focus on yourself solely for you. Use her as motivation to start bettering yourself and then turn the focus inward to yourself
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 I have decided that im not gonna sit on my a** and let some other dude take her away from.me..i m.going to improve myself..any advice on doing that would be helpful.. I will try to contact her after i have improved myself a bit..i don't know what's going to happen then..but im.not giving up without trying my 100%..any advice on what i should would be very helpful guys
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 I want to message her and tell her this no matter what happens in future..im.going to work on myself..correct the mistakes that i did..and try to get you back.. Im not giving up on you this easily.. Should i tell her this ?
ravfour4 Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 Everyone on this forum will tell you to just give up on her because she gave up on you. You put up with her imperfections, but she ran from yours. I'm not sure if it's our dependency on our ex gfs or our true love and determination to be there for them, but I felt the same way as you. When you last talked, did she leave knowing that you did not want the break up and that you still loved her? If so, she knows you want her and you do not need to reiterate it. What you need to do is focus on yourself - that means work out more, gain some new hobbies, put extra effort into work and into your friendships and other relationships. Do things that make you happy, that make you the best person you can be, the "ideal" you. If your friends on any social media, she'll naturally see you improving and will perhaps want you back, but you'll have to rememeber that she didn't want the you that really cared about her, she now only wants the more "fit" you. You will be the 2nd choice to this random online man. That's why folks on here will say do not fight for her. Find someone who will make and keep you their number 1. That being said, I'm not sure how many people on here are now in loving successful relationships so who knows if they're right? As far as texting her that you'll never give up - sure there's a chance it gives her butterflies and that she loves it and wants you back, but that's likely a 5% chance. I'd say 20% she looks at it and feels bad, cares about you, but doesn't love you, and that's it. 75% chance it makes you look needy and pushes her away. It's a risk that may not be worth taking. 1
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 Ya she did know that i still loved her and didn't want this break up..i'm confused right now sometimes i feel this urge to do everything i can to get her back sometimes i think it would be best to leave her alone.. And let her realize this on her own..n i get your point she already knows this that i love her..so no point in reiterating it again..thanks brother you have been very helpful.. It's s very odd that people you don't know end up helping you the most..for now..i will keep my emotions in check.. And focus on myself.. I don't make a lot of friends actually i had two friends one of them left me..she is exactly like me..i was her only true friend.. I want her back right now..coz i think i truly love her..but my head is clouded right now with high emotions..so im..not going to do anything in this state.. Thanks for the advice.. 1
Itspointless Posted June 18, 2015 Posted June 18, 2015 That's why folks on here will say do not fight for her. Find someone who will make and keep you their number 1. That being said, I'm not sure how many people on here are now in loving successful relationships so who knows if they're right? Being successful is not the point ravfour4, treating yourself with respect is, and that fortunately is also an important ingredient for a successful relationship. But you never know if the other really is on the same page or what childhood issues are hidden under the hood. Therefore respect for yourself does also mean trying to work on those issues, it makes you better capable of being there in an honest fashion and be more resilient.
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Posted June 19, 2015 i thinl i made a mistake..she texted me last night asking how i was..dint reply at that time..but after reading a post by some girl..i reply to her the next day in evening saying..i'm fine i hope you are ok..she replies im ok too..then i say good to hear tc..after that her message is..is this is how we are gonna talk ?..so formly ? i said..this is what you chose for us remember..but i replied very late she was sleeping then..she is sill sleeping..now i think i shouldn't have said anything..is the damage done..what do i say if she replies ?i know for one thing that she still cares about me no matter what and i care about her to..i don't know what to do ?
Itspointless Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 i thinl i made a mistake..she texted me last night asking how i was..dint reply at that time..but after reading a post by some girl..i reply to her the next day in evening saying..i'm fine i hope you are ok..she replies im ok too..then i say good to hear tc..after that her message is..is this is how we are gonna talk ?..so formly ? i said..this is what you chose for us remember..but i replied very late she was sleeping then..she is sill sleeping..now i think i shouldn't have said anything..is the damage done..what do i say if she replies ?i know for one thing that she still cares about me no matter what and i care about her to..i don't know what to do ? Damage no, you said it like it is. Damage yes, as it makes you feel even more anxious. If she wants to be with you, she needs to fight for you.
Author ssandeepsingh02 Posted June 20, 2015 Author Posted June 20, 2015 Talked to her..she is not gonna fight for Me..she is deeply in love with this guy..so i don't have any hope now..i just don't understand how she cal fall in love so quickly without even meeting him..but there is nothing i can do now..we were best friends so i lost a gf and a friend.. It's hard..
Itspointless Posted June 20, 2015 Posted June 20, 2015 Talked to her..she is not gonna fight for Me..she is deeply in love with this guy..so i don't have any hope now..i just don't understand how she cal fall in love so quickly without even meeting him..but there is nothing i can do now..we were best friends so i lost a gf and a friend.. It's hard.. I am afraid this feeling will stick for a while. Loosing hope is a positive thing here, hope keeps us stuck.
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