NikiTheGamer Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 (edited) We've been dating for more than 4 months now and, now that we seem to have passed through the romantic stage, I still find it difficult to talk to him. I can talk almost easily to him in private now, but for some reason whenever someone else is around neither of us can say anything! I'm not sure if it's just me, because sometimes I struggle to talk to people (usually acquaintances/ strangers) but sometimes it can feel impossible to speak with him. We rarely talk on the phone, and if we do it's to arrange stuff or find out information and the call ends within 10 mins, and when I text him he rarely replies. Is something wrong? It drives me insane when he doesn't text me back, but I try to remind myself that he has his own things to do, too. When we arrange meet-ups/dates, I usually have to ask. I don't want to complain; I really love him and he's a brilliant person, but sometimes I worry that something's missing... Thanks to all replies made Edited June 16, 2015 by NikiTheGamer
Clarence_Boddicker Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Ages? Yes him not replying to texts is not normal. Do you have social phobia?
StalwartMind Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Are you both introverted by chance? Some people just don't say much when in company of a larger group than 2. Also communication preferences is very different for each person. It's difficult to tell what exactly is creating this, but some just develop their comfort level on a very slow pace. I don't think you should go thinking about stuff that is missing, rather value what is there, and what you can build on. Not every relationship work flawlessly from the get go, but since you can speak to him in private, attempt to talk about this and how you feel about it. If he is as brilliant as you say, I don't think he'll run screaming away in fear.
Author NikiTheGamer Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 I'm 16, he's 16 in august, and we just finished GCSE. we're both planning to go back to the same school in A level. We used to see each other roughly 5 times a week (with a saturday meet-up) but maybe he's just tired from the exams/finding the transition between GCSE and the massive summer break difficult. As for social phobia, I don't think I'm overwhelmingly afraid of social situations, I'm just not used to talking to people very much and can be very anxious about things (I worry too much, which might be the simplest answer to my fears here). My boyfriend usually takes from a few minutes to a couple of hours to reply to each text (he's pretty new to the whole texting thing).
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