JennaD Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been getting into little arguments which then later escalate. A lot of which are my fault but I never thought I would lose him because we are in love. He told me yesterday that he loves me but is done. That the fights keep hurting him too much. I can't believe I hurt him like that and would love nothing more than another chance to prove to him and myself that I will cut out my insecurities that I've brought into this relationship. It wasn't until I lost him that my eyes really opened in what I was doing. I asked for another chance and he said he cannot do that right now. I asked if he is done with my forever and he said he doesn't know what will happen down the road but right now he needs space. I'm lost, confused, heart broken. I feel like it's all my fault and I don't want to lose him. What can I do?
ravfour4 Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Now that your eyes are opened, make the changes that you want to make. Focus on becoming the best you that you can be and don't rub it in his face "see!! I'm doing X Y and Z now!" Just let him observe it naturally. Also his I still love you just means that he still cares about you. Which of course he does if nothing major happened and your relationship was overall solid for the majority of it.
JewelD Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been getting into little arguments which then later escalate. A lot of which are my fault but I never thought I would lose him because we are in love. He told me yesterday that he loves me but is done. That the fights keep hurting him too much. I can't believe I hurt him like that and would love nothing more than another chance to prove to him and myself that I will cut out my insecurities that I've brought into this relationship. It wasn't until I lost him that my eyes really opened in what I was doing. I asked for another chance and he said he cannot do that right now. I asked if he is done with my forever and he said he doesn't know what will happen down the road but right now he needs space. I'm lost, confused, heart broken. I feel like it's all my fault and I don't want to lose him. What can I do? It's probably not your fault. Couples argue. That doesn't automatically mean they want to break up with each other. Plus it takes two to tango, you were both arguing with each other, so how could it be entirely your fault? Give him space. Just because you think you know what you were doing wrong doesn't mean you've changed overnight. You might get back with him and things may end up going back to the way they were. Take some time to yourself, really assess the issues in the relationship and go NC. Give him his space. Don't hound him with apologies or beg, just be prepared to make amends when he does decide to talk to you again. 1
kasop Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 What you can do is give him space. Right now he is analyzing the whole relationship and deciding if to break it off or give it a chance. Until he contacts you say nothing. Laying out your insecurities on someone can have a bad effect on them. Address this with yourself and work on yourself, even if he stays or leaves.
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