ltomlinson81 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I am single for the first time in 4 years and am considering online dating. Do any normal, attractive people do this? Or is it all weirdos and nerds?
Silver Tree Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 All of the above-- proceed with caution. had two experiences with this. The first one turned out to be a bomb. She was emotionally involved with a married fellow. The second- started out with just exchanging email's with a woman from Thailand who wanted to work on her English. We were falling for each other before we met in person- I flew to Thailand to meet her and fell the rest of the way. We've been married for 5 years now, and I am a very lucky man to have found her. Her family is very nice as well.
mfrmboy Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Ive been dating on line for about two yrs now. Ive met some liars, saying one thing and doing another. Posting a pic from when they were alot younger or of someone else. Just be careful and feel them out good before you meet them. Make sure if you do meet them to do it in a public place. Dont give them to much personal info until you get to know them. Have a good time! Ive gone on some fun dates, but just havent met the one yet! GOOD LUCK!!
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Don't fall for anyone until you really know them. I have guys falling for me and my smile, and all I do is talk to them. I have a bf, and have only been separated for 3 months, and I say I'm only there to chat - I don't even go private! They all think I'm hot and fun and wholesome. The ones that I give support and encouragement to always seem to develop feelings. THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW ME! I've cheated on boyfriends, my ex-husband, I take anti-depressants, I'm selfish, and it's all about me-me-me. I'm emotionally high maintenance right now, I get bad PMS and my periods last so long and are so frequent that sex is only available for half a month at a time. One guy I talked to married a girl after 3 yrs of online dating and LDR. Turns out she was bulimic, had no front teeth, and she left him after 30 days of marriage. Yes, some work out (I met my current bf online). We are very much in love, but I am not rushing into anything permanent as I realize there is alot left to learn about each other first.
KissMyTiara Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 If you use a service where they are SUPPOSED to detail themselves and provide pictures, like Match or Yahoo or EHarmony or jdate, the only thing you really need to worry about is that on the majority of these dates there will be NO chemistry. However, it is true that occasionally you will encounter just plain WEIRD people. But with these sites, you can weed out the ones you know right off the bat are off their rocker, and then you can email and chat and talk on the phone...and then meet face to face. I thought it was all kooky crap, but I now have 3 friends who are MARRIED to someone they met online through one of those sites. It CAN work, seriously. The people on there are looking for someone, and if you're not running into people at bars, grocery stores, the gym, church, etc., why not try the net? EVERYONE IS DOING IT!!
SexKitten Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara If you use a service where they are SUPPOSED to detail themselves and provide pictures, like Match or Yahoo or EHarmony or jdate, the only thing you really need to worry about is that on the majority of these dates there will be NO chemistry. However, it is true that occasionally you will encounter just plain WEIRD people. But with these sites, you can weed out the ones you know right off the bat are off their rocker, and then you can email and chat and talk on the phone...and then meet face to face. I thought it was all kooky crap, but I now have 3 friends who are MARRIED to someone they met online through one of those sites. It CAN work, seriously. The people on there are looking for someone, and if you're not running into people at bars, grocery stores, the gym, church, etc., why not try the net? EVERYONE IS DOING IT!! actually, as for the first part you can't "know" anything right off the bat about anyone on the internet. you may find some things are strange to you, and decide what you are willing to explore (or not explore) but if someone makes a statment that seems weird, it's not necessarily because they are weird--it might be their personality, it could be a joke, it could be someone just messing around. you don't "know" until you get to know them, should you choose to do so. the important thing is to decide whether you want to know about someone or not. and second, not everyone is doing it, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't. just be careful. keep an open mind, but use your judgment.
BigB Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 I just posted a few profiles, last night and today. I keep hearing about people who met online and are now getting married. My sister has a friend who met a girl online that he's now engaged to. I've looked around and there seems to be a lot of normal looking attractive people posting profiles online, and a few not-so-normal looking. The whole thing still scares me a bit.. I can never come up with anything good to put in my profiles, and I'm afraid I'm going to meet some wierdo's, but we'll see. I't better than meeting no one at all I guess. take it slow and be careful seems to be the advise that everyone gives. I'm now finding that I don't seem to have any good pictures of myself to use online... I'm going to have to take some.
Screenplay Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 I've met wonderful girls online. I still prefer real life matchmaking though, as I find myself somewhat confined using mere text to convey myself. Sucks to be skilled in body language and inflection when you are letters against a background. So, I guess there are others like me, Im sure of it actually. Just as I'm sure there are the cave hermits whose only socialization is through the internet. You just hope you find more of the former, and less of the latter
JanieQP Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 I've had quite a bit of experience with on-line dating. My sister met her husband that way. Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Don't fall for anyone until you really know them. And you most certainly don't know them before you've met IRL. What works for me is meeting quickly - I call first to see if I can stand the voice/accent, then set up a meeting and go from there. No longer do I waste time on long e-mail conversations or chats. It's just such a waste of time, because as KMT says ... Originally posted by KissMyTiara on the majority of these dates there will be NO chemistry. On Sunday I met a guy and there was chemistry like I've never experienced before. Will anything come of it? Who knows? The rest of the guys I met from this site were duds though, so it was good for me to be reminded that it can work. There's no way I would have run into this man IRL.
udelgirl Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 when you DO see someone interesting, and they show you they're interested too, so you email them and they don't reply back for a couple of days, is it because they don't care anymore? i wrote a pretty long email talking about my family and what i like doing for fun, and i'm afraid i scared him off..... it's a marriage/dating website, so i thought he would be pretty serious, so i wrote a semi-serious email, lol....
Screenplay Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 It depends really. Ive had the same thing happen, except I haven't found length of the messages to play a factor. Sometimes you show mutual interest, exchange a couple emails, and then dead air, whether the messages were a paragraph, a page, or a half sentence.
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