exboyfriend telling friends their might be a chance

[Snowy90]

My ex broke up with me a month ago today.. I am currently in no contact and haven't spoken to him for 2 weeks. I did not plead or beg when we broke up, I did say it wasn't what I wanted but I think he knew that. We spoke only to get things back. He did say he was worried he was making a mistake but he'll just have to deal with it. I just said it was hes choice. On the last day we spoke he returned my things, he called and I answered, I said I was going away for the weekend and he asked where, I said he doesn't really need to know and he got mad. He called when he got to my house a few times but I was in the shower, when I got out I seen the calls and he said your stuff is at the door and I said thanks, wish you all the best. He called back and I answered, it was just a messy convo n he hung up after getting mad, he tried to call twice more, but I just ignored as he was making me more upset. His response was add as many girls as he could on facebook. I tried to contact him a week later twice, one to say I'd like to be friends as that is what he asked, but I would just need time. No reply. The next day I asked if its what he really wants. No reply. So I started no contact n nothing, I'm at day 15.

Almost a week ago my cousin is a friend of his and asked him if we were over for good. He said I don't know about for good but for a while at least.

 

Does this mean anything or should I just give up hope? So confused..

[ColdandLonelyinAK]

"For awhile at least" says to me that he is unsure about you. Why would you want to be with someone who is unsure about you?

[Snowy90]

I don't

I just wanted to know what it meant.

 

I figured it was him just trying to get off lightly with a generalised answer.

But of corse my stupid heart hoped it was more.

Silly girl, I know.

[ColdandLonelyinAK]

I don't

I just wanted to know what it meant.

 

I figured it was him just trying to get off lightly with a generalised answer.

But of corse my stupid heart hoped it was more.

Silly girl, I know.

 

I know how you feel. Him getting mad after asking you questions is just him being nosey, and it seems with that answer that he's just keeping you around while he does what he wants. Don't do it. You want the person you're with to be 100% sure about you.

[DexterLS]

First of all, I don't see the point of you making several threads asking the same thing. There are three now.

 

Coming back to your question, you're looking into this too much. He is not coming back unless he wants to. It's his decision and you would be an idiot to wait for him to change his mind.

 

Stick with NC.

[Snowy90]

Yeh I definately do.

Upsetting that he is never gonna be 100% about me but not much I can do

[Snowy90]

I didn't mean it. I'm new to this site so I apologise.

[aloneinaz]

I'm not sure why you'd consider being someone's second choice? Why hold out hope to get back w/someone who's already dumped you once?

 

 

You really should focus on strict NC and NOT allow him to come back because he's gotten lonely and horny because he's found the grass isn't greener yet.

[dumbass2]

He said that to your cousin because he knew that your cousin would tell you that. Seems like he threw that out there now to give you hope and to not move on. He wants to make sure you are there if things don't work out on his end. If someone is not sure about you, the only thing you can do is try to move on. If someone is making contact and backs up their words with actions, then you might have something.

[Satu]

It's better proceed under assumption that's over for good.

 

It's better because it allows you to focus on your healing without be sidetracked by false hope.