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It's been well over a year since I spoke to my ex (last time we spoke at all was march 2014) since then I haven't looked at her profile on Facebook,twitter,instagram anything, I've literally blocked her out of my life.

 

I deleted her number as well and taken up a hobby playing rugby so it's not like I haven't taken the steps to get over her but for some reason just recently I've been thinking about her a lot and finding myself missing her and I don't know why because I thought I was over it.

It's annoying because some days she's all I think about in the day and I knew she got into a relationship soon after we broke up so she won't have thought about me at all since but I'm just being really stupid still thinking about/missing her.

 

Can anyone suggest something to help me? If there is anything at all?

 

(It might may help to add that she was my first girlfriend?)

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If she was your first girlfriend, you only have one person to look back to in terms of a relationship. A year is long enough for you to be single, have you been dating or even took up the prospect of dating another girl?

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Hi, I relate. I blocked him the last day of March but I'm having a rough patch. I'm so mad at myself I'm kissing him even though he was garbage. I hope this will pass and we can continue with our lives. I just cannot imagine missing him this much for the rest of my life ugh

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Hey man, I know it sounds a bit weird but its been 2.5 years and I still think about this girl I saw for a year and a half. I havent been to her fb profile in 2 years but every morning I wake up and think about her, every girl I meet or date doesnt match upto her. Hell, I even have imaginary conversations with her.

 

I have tried everything from moving away to another city to taking up yoga and sports and making new friends. Nothing seems to be working for me. I have stop myself to stop thinking about her and I fail all the time.

 

Its like she cast a spell on me and I cant seem to break it now

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Some people move on like lightning flashes (some of them just suppress) and for some it takes longer. Most of the time it is believed that being in the first category is normal and healthy. I too am from that second category.

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If she was your first girlfriend, you only have one person to look back to in terms of a relationship. A year is long enough for you to be single, have you been dating or even took up the prospect of dating another girl?

 

I haven't been on any dates in that year I've been pretty much concentrating on finishing my final year at uni and getting myself sorted with a job. I don't really get out much so that probable doesn't help my case to meet other women and I've got really low confidence since the breakup so I just don't bother with the dating scene. I know I should to get back on the horse an all that but I've just not as of yet

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Its been two and a half years, I want to be with her since day number one, I dont know when she will leave my head. Some people move on faster than others, you might be one of those who take time to forget that special someone, she was also your first so that might be a factor to take into account.

 

The only way I can cope without her is by doing sports and keeping busy with whatever shows up, soccer game, dinner, meet up friends etc. If I didnt do that I would be crying writing this post feeling absolutely depleted and numb looking foward to a lonely life.

 

Keep focused on school and work, in the end you gotta take care of yourself first.

 

Good luck

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Yesterday was two years sharp we went on our first date.

 

You will never forget. You will come to grips that you will

never talk again and it would never work either way.

 

But pangs of regret will remain and you will learn to live

with them. We all have that special someone who we won't

spend our lives with.

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Yesterday was two years sharp we went on our first date.

 

You will never forget. You will come to grips that you will

never talk again and it would never work either way.

 

But pangs of regret will remain and you will learn to live

with them. We all have that special someone who we won't

spend our lives with.

Yesterday and today two years ago were the first times I saw my ex on a trip with friends. Talking about similar timelines :)

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Rob.....im being told this is normal... For me its been almost 16 months and i think about him everyday. I did the same as you stopped all contact i even changed my mobile number because i spent every day looking at my phone wondering if today he was going to make contact again, i started working out and trying to move on but its been hard.... It's driving me insane.

 

I last had contact via viber 8 months ago....

 

Ive not dated since him, he was having an affair, hes still with her, but i know he thinks about me and misses me.... as im sure your ex still thinks of you. I didnt think for one minute he gave me a second thought, but he did, thought about me all the time.

 

Its normal and i think the only way we can move on is to meet someone else, someone who makes you feel good, the reason we think about our ex's are because we are lonely, im sure of that.

 

You have the support here, your not alone

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Its normal and i think the only way we can move on is to meet someone else, someone who makes you feel good, the reason we think about our ex's are because we are lonely, im sure of that.

 

 

Well said. Everyone here on LS have one thing in common, we struggle to get over the pain of our break up. Having the right attitude towards moving on is important, and sometimes we have to find a way to live with the hurt while we wait for the special one. He\she is out there. All we can do is make the best of our time while we wait.

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Rob.....im being told this is normal... For me its been almost 16 months and i think about him everyday. I did the same as you stopped all contact i even changed my mobile number because i spent every day looking at my phone wondering if today he was going to make contact again, i started working out and trying to move on but its been hard.... It's driving me insane.

 

I last had contact via viber 8 months ago....

 

Ive not dated since him, he was having an affair, hes still with her, but i know he thinks about me and misses me.... as im sure your ex still thinks of you. I didnt think for one minute he gave me a second thought, but he did, thought about me all the time.

 

Its normal and i think the only way we can move on is to meet someone else, someone who makes you feel good, the reason we think about our ex's are because we are lonely, im sure of that.

 

You have the support here, your not alone

 

I think the reason why I've kind of held on even though I don't have any urges to contact her like I did last year or to have a look at her social media is because she never really told me why she just broke up with me, strung me along for months then we stopped talking and 2 weeks later she started going out with someone else.

 

With dating I've just not bothered with it, I'm at the point in my life where I want a relationship thats going to last and we get married/start family etc which I imagined with my ex. I look at how my generation currently is and no one wants long lasting relationships its all short term and about superficial things. I genuinely believe that I don't think I will find anyone else purely because I'm kind of old fashioned and not like this new age 'lad' that is currently in fashion where you don't care about girls feelings and you string 2 or more along and you have no morals.

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I'm at the point in my life where I want a relationship thats going to last and we get married/start family etc which I imagined with my ex.

I guess there are few people who do 'not' want this or have wanted this. You are young, do not compare yourself to much with others.

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I guess there are few people who do 'not' want this or have wanted this. You are young, do not compare yourself to much with others.

 

We didn't break up because she didn't want to get married and have a family it was completely out of the blue if I'm honest :/

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It is hard if we do not have any control over things happening to us. I guess I still share your dream. But most things in life happen to us.

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Its nearly 2 years since we broke up and I'd thought I'd be fully over it by now but yet again here I am dreaming about her while I was asleep, just being in her presence nothing else. I don't know how to fully get over it because it just annoys me that I can't when she has a long time ago :/

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Its nearly 2 years since we broke up and I'd thought I'd be fully over it by now but yet again here I am dreaming about her while I was asleep, just being in her presence nothing else. I don't know how to fully get over it because it just annoys me that I can't when she has a long time ago :/

Hey there, just reread what I wrote last year. Sometimes we have to say goodbye, while we really did not want to. That can be really hard. I guess it is like a picture on cloths or a tattoo, it fades with time. Some things have make a really deep impression (mark) on us. I guess the capability of being moved by the things that have happened in our lives - and feel the marks of them - in the end is a good thing.

 

The answer for us both is not to fight what is left.

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