cicifalorin Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 EXTREMELY LONG STORY SHORT! I was celibate for 3 1/2 years. Me and this guy were friends for 2 of those years. (met him when I was 1 1/2 years celibate) We admitted to loving each other 6 months into our friendship but we never had sex or made the move to be in a relationship. Just heavy making out. Without going into the long *** story of how we ended up in this position, recently we were in his car and he decided he wanted me then and there. I wanted him too so I straddled him the drivers seat and we made some things happen. I loved it. However, afterwards he said something that blew my mind. He said "I feel like I would have been better if had you on your back" He sounded so insecure. I don't know why. I was moaning and we were talking during the sex so I don't get it. Its been 2 weeks now and he has been super distant. When I texted him and asked him if there was an issue... no response. I didnt want anything to change as far as our friendship. Im not that type to go crazy after sex and expect a relationship. Our friendship means the world to me but idk what is wrong. Is it me?
KSCHV Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Guys say/do dumb things, I know I have. I'm more so wondering why it took this long to make it happen.
Author cicifalorin Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 Guys say/do dumb things, I know I have. I'm more so wondering why it took this long to make it happen. Because I didnt want to do anything until I was ready plus we were FRIENDS and I didnt want to complicate things
mystikmind2005 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 EXTREMELY LONG STORY SHORT! I was celibate for 3 1/2 years. Me and this guy were friends for 2 of those years. (met him when I was 1 1/2 years celibate) We admitted to loving each other 6 months into our friendship but we never had sex or made the move to be in a relationship. Just heavy making out. Without going into the long *** story of how we ended up in this position, recently we were in his car and he decided he wanted me then and there. I wanted him too so I straddled him the drivers seat and we made some things happen. I loved it. However, afterwards he said something that blew my mind. He said "I feel like I would have been better if had you on your back" He sounded so insecure. I don't know why. I was moaning and we were talking during the sex so I don't get it. Its been 2 weeks now and he has been super distant. When I texted him and asked him if there was an issue... no response. I didnt want anything to change as far as our friendship. Im not that type to go crazy after sex and expect a relationship. Our friendship means the world to me but idk what is wrong. Is it me? This one is a puzzler? Possibly he is scared of commitment? Scared of how he feels about you? Scared of being hurt again? Aside from that, possibly he has a romantic girlfriend already? And you were just a friend and then he gave in to his temptation with you?
Author cicifalorin Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 (edited) This one is a puzzler? Possibly he is scared of commitment? Scared of how he feels about you? Scared of being hurt again? Aside from that, possibly he has a romantic girlfriend already? And you were just a friend and then he gave in to his temptation with you? I dont know about the commitment part. We talked about being together a while back but never moved on it because our bond as friends was so tight. He never opens up and says how he feels about me but whenever I tell him I know he doesnt feel anything for me in a romantic way, he says "You dont what you are talking about" but he never elaborates past that point. Yes he has been hurt before by a girl I know and he said he was over it and glad he dodged that bullet because of something he found out about her (idk what it was but anyway) No he has no gf. Edited June 15, 2015 by cicifalorin typo
KSCHV Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Because I didnt want to do anything until I was ready plus we were FRIENDS and I didnt want to complicate things Well from my findings just friends never works, eventually you throw in the sex aspect as you have. It works and goes from there or it bombs down the road and you're not just friends anymore. If you guys are this close I'd say just be blunt and ask what's up.
Author cicifalorin Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 Well from my findings just friends never works, eventually you throw in the sex aspect as you have. It works and goes from there or it bombs down the road and you're not just friends anymore. If you guys are this close I'd say just be blunt and ask what's up. I did. I texted him and asked him last week about going to the amusement park with me and a buddy of mine. He gave me a stale and short answer. He never does that. Then I tried calling him so I could tell him we needed to talk face to face but I got no answer and never called back. So I texted him this past Thursday and asked if there was an issue. No response. Trust me, we are the kind of friends where sex wouldn't change a thing. It happened and we were supposed to move forward with our friendship but he is making things weird as hell. I am in love with him I will admit that and he knows that but Im not the kind of woman to allow sex to change whats perfectly fine and I dont force nor rush things (hence the fact I waited a million years to break my celibacy) Im really cool and laid back and so is he HOWEVER my FRIEND is pissing me off with his weird behavior. In 2 years, I have never seen him act "bothered".
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