Had a dream about ex. Why do we desire something that will harm us?

[Gochelseablues]

I was over her for the most part. I had a dream we were having sex, and it was like in a military barracks or something where we couldn't be seen with each other. I remember really wanting to see her in the dream and thrilled when she showed up and we'd be intimate. It's similar to real life in that I want her, but know I'm not supposed to be, or am telling myself I'm not supposed to be with her. I can literally feel it in my heart, the care I have for her. It's a terrible as I was hardly thinking of her until The dream. It's wierd how my heart and mind would feel for her yet we haven't talked.

[ravfour4]

That subconscious is a bitch. With my ex-ex gf, I felt consciously over her before I stopped dreaming about her. That took a bit longer.

[sober and dry]

I read it somewhere that's the way our subconscious deals with things, so brace yourself!

Perhaps it's the last stage you know

[newmoon]

it doesn't mean you want her just because you dream of her. you could interpret it many different ways other than that. perhaps you left the relationship with unresolved issues, perhaps your subconscious is telling you that sex was all you had in common, perhaps it's a way for your mind to get closure, maybe you always felt she was having sex with others, etc. there are so many different interpretations, and wanting her is probably the least factual one :-)