2 years after break up.

[LivingHalfAlive13]

So it has been just about 2 years since my ex of 5 years broke it off with me. I been going to the gym religiously for 5 years and that hasn't changed. I got involved in football, and volleyball, new job, moved from old apartment (ex lived 40 yards away), have dated, been in a committed relationship (ended on her terms), see a counselor once a week for the past year, but still I still kinda hurt and wander back to the ex a lot. The ex was a single mother divorced twice with 3 kids (twins that are 9, and a 21 year old), and 9 years older than me, and did not want more children (which I do). I know there could and is better situations but why can't I let this women go? It's perplexing, and sad. Any advice.

[ravfour4]

Is there some closure you yearn for? Or a question you want answered? If not, perhaps you felt so dependent on her and have yet to find your true self and really be happy with that person since the break up. Think hard about what would make you happy, fight for it and I bet you'll find someone awesome along that journey.

[LivingHalfAlive13]

Yes and no. I believe that I was a crutch during the final 3 years of the relationship. No job, money, car, cell. I assisted all with that when needed. But she was wonderful during those 3 years. Got her life together and pretty sure she found someone from the new job and left not to long after starting the job. I was dependent ...sure. I'm trying to be happy. The gym, and football, and volley do that. I have a stable city job (but not a fan) Along with 2 other part time Jobs to keep me busy. I just can't fathom why there is this grasp on her.

[LivingHalfAlive13]

Any other advice?

[ravfour4]

To flip the question back on you, why do you think you still think about her? What is it about her you miss? What are you concerned/worried about? What question do you wish she would answer? What do you feel that you're missing?