mrniceguy_06 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Upon graduation, I was kicked out of my house and i was dating a girl for a very short time who already has one kid. She took me in and we fell in love. We lived together over 1.5 years and during this time we unfortunately went through 2 abortions. I am currently in medical school but before i left she told me about 4 months prior she was unhappy and thought we should start dating someone else. Our usual argument ended and I went about my day. I thought it was nothing. So i asked her before i left for school if she wanted me to stay she said no it would be selfish and that i should go. I didn't realize that once i got there i never should have left them and brought them with me. We got into another argument on the phone the first week there and i told her while i was at school that she could do her while i was gone and i was going to do me. Never actually meaning it. It was in the heat of an argument and she kept bringing it up. NEVER DID I THINK SHE WOULD DO SOMETHING. I tried to surprise her 2 weeks later. Upon returning home there was her first love in the house when i walked in. I was hurt. Definitely hurt. But theres more... So i get over it because one i shouldn't have surprised her like that and then 2 i never should have told her what i did. The next week i came home took her and her daughter to disney like planned and then the day before i go back to school she tells me that she got pregnant by him because the condom broke. She is now 6 weeks pregnant by him. She is trying to make up her mind if she wants to be with him or me but SHE IS KEEPING THE BABY THIS TIME. What should i do? Its selfish that i kind of want her to terminate but i should have stopped her when it was with me. I feel terrible and im asking god for forgiveness every day. But say she does choose me, will i be wrong for wanting to stay and help her raise that child as if it were my own? I am madly in love with this woman and her daughter. I can tell she wants to be with me but is afraid that i would treat the child wrong because of what happened. I want to stay but im not sure of where her head is at and will she give me the opportunity to make things right and be what she needs. But i dont know what to do. Please help.
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Get her out of your life. She's an albatross. For her to expect you to stay & raise another guy's baby along with the kid she already has after aborting two of your children, is the height of selfishness.
JewelD Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 DO NOT DO IT. You were already taking care of one baby that's not yours, now you want to take care of two? And she's not even sure she wants to be with you! Is it possible she's been using you? Maybe she wanted to get pregnant by this man. I would imagine one who does not want children would be using BC. She's making extremely poor decisions and expecting you to clean up the mess. Don't do it.
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