snappycg1996 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Some back story: We are both 18 years old and just graduated high school, and our plan was to go to college together and eventually start our lives. We had been dating for 5 months, which isn't a long time, but we wasn't gonna get serious until down the road. One day she changed 180 degrees and me and her fought and she was really rude to me. I tried for a week and a half, until she ignored me, told she didn't know if she seen a future, and that she wasn't happy anymore. She also said the relationship stressed her out and college and the future in general. She has no job, no car, no license and her parents refuse to help for any. So one day I told her "what's the point of being with me if you're not happy?" And we broke up. Technically yes I did bring it on but only because of how unhappy she was. The next day I see she follows her ex of 1.5 years on IG and readds him on FB and he does the same back. He was harassing her when we were together and she blocked him on her own, I didn't tell her to. Fast forward a little, I went over to get my stuff a week later, and she still didn't know what she was gonna do. We hugged a bunch and I kissed her 3 times. I told her to keep the gifts I bought her, throw them away, burn them, they were hers, and she said "I won't do anything to them because I cherrish them" she said if I ever need anything to contact her and I said the same to her and I left. Days later I sent her pics I took from her band concert at like 4am, and the next morning she read this message and didn't reply. But ever since our breakup, she's actively been viewing my MeetMe. Sometimes even twice within a few hours. I did a test recently, I didn't look at hers after she looked at mine twice, and days later she views it again. Then a few hours later she looks at it. And she's still viewing it a lot every day. She went on a trip recently and didn't view it much while she was gone, but she got back today and she viewed it. She still has a pic of us on her FB and still tagged in the pics I took of us. Today, she posted 2 pics on IG and I didn't like either and then she posted a tbh pic and then immediately came on FB. I'm not gonna like the tbh either, maybe she's trying to play with my head? I want her back but I don't want to appear needy. We broke up 2 weeks ago after our 5 month relationship, so its still a fresh breakup. I still care about her immensely, even though everyone says it, she really was different from anyone I've ever dated.
AJH1982 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 (edited) It´s hard when stuff like this happens! Go no contact to heal and stop viewing all her online activity, (YOU WILL GO CRAZY - BELIEVE ME)! Let her come to you, if you go running to her you will apper needy and desperate. Only your ex knows what`s on her mind! What you are feeling it`s normal, after a breakup only time and effort will help to heal! It´s your call! Wish you well. Edited June 15, 2015 by AJH1982
Author snappycg1996 Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 (edited) It´s hard when stuff like this happens! Go no contact to heal and stop viewing all her online activity, (YOU WILL GO CRAZY - BELIEVE ME)! Let her come to you, if you go running to her you will apper needy and desperate. Only your ex knows what`s on her mind! What you are feeling it`s normal, after a breakup only time and effort will help to heal! It´s your call! Wish you well. It just doesn't make sense still as to why she is viewing my profile... She viewed it before we started dating when we was talking and after we got together she still viewed it sometimes until she deleted the app. If she didn't care about me any, why would she view it? We broke up, shouldn't she not want me to know she's viewing it? Or better yet not view it at all? You can see profile views so that's how I know she's looking. I want her back so of course I still care and check up on her. Edited June 15, 2015 by snappycg1996 It
ravfour4 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Hey there, it's simple really - she just wants to keep tabs on you for one of a few reasons: 1) she cares about you as a person and likes to see what you're up to 2) she wants you back and keeps checking to make sure you haven't met anyone else yet 3) she doesn't want you back, but she wants to keep you as plan B so she's making sure you're still single I'm guessing 1 or 3, if it was 2, she'd probably tell you outright or she would have fought more to not break up. Overall, you're very young and I bet you'll meet someone better in the future. Use this as a learning experience and focus on yourself, don't think too deeply into what her actions mean. If she's meant to come back she will, but that will be on her own accord and will not be a result of you trying to get her back unless you were the one to actually break up.
Author snappycg1996 Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 Hey there, it's simple really - she just wants to keep tabs on you for one of a few reasons: 1) she cares about you as a person and likes to see what you're up to 2) she wants you back and keeps checking to make sure you haven't met anyone else yet 3) she doesn't want you back, but she wants to keep you as plan B so she's making sure you're still single I'm guessing 1 or 3, if it was 2, she'd probably tell you outright or she would have fought more to not break up. Overall, you're very young and I bet you'll meet someone better in the future. Use this as a learning experience and focus on yourself, don't think too deeply into what her actions mean. If she's meant to come back she will, but that will be on her own accord and will not be a result of you trying to get her back unless you were the one to actually break up. I agree with you, but I think it is one of those "grass is greener on the other side" things. She thought us breaking up wasn't a big deal then and she didn't care about me and then maybe over time she realised how good I was. You don't know what you're missing until you don't have it. She's the kind of girl who is too prideful go admit she's wrong and probably too prideful to ask for a reconciliation. She expects me if anything to do it. Honestly I probably won't do it, because she was the reason it was brought on in the first place. I tried so hard to keep her happy. I do care about her though and she is a really sweet girl. idk what to do. I just wish I knew why she would even want to keep tabs on me? She is still on FB and Instagram so she don't have to look at my MeetMe to see I'm still single. No one talks to me on there, and if they do, she can't see it. It's just statuses I post.
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