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He doesn't sound like a bad guy, you just sound like you don't care much for casual dating. Nothing wrong with that, you guys are just incompatible.

 

Who cares if he's chatting the neighbor girl? Good for him considering you kinda blew him off.

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Leave it alone, there's no many ways this can become a mess and it sounds like it's already going in that direction. Take it from a guy who worked property management, lived on property and enjoyed some of the "perks" of the situation. If you don't think you and the guy are on the same page then do not proceed. I personally think most guys just want the adventure as I did. The one I actually did get feelings involved with didn't go well, I was eventually happy to see her move.

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Really......she didn't "blow him off" she declined with an honest and upfront explanation.....why is that such a crime? We get so many threads on here with guys saying all they wanted want an honest answer instead of being given the run around. Go figure.

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I'm not saying either of them did anything wrong.

 

She sounds a bit jealous of Lori though otherwise why would she bring it up?

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She could have been jealous of Lori but by what she said I took it to mean that she didn't like how "public" and to be source of gossip because of his and Lori's actions. To her I think it started to sound very messy. And I would agree. Too many people involved in her business with this guy. In a work or neighborhood situation, you keep on the downest of downlows until everything is completely firmed up!! Both sides. Actually if he was playing a part in that perpetuating gossip by asking Lori about her making his interest in OP clear, it sounds very immature and I would have lost interest myself.

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Not jealous of Lori in the least, just perturbed by her actions. Versacehottie nailed it. Too many people in my business making a spectacle of me, as well as themselves. Bringing me into a mess.

 

If the guy stood a chance with me (which I actually pondered at the beginning) he should have had the better sense to keep it cool with Lori and get to know me on his own.

 

This new guy replaces our old property management guy I will call George. George was married w 2 kids. Lori played the exact same stunt with him. Calling him for work, taking him to her mom's, and I know she screwe+ him although she never said she did. The giddy behavior said it all....not to mention I myself called George for a job once and he asked me to kiss him and basically said he would give me discounts in exchange for other things. I was so insulted I wouldn't talk to him for 2 years! Lol.

 

Yea...let's see what goes down next.....

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Ok it's Friday night and I got home from work and the coast was clear. Whew! It was quiet outside. I was so looking forward to chillin at home. I have a busy day tomorrow. I shut my Windows, shut my blinds, it looks like I'm not home. i took a shower, ate some food...and sat my tired ass down to relax. I was totally in peace....although I wish my Windows were open.

 

Then the phone rings. I let the machine get it. It's him. He says he's making a pizza, the left over beer is in the fridge and to "come on over neighbor".

 

I am creeped out now. This is weird....is it not? WTF am I supposed to do? I miss my privacy. I question if he knows I'm home. I feel a bit uneasy.

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He will give up eventually......btw, turn the volume off on yer machine.

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Not jealous of Lori in the least, just perturbed by her actions. Versacehottie nailed it. Too many people in my business making a spectacle of me, as well as themselves. Bringing me into a mess.

 

If the guy stood a chance with me (which I actually pondered at the beginning) he should have had the better sense to keep it cool with Lori and get to know me on his own.

 

This new guy replaces our old property management guy I will call George. George was married w 2 kids. Lori played the exact same stunt with him. Calling him for work, taking him to her mom's, and I know she screwe+ him although she never said she did. The giddy behavior said it all....not to mention I myself called George for a job once and he asked me to kiss him and basically said he would give me discounts in exchange for other things. I was so insulted I wouldn't talk to him for 2 years! Lol.

 

Yea...let's see what goes down next.....

 

This story reeks of jealousy...

 

Let it go.

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This story reeks of jealousy...

 

Let it go.

 

I disagree.

It reeks of 'goddamn, I dodged a fekkin' bullet'.....

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One of my coworkers got his tires slashed. I had to drive him to work for a couple days while we waited on replacements.

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One of my coworkers got his tires slashed. I had to drive him to work for a couple days while we waited on replacements.

 

And this has.... what? To do with this topic....?:confused:

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And this has.... what? To do with this topic....?:confused:
Pointing out one of the potential repercussions of getting involved with a neighbor.
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I disagree.

It reeks of 'goddamn, I dodged a fekkin' bullet'.....

 

The guy hasn't done anything wrong except show interest in her, I wouldn't consider that dodging a bullet.

 

People tend to embellish their stories to put them in a favorable light, if I had to guess I'd say the OP is caught up in a lot of drama because this story reeks of it.

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The guy hasn't done anything wrong except show interest in her, I wouldn't consider that dodging a bullet.

 

People tend to embellish their stories to put them in a favorable light, if I had to guess I'd say the OP is caught up in a lot of drama because this story reeks of it.

 

Our opinions greatly differ.

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The whole thing was odd. Bordering on bizarre/stalkerish & intrusive.

 

I hid in my house all day because I was so irritated.

 

Thankfully it was a quiet day with no disruptions except for seeing Lori walkin the beat of the streets trolling for gossip. No jealousy here.

 

And now that I know it's a commonality for property management guys to receive "sex perks" I'm like euwww!

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where you work and where you live are my off limits. I don;t threaten my essentials.

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Yea, typically I don't shi# where I eat either. Thus why I questioned all this from the very beginning.

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Yup, it would be like this x 100 if you had ever actually gone through with anything. I've been there, done that and there's nothing worse than feeling uncomfortable at your own home.

 

Just be counting your lucky and if he keeps up with this, I suggest finding a nice, beefy guy friend to stop coming by every now and then. If he thinks you have someone else, he's likely to leave you alone. Or you could just say "I'm dating someone and wouldn't he might not be comfortable hanging out with another guy." That usually does the trick.

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