marie55567 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 This question isn't for me. I have an acquittance that got married after her and hubby were dating for 2 months. They feel they are right for each other and been married almost 3 months now and they do not regret their decision. I think it's insane but happy for them and I hope they're marriage will last.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 For me personally, it would be insane, but you never know. Life is funny that way. They could still be married in 20 years or calling it quits this time next year. If they are happy, then be happy for them. This is their journey through life, and they have to live it. 4
Arieswoman Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Would you say it's insane to get married after 2 months of dating? Yes, and 3 months of marriage is nothing. They are still in the "honeymoon stage". 4
SammySammy Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Insane? No. Risky? Yes. It has worked before, but I think the odds are against them. 4
Author marie55567 Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 For me personally, it would be insane, but you never know. Life is funny that way. They could still be married in 20 years or calling it quits this time next year. If they are happy, then be happy for them. This is their journey through life, and they have to live it. True. I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. My friend and her hubby are very religious so they believe this is God's plan and that they're marriage will turn out fine. 2
J21 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 How old are they? If they are in their 20's it's a little insane, but if they're late 30's or later, I don't think it's that bad? I guess if you know, you know 3
newmoon Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 i think it's ok, so long as you're older (maybe in the 30s) and have had some relationship experiences before. it's risky though, with assets and the other types of background info. you might not know. perhaps, if you were friends before and then started dating it'd be ok, but you're taking more of a chance with their background than anything else. 1
Author marie55567 Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 How old are they? If they are in their 20's it's a little insane, but if they're late 30's or later, I don't think it's that bad? I guess if you know, you know They're in their late 20's.
PrettyEmily77 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 My parents got married 5 months after they met; they were both 22. 41 years on, they are still married and going strong. After 41 years, my mum still wakes up 10 minutes before my dad to get him his cup of tea ready before he goes to work, and my dad brings her a little something back most days (flowers, her fave glossy mag, a bar of chocolate, etc.). They raised my brother and I in a very safe and loving environment. They were each other's first love and they are still sickeningly happy together. My father has always said to us he knew she was the one the second he laid eyes on her. 8
J21 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 My parents got married 5 months after they met; they were both 22. 41 years on, they are still married and going strong. After 41 years, my mum still wakes up 10 minutes before my dad to get him his cup of tea ready before he goes to work, and my dad brings her a little something back most days (flowers, her fave glossy mag, a bar of chocolate, etc.). They raised my brother and I in a very safe and loving environment. They were each other's first love and they are still sickeningly happy together. My father has always said to us he knew she was the one the second he laid eyes on her. That is so sweet wow. I wish for something like that for my future. 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 That is so sweet wow. I wish for something like that for my future. So do I!! It's also a bit difficult to live up to sometimes though, TBH. I mean that in the nicest way possible, obvs . 1
mongo Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 of course its insane. you dont know everything about a person in 2 months. they could be a psychopath. people are like icebergs...a little on the top with much more below the surface. 3
joseb Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I think in previous generations this was not so unusual. Maybe it's because back then people had fewer options and worked more to make things work. Or maybe there wasn't the high percentage of personality disordered people that there seems to be these days, who can fake it for long enough to get their partner hitched. Wow I'm sounding cynical this Monday morning! 2
Art_Critic Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I wouldn't say it was insane but it isn't the smartest thing to do.. heck they only knew each other less than 2 cable TV billing cycles... I'd bet they both get their eyes opened for them when they have to sit down to learn who they really married.. can it last.. sure.. but not without tons of changing and undertstanding on both partners ends... 1
loveflower Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 True. I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. My friend and her hubby are very religious so they believe this is God's plan and that they're marriage will turn out fine. A coworker told me her hubby told her he wanted to marry her the first time he laid eyes on her. so, I guess people just knew instantly 1
Methodical Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 You could live with a person 24/7 for 8 weeks and you'd still not know them. The honeymoon/lust phase waxes and wanes, and then disappears. I can't imagine having a strong foundation with a person in that small amount of time, and when foundations aren't stable, things crumble...people handle disagreements differently, etc. Maybe they'll remain married for 50 years, but there is no way I'd marry someone with the intent of them being my life partner after 8 weeks. 2
spriggan2 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Well arranged marriages have worked...probably many with less time spent together, so.. 1
SoleMate Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 They feel they are right for each other and been married almost 3 months now Awesome, all they have to do is keep that going for about another 717 months or so and then one or both will be dead. 2
Gary S Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 It's better to wait 2 years to get married - you like to see a track record over time. 2
mortensorchid Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I knew an unstable gal who met and allowed a guy to move into her house after she had known him for ONE WEEK and they were engaged to be married a week later. Needless to say, they are no longer together but her relationships were all like that. And on the other hand, a friend of my mom's met her husband who was here in the US visiting from England and he asked her to marry him after they had known each other for a week. They married a few months later, and they were happily married for about 35 years (ending with her death). Depends on the person, circumstances and reasons. I hope your friend did the right thing. 3
Tiger Lily Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 True. I am a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. My friend and her hubby are very religious so they believe this is God's plan and that they're marriage will turn out fine. They probably wanted to 'do it' without the sin. Look at how quickly a man will marry if he's not getting any! No, I wish them all the best. I think having similar religious beliefs is VERY important for a long-lasting relationship (at least in about 99% of cases). Also, people with strong religious faith often have the support of a church and family, and that strong support network is often a factor in building a long-lasting relationship. So, as previously posted, each relationship and situation is different. Is it common to marry after 2 months? Probably not, but that doesn't mean it can't be a success. 1
Mascara Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Statistically it's likely to fail, but anecdotally we probably have all heard of someone who made it a success. No scenario for marriage fails 100% of the time, but that doesn't make it a good idea on the whole. 1
candie13 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 My parents decided to get married after going out for 3 months (they were almost 30). Yup... They didn't have the smoothest marriage, but incredibly enough, it did get much better with age. They are one of the most solid couples I've known... Not sure if love had to do with it, they just keep fighting and keep working at it. After we've left the house, I think they took the time to listen to each other. So... I don't know if the secret to success is love, luck or a sound decision to not give up on it and try your best to make it work. EDIT: Going for it so soon is not just stupid, it's insanely stupid. One two years of dating are mandatory, in my books. You still can have loads of surprises, but generally speaking, less than just jumping into it. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I've been seeing a new man for a very short time, and he's already told me he's crazy about me and I'm the girl he's been looking for his whole life. He seems totally sincere, says when you know, you just know. He did not push for anything physical, but immediately connected with me on the heart and soul level. He pretty much always looks at me with stars beaming out of his beautiful brown eyes and a giant grin on his face. He says I can take as long as I need to evaluate him, but he already knows. I'm not taking the words too seriously, just enjoying them for what they are. But if this endures, these early days will be the romantic stories I'm telling our children and grandchildren 2
madjac74 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I've been seeing a new man for a very short time, and he's already told me he's crazy about me and I'm the girl he's been looking for his whole life. Oh geez. Proceed carefully because that could mean so many things. 1
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