dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) So I met a girl on Thursday night for a date. It went really well we stayed out late, had a few drinks, and kissed before she got into her cab. A really nice kiss too, it felt great. We had a good bit in common, similar interests and I had her laughing a lot. Anyway I texted her the next day to say I had a good time and how was she etc. She wrote back that evening saying she had a great time too and asked me if I slept in my office, as we had been joking about that. I replied saying something or other and asked if she'd maybe want to do something again some time? That was on Friday evening, it's Sunday night now and I've heard nothing since! It just seems rather odd as she doesn't seem like that type who'd just blank me like that even if she didn't want to see me again, I would have expected a thanks but no thanks. Is it possible she's leaving it for a while due to some kind of tactics? Or did I ask her out again too soon? Do I text again or is it completely in her court now? I'll be pretty disappointed if nothing comes of this, I really liked her. Oh and we also go to the same gym, so we're bound to bump into each other sooner or later. Edited June 14, 2015 by dangerbang
DivorcedDad123 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Ball's in her court. Dont be surprised if she's seeing others and they have the majority of her attention.
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 Yeah I guess. So I know she was away this weekend, even still, she should have responded by now right? I mean there's no reason why she wouldn't have? I think I'll resign to this one being a failure, and delete her digits. Sigh.
jen1447 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 She should have said sth by now, yeah. The fact that she didn't is a message in itself. I hear about a lot of these misses where one party or other says they weren't expecting it, this one seemed different, etc. Just goes to show you never really know when you don't actually know someone. 1
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) She should have said sth by now, yeah. The fact that she didn't is a message in itself. I hear about a lot of these misses where one party or other says they weren't expecting it, this one seemed different, etc. Just goes to show you never really know when you don't actually know someone. This is really weird, I mean I'm 34, and I've a lot of experience with women/dating, I can tell when something is going well. But yeah I don't really know what's going on in her life. Would you consider not responding at all rude, or is it socially acceptable in the dating world? I don't think I could do it personally. Was it wrong to ask her out again so soon? I mean is that too eager? Edited June 14, 2015 by dangerbang
jen1447 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 There's no right of wrong in this type of social interaction - you made your play and it (apparently) didn't work. That's all. I do think it's rude to disregard ppl that way myself, but opinions seem to vary on that. I have no problem telling ppl no personally, but I do have a problem with telling them nothing. It's dismissive and dehumanizing. To put it in perspective tho, it's been 2 days. That to me is too long to take to reply to somebody, but on the other hand it's too short to conclude you'll never hear from her again. She may text back next Tuesday. 1
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 There's no right of wrong in this type of social interaction - you made your play and it (apparently) didn't work. That's all. I do think it's rude to disregard ppl that way myself, but opinions seem to vary on that. I have no problem telling ppl no personally, but I do have a problem with telling them nothing. It's dismissive and dehumanizing. To put it in perspective tho, it's been 2 days. That to me is too long to take to reply to somebody, but on the other hand it's too short to conclude you'll never hear from her again. She may text back next Tuesday. Thank you oh wise Jen. I will keep you guys posted anyway, I can't imagine hearing anything at this stage though
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 Ok so she responded. She said she had a think about it and the loss of her father (only a few weeks ago) is really starting to hit home and she needs time to process that. So she just said if it's ok with me could we hold off on date 2 until she's more like herself. I just said of course, it must be hard for you, and that she has my number and to take care of herself. It must be really tough for her, it was pretty sudden, the loss, she told me a bit about it the other night. So I guess I may or may not hear from her going forward but at least I have an answer now.
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 CALL HER, no texting! dude, read what I said in my last post
smackie9 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Huh she was able to go out with you on a date and enjoy herself....... 1
Author dangerbang Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 Huh she was able to go out with you on a date and enjoy herself....... I know. Oh well, at least I got to kiss a pretty girl. I needed the confidence boost. 1
smackie9 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I know. Oh well, at least I got to kiss a pretty girl. I needed the confidence boost. Good keep positive
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