Bobbi7 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) Ok, so I made a post about this, that I was talking to this guy on OLD and he suggested "happy hour" where he is hosting and where a ton of people are going to attend next weekend. Well, I told him that I didn't know what my plans are-since the way he asked sounded like he was looking for attendees. Until now, I got a message and he said that he wants to take me out on a "proper date" with dinner and some wine and asked, "would you like that?" Then he gave me his number. Did he figure out that I wanted a one on one date and not happy hour? Edited June 14, 2015 by Bobbi7
Gaeta Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 No he did not figure it out. You told him you did not want to go to a place with a bunch of people where he's hosting. You spelled it out to him so it's not about him figuring it out. Go meet him over coffee, forget about dinner. I have a feeling this guy could be annoying as heck and you'll be stuck sitting in front of him over dinner. And he offered to take you out to dinner 'with wine'. No sorry!! That's not for first meeting.
Redhead14 Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 (edited) Ok, so I made a post about this, that I was talking to this guy on OLD and he suggested "happy hour" where he is hosting and where a ton of people are going to attend next weekend. Well, I told him that I didn't know what my plans are-since the way he asked sounded like he was looking for attendees. Until now, I got a message and he said that he wants to take me out on a "proper date" with dinner and some wine and asked, "would you like that?" Then he gave me his number. Did he figure out that I wanted a one on one date and not happy hour? It is a good sign that "he heard you" about wanting a one on one. He's kinda over going the expectation, but it's cool. I'd accept the "date", keep it short and you insist on paying half the bill. Have your money or card easily available. You don't want to be fumbling for money or card. That will come off as a "fake" attempt to pay. Technically, it should be just a meet up for coffee or drinks. But, since he's listening to you, I wouldn't ding him by down grading it to that now. He got what you were saying and kinda over compensated. When a man actually is "hearing" a woman, she shouldn't get too picky. You were already being a little picky to start with for a first meet. Anyway, go and have fun. Don't go home with him or have him to your home. If he pushes for that on this "date", he's overstepping the boundaries of a first "meet up". If you do like him enough, at the end, make sure you tell him you enjoyed the time and you'd like to see him again if he's interested and invite him to call you. Wine is a "classy" offer. This is another "good sign". He may be a wine connisseur. Let him choose the wine. You limit your intake. Just because a man offers wine doesn't mean you have to over imbibe Don't assume he wants to get you drunk. That's unfair. If he's a good candidate, him "hearing" you is a good quality in a man. When a man does this all through a dating scenario, it's a good thing. Edited June 17, 2015 by Redhead14
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