blackchild Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 as earlier i told you guys about this guy who comes and goes in my life. I can't shake him off! it's like one moment i won't hear for him for weeks and out of no where he will say something soo sweet! He has a great personailty,he's cute, intelligent, a gentleman, and a hard worker! everything a want in a man! the thing is that he isn't always there! one minute he's all over me and the next he's making up bull**** excuses for why he can't be with me!i ask him what's going on and all he can tell me is that i'm the perfect girl for him and that i have all the qualities he's looking for in a woman, it's just that he says he doesn't have all the time in the world for me!it makes me upset because just last week after knowing him for two weeks we finally went out on our first date! it was perfect and we enjoyed each others company. after that first date we saw a lot of each other and all of a sudden he has more time for me. but like always he vanishes again!Damn i'm i here just to entertain him for whenever or is he really interested in me?!i'm soo confused! should i confront him on his bull**** or just play the game with him and ignore him and pop up whenever i feel like it too? Please help ya girl out.
Ariel80 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Well it depends, like if you have sex everytime he sees you, then I'd say he just keeps ya just interested enough to continue to sleep with him. Guys like to do that sometimes, keeps a girl coming back for more. I'd call him out and see what he says. But don't be all like "Oh I like you, I want to be with you!!!" That might scare him off. I'd just say "Hey I notice we'll hang out and then I don't see you for a while, so what up?"
Author blackchild Posted April 29, 2005 Author Posted April 29, 2005 no we just talk, hold hands, kiss and hold each other until i'm ready for him to leave. but thanks for your advice.
Lolly38 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!! SORRY DUMP HIM............
LarukuRocks Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Yeah I'd say he's just not that into you too (been reading the book, its awesome! and it really helps!!) but if he really likes you he'll want to make you happy, so talk it over ad if he wont change the crappy habbits then its dump-time. I know it hurts a lot at the beggining and you usually dont wanna accept it all but its all for the best XD) Good Luck!!
Frankie Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Sounds like we have a similar problem. want you one minute the next its jo bloggs birthday so i wont see you all week i'll bein the pub bein a man!!! You just want to grab and say tell me what you want!!
kellyp1 Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Another thought, if guys feel they are too into you sometimes they back away and will disappear and the reappear when they miss you and freak themselves out again. They are just not ready for a relationship, it scares them and you can't change that. Make sure he knows that one of these times when he is AWOL you might not be there for him to come back to. But in the back of his mind he probably knows it and just can't get past his hangups yet anyway. Good luck - I went through the same things with my guy for a year until I told him to stop getting into contact with me without stepping up to make a committment with a non-disappear clause. Needless to say, I haven't seen him in about 4 months and haven't heard from him in one.
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