darkbloom Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Yay-- I get to post in another forum other than the breakup and coping section. Progress. So yesterday at a work function, a cute dude was walking by with a six pack of beer. I was joking with him and asked if he was sharing it. He stopped to talk to me and my coworker. He eventually asked for my number after some flirtatious banter. He works for a competitor in my field and he teaches crossfit. Other than the fact that I might need to off myself because I can't stand anyone who does crossfit or talks about crossfit he was cute. He is a little bit older than me and has plans to go to med school. Annnnnnnd he was not Ex-He-Who-Shall-Remain-Nameless or already married. (My subsequent facebook stalking of him confirmed this. Don't act like you all don't do it.) --------------- So... he asked me before he left for the day what I was doing. I told him I had plans already to see Jurassic World. He laughed and said he was jealous. He has been texting me since last night. Was that the right move? My plans to see Jurassic World had fallen through right before I talked to him but I didn't want to seem too eager and like I didn't have anything else to do. My question is, what should we do if he offers to hang out again? I've been out of dating new people since 2011 and even then I feel like my experience in the dating world is extremely limited. I feel like I don't know how any of this is supposed to work. Also, does anyone else really hate texting new people? Like what if he doesn't get that I am being funny? I can't see his face or read expressions? I don't want him to think I am trying too hard to be weird since I actually am this weird. Any and all input welcome.
Jonp219 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 my god.... wtf? Anyway, I'm happy for you darkbloom. Try not to worry too much, I had that same issue too regarding texting new people. Eventually he'll recognize your style of writing and you'll get use to his style. Don't think too much just go with the flow as see how it goes. Dating new people is scary, we're going to start analyzing everything and wonder if what we have currently is better than what we previously had. That's one thing I'm scared about when it comes to dating new people. i don't want to find out that I can't find anyone better than my ex, it's a scary thought. Anyway, I hope everything goes well with this guy.
fireflywy Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 He asks, you decide. You decide on yes, he proposes date and place. You go out, you talk, you engage him. You DON'T have sex. If you have a good time, you go out again. If you go out again, you continue assessment. If someone else asks you out, you do the same as the above. Then, eventually, someday, you make a decision on what or who you want to pursue.
fireflywy Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) Also, does anyone else really hate texting new people? Like what if he doesn't get that I am being funny? I can't see his face or read expressions? I don't want him to think I am trying too hard to be weird since I actually am this weird. Any and all input welcome. Ssss...yeah. You REALLY need to be aware of this. I mean, its JUST date. You need to try your HARDEST to not be who you are because this may be your ONLY chance at EVER finding happiness. Really think about that and how ESSENTIAL texting is when you SHOULD be calling each other to set things up as a precursor to seeing if you two are even compatible for communication. If you're not careful, this will happen... https://youtu.be/xibXxtpQ6Xg :p Edited June 14, 2015 by fireflywy
jen1447 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Just relax and be yourself Darkbloom - in text, in person, over the phone, all of it. He very likely didn't see some attraction for you by perceiving traits you don't have or seeing you as someone you're not. Bring the darkbloom and own it. A movie'd be a good date if you feel nervous, bc you don't have to make conversation right away and when it's over you've automatically got something to talk about to get you going. Maybe tell him you didn't see Jurassic Park after all but you still want to!
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