Lying about past marital status

[Smartfish]

I am a 34 year old male and never been married. Ever since I turned 30 I decided that from that point forward I would lie about my past martial status on Facebook and dating sites and put down that I am divorced.

 

The truth is once a man reaches 30 years old and beyond it raises a red flag to many women if he has never had one marriage experience under his belt. It is analogous to employers being reluctant to hire someone without any past work experience.

 

I am even prepared to make up a story as to why my past marriage went bad if any women ask me. I have all my bases covered. I can make up a list of sins I committed in a made up past marriage and how I have learned from it. If I appear to take most of the blame for the divorce instead of talking bad about my made up ex wife then she would see me as a guy who has the courage to own up to his mistakes and faults even though the story is not true.

 

I could say that I had a history of poor money management and bad credit. As a single man that part is true. I used to be terrible with money in my 20s but I have turned that around and been on good behavior with it for the last 8 years. Since money issues are a number 1 cause of marriage problems then my story will be convincing.

 

I don't anticipate that any woman will have a reason to do an investigation on me to check my story out about ever being married. It is not like she will have any interest in trying to contact my ex wife just to make sure I really do have an ex wife.

 

The benefits of lying about my past marriage status far outweigh telling the truth about never being married. As far as potential dates will be led to believe I am divorced.

[Sameold]

Sorry but this is all wrong, at least as far as the UK goes where the average marriage age of men is around 30 and rising.

 

Infact being divorced is potentially a big red flag as it shows that even having made the highest commitment with someone it still wasn't enough. Also many women wouldn't want to be someone's 2nd bride.

[Smartfish]

Then I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. I could tell the truth about never being married and many women will wonder why that's the case at age 34. So that could raise a red flag too.

[minimariah]

you're going way too far to mantain a lie just for stranger's possible approval - huge red flag.

[Smartfish]

Some lies cannot hurt people.

[minimariah]

Then I am damned if I do and damned if I don't. I could tell the truth about never being married and many women will wonder why that's the case at age 34. So that could raise a red flag too.

 

i don't know any women who will wonder why you didn't MARRY at the age of 34. i wonder when folks DO marry before they're 30 because most aren't mature enough until later in life for an union such as marriage.

 

a man not having any significant RELATIONSHIP longer than a year at the age of 34 would be a red flag for me. i don't care about the piece of paper -- i only care if you connected deeply with a person at least once in your 34 years od living and many think the very same.

 

you're acting as if you're 57 years old instead of 34.

[William]

Thanks for the replies. Our hydra is back for more LoveShack time. I'll close this up.