Easyguy14 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Not sure whether to be offended or not because I'm unsure if she's trying to offend me by saying something like this last night. We've been dating since April so things are still very young and new and after work last night we went out for drinks and did a little dancing at this small nightclub in the city then we made out for over an hour before making love for the first time. This was when she tells me this craziness of how no straight man kisses, licks and is all over a woman's body the way I was unless he's bisexual, which I'm not at all. She claims to have been with both men and women and says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her that it reminded her of the last girl she dated, minus the facial stubbles. Then she added the fact that I dress up the dead for a living, although I don't do makeup. Maybe she was just drunk when she said these things to me? I've been this way with many women I'm into and never had one say such a thing, except for that bar hopper that did try to cheapen me because I refused to entertain going down on her.
TheBathWater Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Not sure whether to be offended or not because I'm unsure if she's trying to offend me by saying something like this last night. We've been dating since April so things are still very young and new and after work last night we went out for drinks and did a little dancing at this small nightclub in the city then we made out for over an hour before making love for the first time. This was when she tells me this craziness of how no straight man kisses, licks and is all over a woman's body the way I was unless he's bisexual, which I'm not at all. She claims to have been with both men and women and says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her that it reminded her of the last girl she dated, minus the facial stubbles. Then she added the fact that I dress up the dead for a living, although I don't do makeup. Maybe she was just drunk when she said these things to me? I've been this way with many women I'm into and never had one say such a thing, except for that bar hopper that did try to cheapen me because I refused to entertain going down on her. I would've told her I was the gayest straight boy ever with a big ass smile on my face 1
NYC-BigKat Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Not sure whether to be offended or not because I'm unsure if she's trying to offend me by saying something like this last night. We've been dating since April so things are still very young and new and after work last night we went out for drinks and did a little dancing at this small nightclub in the city then we made out for over an hour before making love for the first time. This was when she tells me this craziness of how no straight man kisses, licks and is all over a woman's body the way I was unless he's bisexual, which I'm not at all. She claims to have been with both men and women and says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her that it reminded her of the last girl she dated, minus the facial stubbles. Then she added the fact that I dress up the dead for a living, although I don't do makeup. Maybe she was just drunk when she said these things to me? I've been this way with many women I'm into and never had one say such a thing, except for that bar hopper that did try to cheapen me because I refused to entertain going down on her. Maybe u should get rough with her & see what she says I guess. 1
ascendotum Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I'd take that as in insult. If this woman has slept with a number of other women and also with a bunch of especially horny bfs/f-buddies/ons then chances are she is going to notice the contrast. You are on the more slow & sensuous side of things when it comes to lovemaking as opposed to ****ing Plus the 2.5 mth lag before you had sex doesn't help either. Because of her experiences she relates that more to the women she has been with, which I don't think will be doing you any favors. It will be interesting to see how she behaves with you now if she actually really believes what she said and whether she is going to lose interest in you. With this woman I think you are going to have to change your style and go rougher and have the focus more on you getting off rather then on her pleasure some of the times. Got to be careful she does not end up saying to you, 'if I want sensual then I might as well find me self another gf again'. I didn't think gay guys had a rep for being sensual when they have sex. The few I knew were horn dogs and party dudes and fairly indiscriminate & primal and would **** in toilets, cars, stairwells even one time in a dumpster. 1
lino Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Being compared to gay men or women by your girlfriend is never a good sign. Good luck!
SammySammy Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Being compared to gay men or women by your girlfriend is never a good sign. Good luck! Agreed. I once dated a woman who was constantly suspecting men of being gay. If a guy could sing, he was gay. If he could cook ... gay. If he could dance ... gay. I couldn't get away from that woman fast enough. 2
mongo Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 a little piece of advice...dont take anything a woman says seriously. for the record she sounds retarded.
katiegrl Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I'd take that as in insult. If this woman has slept with a number of other women and also with a bunch of especially horny bfs/f-buddies/ons then chances are she is going to notice the contrast. You are on the more slow & sensuous side of things when it comes to lovemaking as opposed to ****ing Plus the 2.5 mth lag before you had sex doesn't help either. Because of her experiences she relates that more to the women she has been with, which I don't think will be doing you any favors. It will be interesting to see how she behaves with you now if she actually really believes what she said and whether she is going to lose interest in you. With this woman I think you are going to have to change your style and go rougher and have the focus more on you getting off rather then on her pleasure some of the times. Got to be careful she does not end up saying to you, 'if I want sensual then I might as well find me self another gf again'. I didn't think gay guys had a rep for being sensual when they have sex. The few I knew were horn dogs and party dudes and fairly indiscriminate & primal and would **** in toilets, cars, stairwells even one time in a dumpster. Have to agree with this^^^. Sensual is not gay! It's "effeminate," and I suspect THAT is what she actually meant...which is a huge insult! Comparing your "lovemaking" to a girl. Ugh. I suspect you felt that from her to, hence this thread.... Hell, gay men are RAW with each other...and as said in the quote above, totally primal! 1
ascendotum Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Agreed. I once dated a woman who was constantly suspecting men of being gay. If a guy could sing, he was gay. If he could cook ... gay. If he could dance ... gay. I couldn't get away from that woman fast enough. Don't forget if you wear stylish clothes as well or have good manners...you're a fag. I've known a few women like this too (usually working class women), and they are attracted to rougher, loud or boofhead type guys
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I'm sorry but this girl sounds ignorant at best. 2
SammySammy Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Don't forget if you wear stylish clothes as well or have good manners...you're a fag. I've known a few women like this too (usually working class women), and they are attracted to rougher, loud or boofhead type guys Yep. I forgot those two. If he's well-dressed or well-groomed ... gay. If he doesn't belch, fart or scratch himself in public ... gay as hell. She had a whole list of things that made men "gay" in her opinion. It was crazy.
Jonp219 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Not sure whether to be offended or not because I'm unsure if she's trying to offend me by saying something like this last night. We've been dating since April so things are still very young and new and after work last night we went out for drinks and did a little dancing at this small nightclub in the city then we made out for over an hour before making love for the first time. This was when she tells me this craziness of how no straight man kisses, licks and is all over a woman's body the way I was unless he's bisexual, which I'm not at all. She claims to have been with both men and women and says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her that it reminded her of the last girl she dated, minus the facial stubbles. Then she added the fact that I dress up the dead for a living, although I don't do makeup. Maybe she was just drunk when she said these things to me? I've been this way with many women I'm into and never had one say such a thing, except for that bar hopper that did try to cheapen me because I refused to entertain going down on her. Idk was she? You should know. Either way, didn't sound like she took your feelings into consideration when she said that to you. Maybe you should sit down with her and talk about what she actually meant and if it's going to be a problem going forward. Don't worry, my ex told me I was 'small' when we started dating. It burned, but she didn't know any better, she was just use to watching too much porn and didn't know what real life experience was like (I was her first). She felt really bad about it and apologized to me afterwards. Besides, based on the kind of orgasms I gave her and the amazing sex we had, I knew i wasn't small . However, this woman sounds very experienced and she should know better. I would just sit down and talk to her about it, see what she says.
Tayla Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 wow! what an impression for the first time. How was she in relations to your suaveness? Was she equally satisfying ? Was her name dr ruth that she could give such a conclusion with one dip? Perhaps a formal talk is in order.
Author Easyguy14 Posted June 14, 2015 Author Posted June 14, 2015 I'd take that as in insult. If this woman has slept with a number of other women and also with a bunch of especially horny bfs/f-buddies/ons then chances are she is going to notice the contrast. You are on the more slow & sensuous side of things when it comes to lovemaking as opposed to ****ing Plus the 2.5 mth lag before you had sex doesn't help either. Because of her experiences she relates that more to the women she has been with, which I don't think will be doing you any favors. It will be interesting to see how she behaves with you now if she actually really believes what she said and whether she is going to lose interest in you. With this woman I think you are going to have to change your style and go rougher and have the focus more on you getting off rather then on her pleasure some of the times. Got to be careful she does not end up saying to you, 'if I want sensual then I might as well find me self another gf again'. I didn't think gay guys had a rep for being sensual when they have sex. The few I knew were horn dogs and party dudes and fairly indiscriminate & primal and would **** in toilets, cars, stairwells even one time in a dumpster. I fully understand what you're saying to me and said lady is now trying to pretend she was joking after I told her to go ahead and find another chick to entertain you the way she wants to be and now she's apologized and is now claiming that she loves how I do her and she meant it as a compliment not an insult and as a man I shouldn't be sensitive. I'm still not sure.
Omei Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) She sounds like an someone that says a lot of crap before they think to me. I don't know anyone would bring up their ex or suggest you may be bisexual after sex lol Edited June 14, 2015 by Omei
johndoe2 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Yep. I forgot those two. If he's well-dressed or well-groomed ... gay. If he doesn't belch, fart or scratch himself in public ... gay as hell. She had a whole list of things that made men "gay" in her opinion. It was crazy. Ha, now I feel obligated to post this bit by Bill Burr (though in this case I guess it applies to girlfriends too): 1
jen1447 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I'd take it as a compliment if she says you're as good as a girl. Seriously. She may be a bit uncouth but it sounds like she liked it. If it works for you (I assume that's how you roll) and it works for her, for god's sake don't try to 'man up' to 'teach her a lesson' or any silliness like that. You'd be changing who you are to bend to some notion of what the faceless crowd says you should be. btw women can bring it rough. Extremely so. 1
neowulf Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Not sure whether to be offended or not because I'm unsure if she's trying to offend me by saying something like this last night. We've been dating since April so things are still very young and new and after work last night we went out for drinks and did a little dancing at this small nightclub in the city then we made out for over an hour before making love for the first time. This was when she tells me this craziness of how no straight man kisses, licks and is all over a woman's body the way I was unless he's bisexual, which I'm not at all. She claims to have been with both men and women and says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her that it reminded her of the last girl she dated, minus the facial stubbles. Then she added the fact that I dress up the dead for a living, although I don't do makeup. Maybe she was just drunk when she said these things to me? I've been this way with many women I'm into and never had one say such a thing, except for that bar hopper that did try to cheapen me because I refused to entertain going down on her. Eh, this is great example of how our filters effect the way we see the world. See, what *I* took from her statement was "...says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her...". That sounds like a pretty damn awesome compliment man. Who cares what crazy random theory she's come up with to try and explain it? Do you care if she thinks you're bi? Are you? Do you have a problem with people with Bi preferences? I'd take it in your stride man. You know what your preferences are, who you are. Who cares if she's never met anyone like you before. That's a GOOD thing. 1
introverted1 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Eh, this is great example of how our filters effect the way we see the world. See, what *I* took from her statement was "...says I'm the only man to be such a wonderful lover to her...". That sounds like a pretty damn awesome compliment man. Yep. Plus apparently she IS bi, so I wouldn't think she'd mean this as an insult.
Gary S Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 If she was drunk, it might not matter, people say stupid stuff when then they drink. I guess keep her away from the bottle. If she keeps saying stuff like that and keeps putting you down, maybe you'll have to find a new girlfriend who will treat you right. But for now, a one-time offence is not a big deal, everybody makes off-handed remarks. If she's with you, she loves you.
central Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 She may like it but still not respect you. It sounds like she wants a Marlborough Man type - I'd let her go find one, but he probably won't be as smart or sensual.
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