fred123 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 i have heard that the quicker the girl sleeps with a guy the more she likes him compared to other guys. how does a guy know if he is wasting his time with a girl he really likes? i hear a lot of excuses get made here by women on behalf of the women for example this thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/532958-should-i-fix i believe the same girl if she was into OP would still be more receptive despite how busy she is. i see the same girl is different with other guys she is into. question is how do we guys know when to bail or not before getting invested?
GemmaUK Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 i have heard that the quicker the girl sleeps with a guy the more she likes him compared to other guys. Not necessarily so. She may just feel like having sex. People are all different. Just because one is male or female doesn't mean they behave in a particular way. 2
TheBathWater Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) i have heard that the quicker the girl sleeps with a guy the more she likes him compared to other guys. how does a guy know if he is wasting his time with a girl he really likes? i hear a lot of excuses get made here by women on behalf of the women for example this thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/532958-should-i-fix i believe the same girl if she was into OP would still be more receptive despite how busy she is. i see the same girl is different with other guys she is into. question is how do we guys know when to bail or not before getting invested? Ha! You linked to my thread. And yes, I agree if she was into me she would be more receptive too Most of the time, you never really know if you are wasting your time and effort with someone. IME, unless someone is very self-assured of what they are after, non-aloof, and an excellent communicator all the way through (so basically, the antithesis of the fickle modern dater with 'options'), then it is a gamble. I have had two LTR's - one for two years, another for five. In both cases, we were into each other from day one. Sure, we did it right and took it slow, but we both knew what we were after and were going to make it happen. And we did. As for the sex thing, there's really no way to tell. I've heard it can go either way, but IME, women who jump into bed early on are not seeking commitment (at least not with you). Sex is supposed to produce hormones that bring people together though, so you've got to wonder how the hell people are seemingly able to repress those processes and just be all loosey-goosey (no pun intended). Edited June 14, 2015 by TunaInTheBrine
Jonp219 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 i have heard that the quicker the girl sleeps with a guy the more she likes him compared to other guys. how does a guy know if he is wasting his time with a girl he really likes? i hear a lot of excuses get made here by women on behalf of the women for example this thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/532958-should-i-fix i believe the same girl if she was into OP would still be more receptive despite how busy she is. i see the same girl is different with other guys she is into. question is how do we guys know when to bail or not before getting invested? For me it's hard to look at a girl as 'girlfriend material' if she gives it up too quickly. I'll have sex with her, but I would get disinterested very quickly. I have more respect and admiration for women who want to make me wait, whether she likes me a lot or not.
ascendotum Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 (edited) i have heard that the quicker the girl sleeps with a guy the more she likes him compared to other guys. how does a guy know if he is wasting his time with a girl he really likes? i hear a lot of excuses get made here by women on behalf of the women for example this thread here: I tend to believe this as well, though of course you will get opinions that differ. Sure the girl might not be interested in a relationship and is just screwing around but if you meet her that night and she is eager to go back to her place soon after it still means she is very into you (physically anyway). So yeah it could be a case of being in the right place at the right time with this girl who is out for fun only. I could see that could give a guy the wrong impression (Ive had it and seen posts form other guys on here with same situation) and make him think he's on a good thing especially if the sex was great and he didn't drop his standards for the ONS, but he's going to be the one PnD'd. I don't mind waiting a bit but there needs to be strong IOIs from the woman with good flirting and escalation of things each time. In my relationships where the women were quick to sleep with me the sexual chemistry was definitely better, compared to the ones that wanted to take it slow. Also when I was in better shape physically (bulked up) women where more eager to sleep quick and more willing to please, so those experiences color my feelings on this subject. There is catch 22 on this though in that quite a few guys will assume she is easy and has done the same thing with dozens of other guys and so wont be interested in a relationship. If the guy is a player himself and is the sort of guy she typically goes for then, there is a reasonable chance that's true. If a guy tends to struggle a bit when it comes to women then imo he will be less likely to be judgmental and will appreciate a girl who he likes and who is really keen for him and shows it. Women In their 20s though and if they allow themselves to have a few drinks I still think a lot of them will take their chances when it comes to a guy that turns them on. Edited June 14, 2015 by ascendotum
aloneinaz Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 It is necessarily so with few exceptions. Some girls will make guys wait many months, but when she discovers a guy she's really into it'll be so quick. I'd feel very sorry for any guy or girl who waited months before having sex with someone they were dating. I don't think you need to screw the first few dates but I'd say in my years of dating, the average amount of dates before sex was 3. I also wouldn't look down on a girl that had sex on the first date either if the date/chemistry/connection was 100%. Yes, sometimes people just want to get laid but other times, sex on the first date just means that both were into each other and went with it.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I'd feel very sorry for any guy or girl who waited months before having sex with someone they were dating. I don't think you need to screw the first few dates but I'd say in my years of dating, the average amount of dates before sex was 3. I also wouldn't look down on a girl that had sex on the first date either if the date/chemistry/connection was 100%. Yes, sometimes people just want to get laid but other times, sex on the first date just means that both were into each other and went with it. I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex on the first date personally I think everyone sees it differently though. Some girls (or guys) will freak out about it, and others just continue business like usual.
Jonp219 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 ]I'd feel very sorry for any guy or girl who waited months before having sex with someone they were dating. [/b]I don't think you need to screw the first few dates but I'd say in my years of dating, the average amount of dates before sex was 3. I also wouldn't look down on a girl that had sex on the first date either if the date/chemistry/connection was 100%. Yes, sometimes people just want to get laid but other times, sex on the first date just means that both were into each other and went with it. I guess I'm just too weird about it, but that doesn't bother you that a girl wants to **** the first date? That's like one of my top 3 red flags.
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