fire Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 what to do guys, he has stuff of mine. he has had it for a long time and hasnt returned it still. i made contact (broke 1 month n.c) to ask for it back and also to be friendly. he made it clear that he did not want to be friends and i said ok just drop my stuff off (its small enough to post thru mailbox), i said make sure you do it soon please as i want it. he said he would. however, he still has not returned it. now i feel that he thinks i am trying to get him to see me which i do not want him to think. ok, so the stuff is not expensive and not sentimental, just a couple of books, i however dont have enough money to replace it. he does know i am broke. i feel like he thinks i am just trying anything to get to see him. i have only contacted him twice since he broke it off over a month ago. one initial annoyed email, and this. however, i really dont want to look pathetic. what do i do? send email saying, i replaced stuff, you can keep it??
BrotherAaron Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Just leave it, no explanation needed. If it's not worth causing a mess to get it back, forget about it. It's easier to buy new books then deal with this emotional drama.
Merin Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron Just leave it, no explanation needed. If it's not worth causing a mess to get it back, forget about it. It's easier to buy new books then deal with this emotional drama. Good Advice... If the items really aren't expensive (and for real sometimes even if they are/were) it isn't worth the BS in trying to get the things back AND most of the time it is viewed as an excuse to make contact... I agree with Aaron.. you don't need to do anything else about this.. leave it alone. If he sends the books back then good to go.. but if he doesn't then just leave it alone..
fire Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 ok thanks guys, so i shouldnt say "dont bother, i have replaced them"?? this means i have to put up with him thinking i have used this for contact and i am back to square one.
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