guild11 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Hey guys, I(25) have a girlfriend(25) from diffrent ethnic, everything goes well and our relationship gets more serious, Since my parents are out of the country I was talking to my sister and mom and sent some pics of her, their reaction got me really upset. My mom started telling me she isnt for me and she doesnt look trust worthy, same things said my sister. my dad didnt care much, he just asked why cant I date a girl from our "circle". She introduced me to her mother and her reaction was totally opposite, she said I'm very handsome and look like a good guy, my GF said that her mom has good sense when it comes to people and shes happy that her mom likes me. My parents arent racists but I feel ashamed of them, judging a person by photos, I also kinda lost any interest letting my parents to meet her while they already built up negatively towards her. I also told my mom a while ago before I had my GF that I'm moving out but she was against that because I'm still a student, few days I reminded her about that and said that I will move out once they return and she probably think that I do so because of my gf when in reality its me and my friend who rent a house. Overall I dont what to do, I kinda feel going against my parents... I really wanted them to get along.
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 You're an adult. What you do is up to you. Your future happiness isn't dependent on gaining any type or measure of approval from your parents or family.
Haydn Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 My old Mum never approved of any girls.....(Still does not) Did i listen? No.
sandylee1 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 So they're judging her based on a photo? At the end of the day , it's down to you to date who you wish to. When you're just dating, it's not so bad , but if you later get serious and want to get married, you need to be strong enough to stand up to your parents or be prepared to cut them out of your life if they continue to disapprove. Maybe if they get to know her as a person, they'll find she's a nice girl , but if deep down they don't want their child with someone from another race, it could put a strain on your relationship. A black friend of mine married a white guy and his parent's were racist . They'd say things like 'when you have babies it will be like bouncing a monkey on my lap ' To get through all the negativity , the couple has to be really strong or the pressure becomes too much .
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