single_beauty95 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 My boyfriend has newish flat mates and I'm going to stay the night. When he ran it by them, one of the two replied, "Only if she gets us some chocolate!" as a joke, I'm sure, and as my bf assured me. They all three are not the best of friends, yet they all work together, come from the same country, live together, thus you can call say they are at least a bit close. I want to show up with a small chocolate bar for the guy with the comment, just to make them to laugh or hopefully even like me. See me in a positive light. I trust my bf probably has already indicated positive things about me, but it'd just be great if his 'friends' would dig me too Will my small chocolate bar idea seem weird/stupid?
Satu Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 My boyfriend has newish flat mates and I'm going to stay the night. When he ran it by them, one of the two replied, "Only if she gets us some chocolate!" as a joke, I'm sure, and as my bf assured me. They all three are not the best of friends, yet they all work together, come from the same country, live together, thus you can call say they are at least a bit close. I want to show up with a small chocolate bar for the guy with the comment, just to make them to laugh or hopefully even like me. See me in a positive light. I trust my bf probably has already indicated positive things about me, but it'd just be great if his 'friends' would dig me too Will my small chocolate bar idea seem weird/stupid? No it isn't weird or stupid, just a fun gesture.
carhill Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Buy gifts for your boyfriend as you see fit. The flatmates are strangers. They have friends who can buy them gifts. I personally have known only three people, outside of my exW and mother, who've bought me gifts, two being the wives of my two best male friends and the third a best female friend of a couple decades. Such generosity evolved over many years of getting to know and love each other. Now, if it's a custom in your culture to bring gifts to certain interactions, that's a different story. As example, when I would visit a lady's family in Russia or Ukraine, I always brought a odd number of flowers to her mother and a bottle of vodka to her father. That was custom. I never did that here at home in California. People would laugh. I did a few times and they did! Heh! Be selective with your generosity. That way it is valued. What is easily given away generally is perceived to be of little value, IMO.
Gary S Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Buy him something really silly like a chocolate Easter bunny!
d0nnivain Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I'd bring some kind of chocolate they can all share, like a plate of cookies or brownies. A good guest never shows up empty handed. 1
Author single_beauty95 Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 Maybe "buy gifts" was taking it too far. To be honest I was just going for a catchy title to get more of a response. It is not elaborate gifts I speak of, just a chocolate bar.
michellew Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I don't think you need to win them over with candy, but with your personality. If you still want to bring something, just get a bag of fun size chocolate for everyone to share.
GemmaUK Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Yeah, why not? It's only cheap and pretty amusing seeing as one of them asked. I'd do it!
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