Jessevh Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 (edited) Okay, I need to ask this because I'm pretty oblivious about this stuff. This girl I really like is going on a date with another guy and I'm not entirely sure what to think. We went on a date just over a week ago, it went well and she told me she had fun. She started inviting me to do more and more things since then such as a party with her friends and I ended up crashing on her couch. She wakes me up in the middle of the night to talk about some pretty personal things, which was great. We ended up spending the day together, she brought along during bra shopping and even let me use her toothbrush. A couple hours after I get home she texts me asking if I want to eat dinner with her at her place, which we did, then hung out watching Netflix for a few hours before going out to another event with her sister. On the way back the topic of her going on a date with someone else came up and now I'm pretty confused. Is she in to me or is it something else? Advice from the ladies would be great. Edited June 13, 2015 by Jessevh
La.Primavera Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 If you don't want her to date someone else then you need to tell her that. Don't leave the door open for another guy to swoop in. Let her know what you want. 1
elaine567 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Okay, I need to ask this because I'm pretty oblivious about this stuff. This girl I really like is going on a date with another guy and I'm not entirely sure what to think. We went on a date just over a week ago, it went well and she told me she had fun. She started inviting me to do more and more things since then such as a party with her friends and I ended up crashing on her couch. She wakes me up in the middle of the night to talk about some pretty personal things, which was great. We ended up spending the day together, she brought along during bra shopping and even let me use her toothbrush. A couple hours after I get home she texts me asking if I want to eat dinner with her at her place, which we did, then hung out watching Netflix for a few hours before going out to another event with her sister. On the way back the topic of her going on a date with someone else came up and now I'm pretty confused. Is she in to me or is it something else? Advice from the ladies would be great. You are being put in the friend zone. Ask her out on a proper date again. Kiss her if the opportunity arises. Act like a man who wants to date her, else she will see you just like another girl. Before you know it she will be discussing her dates with you, as well as her shoes and makeup.
katiegrl Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 (edited) If you don't want her to date someone else then you need to tell her that. Don't leave the door open for another guy to swoop in. Let her know what you want. ^^^This!! As a man, you are the masculine energy...the leader. Being the masculine energy means asking her what she wants and letting her know what you want! My boyfriend asked me on our first date whether I multi-date or date "one at a time.". God, I gained so much respect for him for asking me that. I told him I date "one at a time," he responded so did he, and our relationship took off from there. It is difficult to impossible to develop a true intimate connection with ONE, when you juggle many simultaneously. Ugh. Edited June 13, 2015 by katiegrl
jen1447 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I don't know ....she may just be 'dating.' Having had one with her and a few hangouts isn't exactly an ionclad lock on her relationship future.
Author Jessevh Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 How do I tell her I don't want her to date someone else if we're not exactly "together"?
fred123 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 though is she was interested in OP she wouldn't want to jeopardise things with OP by going on a date with someone else or even mentioning it to him....?
jen1447 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 How do I tell her I don't want her to date someone else if we're not exactly "together"? I guess you could just say that outright and see how she reacts but you really have no grounds for making any demands. It sounds like making any claims to exclusivity would be premature.
TheBathWater Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I guess you could just say that outright and see how she reacts but you really have no grounds for making any demands. It sounds like making any claims to exclusivity would be premature. I agree with this. If you're involved with her but don't feel comfortable about her seeing other people, I doubt you'll be able to stomach it for more than a few. Say it outright and see how she reacts. You're not telling her what to do. You're telling her what you want. There's a difference.
katiegrl Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 (edited) though is she was interested in OP she wouldn't want to jeopardise things with OP by going on a date with someone else or even mentioning it to him....? Yeah really, why mention it? Either she told him to push him away....or she told him to elicit jealousy prompting him to ask her to be exclusive. He had no reason to know who else she is dating...she did not have to tell him. The girl has got an agenda.... Edited June 13, 2015 by katiegrl
Author Jessevh Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 (edited) I do know that she likes attention from guys. She likes to know that guys are interested even if she doesn't return it. She even told me the time and place of her date. Also said she'd call me the day after (tomorrow). Maybe I'm overthinking things but I seriously like her and I'm very confused. I also know that she's not pushing me away, at least not out of her life completely, because she has texted me today more than I have responded. What katiegrl said about her trying to get a response out of me does make sense, though. I have been pretty passive with her because I've been afraid of scaring her off. Time to stop being that way, I think... Edited June 13, 2015 by Jessevh
katiegrl Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I do know that she likes attention from guys. She likes to know that guys are interested even if she doesn't return it. She even told me the time and place of her date. Also said she'd call me the day after (tomorrow). Maybe I'm overthinking things but I seriously like her and I'm very confused. I also know that she's not pushing me away, at least not out of her life completely, because she has texted me today more than I have responded. What katiegrl said about her trying to get a response out of me does make sense, though. I have been pretty passive with her because I've been afraid of scaring her off. Time to stop being that way, I think... She told you the time and the place? Lol Oh god this girl is so obvious. Probably hopes you show up...cause a scene...two guys fighting for her attention....there is a name for chicks like her. And it's not flattering.... Good luck though...
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