frankie Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I Worry about my boyfriends prioritys. He seems to value most things more than me it seems especially when im not with him that he almost forgets im alive. He doesnt want to spend too much time with me in case the relationship becomes mundane. but when we do see each other its great. Example: I went down to his local he wasn't there but our mutual friends were. I had tried calling and txting him earlier but he hadnt replied but two of my friends had recived calls and txt's off him, made me feel horrid. He also does things like invite me over then leave me there and go down the pub with his mate, Everything seems more important especially the pub and his friends. All i want to do is see him but i find my self holding back just in case he doesn't. I know hes been hurt before by girls but im not them....
agnf666 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 His prioritys could be a number of things. I think he has been taking to much time with him self then with you. Your boyfriend seems like he rather be with friends then you. That is a bad thing. You need to talk to him and ask him what is going on... Ask him why he doesn't want to spend some time with you. If he doesn't give you a good answer then maybe you should break it off with him since he just doesn't seem to want to spend time with you anyways.
Cecelius Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by frankie He seems to value most things more than me it seems especially when im not with him that he almost forgets im alive. A good man has lots of outside interests and understands that a relationship compliments his life. It is not ALL or even most of his life. Originally posted by frankie He doesnt want to spend too much time with me in case the relationship becomes mundane. but when we do see each other its great. So far his approach seems to be working? Just let him know you two get along famously and you'd be interested in being around him more.
Frankie Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 It's nice to get other peoples opinion, especially when you have an out ide looking in position. I find you cant always see whats good for you, when you get too involved. He hates getting confronted, i know this is childish but im scared if i start talking about all this we will have a row, like we did before and then we'll break up. but im not sure i can put up with him as it is. catch22. don't relly cherish the idea of bein on my own again and don't want to give up on him and us. I'm sure there is some normality in him, maybe i should give him a relationship manual saying things like call her now and again it will stop her gettin up set with you.
faux Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Originally posted by frankie All i want to do is see him but i find my self holding back just in case he doesn't. This does not make sense to me. You want to see your boyfriend, whom you have a right to see, yet you avoid him because you think he does not want to see you. Confusing. I know hes been hurt before by girls but im not them.... Now he is hurting a girl, and that girl is you. You are afraid to confront him I see, and afraid that doing so will lead to an end of this relationship. I'm not too sure I would call what you two have a relationship if this is the case.
Frankie Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 thankyou i need a bit of back up. make sure im not over reacting.
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