Ninjainpajamas Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Look, even if you told his wife there are a few situations that could be present; - He's a known cheater, she already has a suspicion or an gut feeling/idea but she doesn't want to accept the fact that he is cheating (very common with women in denial) - They are separated and going through a lot of relationship problems (meaning that they're not officially together and maybe haven't been in a while, in spite of what online photos may reflect) - The wife will target you as the "hoe" and the enemy, and feel the desire to get rid of YOU, as women often isolate a mans behavior in conjunction with the behavior...meaning in the way many women think, they want to isolate the "problem" and get rid of it, because they don't want to get rid of the man for whatever reason. At the end of the day, it's potential drama for you....now could you do something random and anonymous? sure, you could cause drama or find him on FB or wherever it is and try to "bust him" but you should have proof of some kind before making such claims for his wife to believe or to take serious...he will likely talk his way out of it anyway as most guys do. As far as him selling himself off as "single"...that could be because he's a manipulator and a cheater, or because he doesn't want to divulge all of his personal information to you just yet...it's possible, although probably unlikely, that he may explain that to you in the future. I had this situation actually occur with a woman recently, she said one thing first in the moment...and then tracked me down later on to tell me the truth. She wasn't trying to lie, she just didn't feel like being transparent in the moment and I understand why. At any rate...if you trust your gut, and you feel like he is a douchebag liar, and since you are the one who has interacted with him, and the odds of him not being manipulative and just being a plain ole cheater, then go ahead..make him pay for the pain he may and very likely will cause to a woman when she falls for him and then he has to spill the beans that he's married with two kids, but she's on the hook already and doesn't really budge. My only thing is, since he's got a family with two kids..could he be separated if he has time to spend talking to you or going on dates? either way, he lied to you and I understand your feelings of revenge for the deception, it could've been a lot worse in the end.
sandylee1 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 A*ssholes like this CONTINUE to get away with the crap they pull on innocent women exactly for the reason you stated - "I'm not going to tell his wife because she'll be hurt." Of course she'll be hurt. She married a scumbag who preys on innocent women who are just looking to meet nice men on a dating site. Your silence will just continue to let the con man go on conning women. He conned you, lied to you, and played you. He's not deserving of respect. At all. I'd print out this dirt bag's profile on the dating site in full color - every single word and picture - and send it to his wife certified mail. That's how you stop these jerks. Not by keeping their secrets FOR them. Great idea like I said earlier . If he's seperated or has an open relationship, then it won't bother his wife will it ? I'd do this anonymously like i said to avoid any backlash. I'd want to know if my husband was going on dates.
Gaeta Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Did you have sex together? If yes then tell him you have herpes. That should keep his mind busy for the next 8 weeks. 2
petertemplar Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 You sound really immature plotting some juvenile "revenge" on the guy. Maybe you will hurt his family. Maybe he will hurt you. Maybe he's the biggest schmuck in the world. Leave it alone. 1
Toodaloo Posted June 19, 2015 Posted June 19, 2015 Thoughts? Ideas on some fun things I can do to mess with him? Do not mess with this guy. Block delete and walk away. If he asks why tell him that its because he is married. Accept no bull and just disengage from the situation entirely. That is what you do if you want to walk away with any dignity. His time will come and he will get his "comeuppance" one way or another... You do not need to be a part of that. 1
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