MIAho Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I work at a school as a substitute teacher and have gotten friendly with a Math teacher who I occassionally help out. We would talk a little before school and even during class. Sometimes she stops by my class whenever I’m covering another teacher to talk with me and see how my day is going. She even jokes and acts playful with me, as I always am with her. Last week, she found my Facebook page and friended me. The next day, she messaged me on FB asking me for my phone number so she could tell me about an incident that happened in her class and joked that it was my fault since I wasn't around. For the next week, she continued to text and call me to talk about stuff that was both work-related and not work related. She even encouraged me to complete my certification and talk to the Principal about a full-time job and told me that she wanted her classroom to be two doors down from hers. Occassionally some of her texts have gotten a little flirtatious. Last weekend, after she was having trouble finishing grading some papers, she called me up and jokingly asked me to come over to her place so I could help her. Then told me that needed to move closer to where she lived. Another time, she joked that she wanted me to carry her to the bathroom, so she wouldn't have to walk there and shared a story of her deepest fears. After the meeting with the Principal went well, I decided to ask her if she wanted to get together at the end of the school year. She seemed a little surprised and told me she had to figure out her schedule. Since then, I've noticed a change in how she is around me. While she still texts me, she doesn't text me as much as she previously did. She still talks to me but she keeps her interactions with me brief and work-related. She still does give me a big smile when she sees me and likes everything that I post on Facebook but something seems a little off. Is she interested in me, playing hard to get or something else? What should I do?
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I think she is being pretty obvious.......obviously disappointed you didn't have the ballz to just ask her out on a proper date. You lack confidence.....it was pretty evident, because you only suggested "getting together" at the end of the school year.....lame. She went to a lot of effort and a meetup at the end of the year is all she gets. Gotta show more interest than that.
Author MIAho Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 I think she is being pretty obvious.......obviously disappointed you didn't have the ballz to just ask her out on a proper date. You lack confidence.....it was pretty evident, because you only suggested "getting together" at the end of the school year.....lame. She went to a lot of effort and a meetup at the end of the year is all she gets. Gotta show more interest than that. Actually she was the one who suggested the end of the year.
Keenly Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I think she is being pretty obvious.......obviously disappointed you didn't have the ballz to just ask her out on a proper date. You lack confidence.....it was pretty evident, because you only suggested "getting together" at the end of the school year.....lame. She went to a lot of effort and a meetup at the end of the year is all she gets. Gotta show more interest than that. Perhaps she should do a better job expressing her desires and ask him out if that's what she wants. Dude you have a green light here. Just go for it. Failproof
SammySammy Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Perhaps she should do a better job expressing her desires and ask him out if that's what she wants. Dude you have a green light here. Just go for it. Failproof Right. When a woman gives you a green light ... go! Don't ask her should you go. Don't sit there and wonder should you go. Don't say maybe you'll go at the end of the year. She wanted you to take the initiative and just do something. Not ask her to make a decision about it. That's a turn off.
newmoon Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 it sounds like you're keeping it very professional (good for you, i'm a fan of that!) and she's pursuing you quite blatantly. so, you either take her up on it or stop her before she embarrasses herself further. either way make sure you won't be working together in the fall... co-worker relationships often go south.
Author MIAho Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 it sounds like you're keeping it very professional (good for you, i'm a fan of that!) and she's pursuing you quite blatantly. so, you either take her up on it or stop her before she embarrasses herself further. either way make sure you won't be working together in the fall... co-worker relationships often go south. Plus since I was asking the Principal about a full-time job, I didn't want to do anything that could possibly jeopardize that, since I've been trying to get a full-time job at this school for nearly 4 years.
joseb Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 YEah because of the work situation you were in a bit of a difficult position. But the fact that you didn't make a move despite all the indications of interest on her part was probably disappointing for her. Maybe have a chat with her - ask her out properly (time/date in near future) and explain that you would have earlier but didn't want it to be an issue in work until you became permanent. Personally i'm not a big fan of work romances so think about it - what would it be like working there if things go pear shaped?
Author MIAho Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 Another update. Yesterday she called me and we spoke for about half an hour. We talked about our weekend plans and I mentioned that I was going to the movies with a friend and she asked if the friend that I going with was female or if I was going on a date? Is it a good sign if she's trying to find out if I'm going out on dates?
mortensorchid Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 If you like her as well, I say go for it. But get ready for a special set of drama to unfold when you are with a coworker. You have no time alone because you occupy the same space, there will be little to no "mystery" about either one of you. I was where you are/were a few months ago, and I was rejected by the hot math teacher. We haven't seen/spoken to each other since I was rejected via text in over six months. Fortunately I no longer work at the same school as he does so we don't have to see each other anymore, but I wonder what would have gone down had we continued there. I think there is another issue at work here, which is "do you WANT to be with her"? You seem to be asking yourself that question by posting this here. Do DO you want to be with her? Whatever the answer should be your answer to her.
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