Tabl Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I've liked this one guy for almost a year now. We had something three times but i always kind of felt like he used me. Once he drove me home and i kissed him, he was like "im sorry if you wanted something more". On the other side he always looks at me when i talk to other guys, or even says something to them 'as a joke' in front of me. Sometimes he gives me mixed signals and i don't know what to do. I see him about 3 times every week and i feel kind of sad when i come home and can't stop thinking about him. But he also kind of trusts me. He gave me his credit card and number and last time out of nowhere he told me his mum died a few years ago. It's just terrible. He's a REALLY nice person and i don't know if i've ever met anyone like him. He is 21 (im 20), works a lot (he has 4 brothers and lives only with his father), studies at the same time, is so chill and relaxed, polite, everybody likes him,... If he would just let me get a bit closer i think we could really get along. I'm not sure why he changed so much, but he had a girlfriend for 2-3 years and after this i have a feeling that he sleeps with girls only for one night. Maybe he's afraid of loosing somebody he loves (like his mother)? I'm not really sure how he and his gf broke up, but maybe he couldn't get over it for a long time, now he just doesn't want to go through this again. (maybe i'm just creating strange theories since i had a psychology test a week ago) I don't think i would be able to ask him anything about us, it would seriously hurt my feelings. Is there anything i should pay attention to so i could know? Anything i could try to do? Please don't be hateful. I had to at least tell somebody about this and know that somebody is listening to me.
preraph Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 You're overthinking it. He's not giving this nearly as much thought as you are. He told you point-blank he didn't want a relationship. Just because he confides in you doesn't mean he wants a romantic relationship with you. Don't go imagining that he's damaged or something. He's 21. Most guys at that age just want to get laid and no strings and no commitment and no responsibilities. Trust me when i tell you plenty of guys who don't want you will still get their ego bruised if you look like you might like someone else. But they do not want you. They just like the ego boost of knowing you are pining after them. If he wanted you, he'd be coming after you full on. You've had plenty of opportunity seeing him all the time to give him a chance to get interested. But he's still not looking for that with you. You are doing yourself a disservice if you waste one more month hoping he'll magically get serious about you. I had a guy I spent a lot of time with and was in love with. Finally he told me I wasn't his type and the very next night, he came unglued when he saw me getting flirted on heavily by another guy. He didn't want me, but he needed me for a satellite, I guess. 1
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