wonderwoman83 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 My ex ended it after a heated argument when I told him I felt he was being different. It was out the blue. After he ended it, I was so shocked and hurt, I didn't reply, I deleted and blocked him from any social media as I didn't want to know what he was up to. That was 41 days ago and have remained in no contact since that day. I was just starting to feel good and back on track, when out the blue I seen him and he seen me but quickly looked the other way. I was absolutely stunned?! I feel like I have been punched and can't help feel sad. That someone I thought I would be with forever now blanks me.....I didn't think it would hurt this much.
erklat Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 That's normal interaction between failed romantic partners. 3
ZiggyZoo Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Oooh, that does hurt. But you'll come to realize that it's actually a lot better this way. He's not being sort of nice, and causing you hours of "What is he thinking? Does he want to get back together? Should I call/text/message him?". My ex-husband was so mean to me right after he left, and it turned out to be the best thing, since I knew exactly where he stood. It gets easier. Good job on the NC too, 41 days is excellent! 1
Jimmyjackson Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Seems pretty normal to be honest. If I seen my ex now I'd also just pretend to be on my phone or look straight past her. 2
Tayla Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 yup, i am nieve, what does blanking someone mean? Will say this though, staying nc has worked in your favor. you deserve credit for maintaining. 1
erklat Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 yup, i am nieve, what does blanking someone mean? Will say this though, staying nc has worked in your favor. you deserve credit for maintaining. He ignored her. That being said, she would have broke NC if she was given an opportunity. In my book acknowledging them in public is also breaking NC. 1
Tayla Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 He ignored her. That being said, she would have broke NC if she was given an opportunity. In my book acknowledging them in public is also breaking NC. Thanks for the translation! Since people are bound to run into others in "PUBLIC", I think we can dismiss the eye contact as breaking the NC status. I passed an ex in my car one day, and yup I made eye contact, but by golly , I said to myself, Hey! Small world. It happens. I didn't go back to counting again or even wallowing, I drove on, as it should be. We do co-exist in this world, its a matter of how much we allow it to affect us. 1
erklat Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 I would look in the eyes too but I wouldn't acknowledge her. As I said, failed romantic partners are not entitled to anything including general civility.
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