bamaguy20 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 So ive been talking to this girl Ive known for a few weeks now....I can tell she really digs me, comes over to make me soup when im sick, always wants to hang out....Im slightly older than her, im 21.....anyhow.....she seems like a girl i could date...we haven't had sex yet, which almost makes me glad knowing she isnt some big slut that will have sex with anyone she meets after a couple weeks.....so..her birthday is coming up soon, she and her friends are goin out and she wants me and a copule of my friends to go out with them...so what im wondering is, i know i should probably get her something, but what...I was thinking about getting her this silver heart necklace, but dont konw if that might be a little too soon for something like that...i dont think so, but i was wondering what you guys thought..also any other ideas would be greatly appreciated...thanks
HoldOn Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I was thinking about getting her this silver heart necklace, That would be lovely if you were actually DATING, instead of "talking."
jp79 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Are you dating her or not? If not, don't get her jewellery; it's a bit too strong. Just keep in mind that people are usually very flattered with ANY gift, particularly when it's from someone they didn't expect to get a gift from. It doesn't have to be expensive or breath-taking. A gift is just meant to show the person that you were thinking about her.
Author bamaguy20 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 Any ideas??? Im not too good at picking out gifts for girls........And I mean how can you really tell when you are dating someone in the early stages.....This isn't 9th grade where the question needs to be asked so it leaves room for second guessing and uncertainty......is it when you have sex on a pretty frequent basis, hang out all the time, kiss al the time....how do you really know???? that is of course without me sitting down like a giant tool and asking her straight up, are we dating... **In addition, I thought mabye getting her a gift such as the one described might give her a better idea that id like to "officially" start dating her...what do you guys think, thanks..
jp79 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 You're dating when you go out with her for (MUTUAL) romantic reasons. It's not so complicated! Get her a stuffed animal, or a book, or aromatic candles if she's into that kind of thing. It really doesn't matter, she'll appreciate the thought. (Just don't get something that is useless and will get thrown away). But I'm really curious now: are you dating or not? What exactly is the nature of your relationship with her?
Author bamaguy20 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 we hang out on the weekends, (have plans to do something this weekend as well), , we kiss pretty ffrequently, she spent the night with me before, although we havent had sex yet.....she is kinda touchy feely in public, but not over the top, so that doesnt bother me...she came over last night and wathced a movie and tried to take care of me becuase i am pretty sick with strep throat......i know she likes me a lot it seems....she leaves me text messages during the day......I really dont know how to approach things though....shes realllly good lookin and usually dates guys for a good while from what ive heard her talk about ex boyfriends...this will be my first relationship since my last girlfriend of 2 yeras broke up with me......I just dont want to do somethign to werd her out...what do you think about my situation?
faux Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by bamaguy20 Any ideas??? Im not too good at picking out gifts for girls........And I mean how can you really tell when you are dating someone in the early stages.....This isn't 9th grade where the question needs to be asked so it leaves room for second guessing and uncertainty......is it when you have sex on a pretty frequent basis, hang out all the time, kiss al the time....how do you really know???? that is of course without me sitting down like a giant tool and asking her straight up, are we dating... Two people who are dating are two people who agree to date, either exclusively or while dating others. Ask this girl if she is considering this upcoming get-together a date with you; ask her if she wants to date you, because you are interested in dating her. Obviously the question of whether or not anything is going to happen between you is on your mind. I think it is better to be forward and ask what is going on, then tell her what you would like to happen. It's really quite simple. **In addition, I thought mabye getting her a gift such as the one described might give her a better idea that id like to "officially" start dating her...what do you guys think, thanks.. Before you get her anything, go talk to her and find out what the situation is between the two of you. The only way you are going to let her know you want to date her is by telling her, "I want to date you". The only way you will find out if she wants to date you is by asking her, "Do you want to date me?" Direct "yes" or "no" questions are probably the best way to go about this. Once you know what she thinks, you will be able to decide what to buy this girl, if you want to buy her anything. At the very least just get her a thoughtful birthday card, and maybe some flowers. Considering you do not know her very well yet, I think that type of a "typical" gift will be welcomed. Originally posted by bamaguy20 ......I really dont know how to approach things though....shes realllly good lookin and usually dates guys for a good while from what ive heard her talk about ex boyfriends...this will be my first relationship since my last girlfriend of 2 yeras broke up with me......I just dont want to do somethign to werd her out...what do you think about my situation? She is either a really nice friend of yours, she is interested in dating you, or in her mind she actually thinks the two of you are already dating. Whatever the case may be, most people don't end up taking care of non-relatives so well when they are ill; if she doesn't want to date you, she will make an excellent friend. Again, I say just ask her what is going on and tell her how you feel. Be blunt and be brief. If you are OK with just being friends with her, telling her how you feel will kind of clear the air. If you never tell her about your feelings, things will just continue to be awkward.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by bamaguy20 we hang out on the weekends, (have plans to do something this weekend as well), , we kiss pretty ffrequently, she spent the night with me before, although we havent had sex yet.....she is kinda touchy feely in public, but not over the top, so that doesnt bother me...she came over last night and wathced a movie and tried to take care of me becuase i am pretty sick with strep throat......i know she likes me a lot it seems....she leaves me text messages during the day......I really dont know how to approach things though....shes realllly good lookin and usually dates guys for a good while from what ive heard her talk about ex boyfriends...this will be my first relationship since my last girlfriend of 2 yeras broke up with me......I just dont want to do somethign to werd her out...what do you think about my situation? she sounds like she really does dig you! i like your plan of the necklace and the asking her "officially" out..... i think that is just sooooo sweet! plus it can also be a thank you for the doctoring she has been doing for you. some flowers would be nice too!
HoldOn Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Okay, then you are dating! Get her the necklace, ask her to "officially" date her. She'll LOOVE it!
Author bamaguy20 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 laright i think ill go with the necklace...im not too concerned about her not wanting it, or not wanting a relationship with me beucase im 99.9% positive she would if i made it clear...hopefully this will make it clear without me having to spell every little thing out..if not i guess ill just have to lay it to her and be blunt....thanks for the advice, as always you guys have been helpful.
faux Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by bamaguy20 laright i think ill go with the necklace...im not too concerned about her not wanting it, or not wanting a relationship with me beucase im 99.9% positive she would if i made it clear...hopefully this will make it clear without me having to spell every little thing out..if not i guess ill just have to lay it to her and be blunt....thanks for the advice, as always you guys have been helpful. Just go ahead and spell it out for her; it can't hurt, and you'll be certain to get your point across.
Jadey Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 I say something simple like a card and flowers..Just nothing too strong just yet. I think that thenecklace would be a little too much just fornow Good luck mate
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