kasop Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Its unbearable. All i want to do is say hey. Maybe test the waters. Its been awhile. She was the last to break nc and we got in a stupid fight over it.. before that it was a month. Just a hey how are you. Ive read everything under the sun about nc and been all over this forum. Is it the risk that i want? The rush i get right after i send that text? Theres always that chance. Ive changed alot sense the b/u and we had such a strong connection. I know what went wrong and ive learned. I know it took me some time. Ive allready broke nc by looking at her fb.. even tho i dont have her as a friend i got to see her profile pic. It made me melt a little. It took my whole life to find a girl like this and i drove her away. Any advice would be great LS
NopeNah Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 That rush you speak of is going to be you staring at your phone waiting for a reply that may not come.
Novice Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 That rush you speak of is going to be you staring at your phone waiting for a reply that may not come. But what if she replies?
Author kasop Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 I havent done it yet. I think im just having a moment. It would most likely piss her off and she would chew me out :/
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Trust me: it's not worth it. I've wanted nothing more for the past few days than to do this very thing. If they don't respond, we feel ten times worse. You can always take the chance, but I feel that, judging by your post, you should give NC a little more time. You still seem very much attached, and need to heal a little more. We all crave that contact with someone whom we feel comfortable with. Text a friend or family member instead until the feeling passes. If it has been a couple of months and you're still feeling this strongly, NC hasn't worked as much as it can for you yet. It's about healing. It's about YOU, not her. Are you the dumper or the dumped? If you still feel like reaching out in a couple more weeks, then take the chance.
ZiggyZoo Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I just re-read your posts before answering you here, and I suggest you do the same. Read about her dumping you initially and you begging and pleading until she took you back, only to be completely cold to you. Then read about going back and forth with NC, and it getting you exactly nowhere. It looks like she was looking for a rebound when you met, and once she got over her ex before you, she took off. And she's not coming back. You need NC. You need to suck it up and discipline yourself to not try and be a part of her life, because she doesn't want you in it. If she did, she knows that there's anothing stopping her from being with you. But she hasn't made any attempts, which should tell you everything you need to know. There's no point in contacting her, other than to scratch your itch to do so. But it's not going to make her change her mind, and is probably actually going to make you even more confused and hurt.
Author kasop Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 Trust me: it's not worth it. I've wanted nothing more for the past few days than to do this very thing. If they don't respond, we feel ten times worse. You can always take the chance, but I feel that, judging by your post, you should give NC a little more time. You still seem very much attached, and need to heal a little more. We all crave that contact with someone whom we feel comfortable with. Text a friend or family member instead until the feeling passes. If it has been a couple of months and you're still feeling this strongly, NC hasn't worked as much as it can for you yet. It's about healing. It's about YOU, not her. Are you the dumper or the dumped? If you still feel like reaching out in a couple more weeks, then take the chance. Im the dumped. Id tag my original story if i knew how to lol. I really dont think theres a chance. She reached out to me la st but i set the tone by responding short and cold. She got mad and cussed me out for something i didnt have any to do with.. it was about a mutual friend of ours that i work with. He hasent talked to her in awhile cuz hes really busy. So idk. Im just trying to fight the urges.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Im the dumped. Id tag my original story if i knew how to lol. I really dont think theres a chance. She reached out to me la st but i set the tone by responding short and cold. She got mad and cussed me out for something i didnt have any to do with.. it was about a mutual friend of ours that i work with. He hasent talked to her in awhile cuz hes really busy. So idk. Im just trying to fight the urges. I still think you should remain NC. Breaking it would be like opening a wound that's healing. It just prolongs your pain and delays the proper healing, and you probably won't get anything out of it. Give it a little more time. Don't come off as weak.
Author kasop Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 (edited) I just re-read your posts before answering you here, and I suggest you do the same. Read about her dumping you initially and you begging and pleading until she took you back, only to be completely cold to you. Then read about going back and forth with NC, and it getting you exactly nowhere. It looks like she was looking for a rebound when you met, and once she got over her ex before you, she took off. And she's not coming back. You need NC. You need to suck it up and discipline yourself to not try and be a part of her life, because she doesn't want you in it. If she did, she knows that there's anothing stopping her from being with you. But she hasn't made any attempts, which should tell you everything you need to know. There's no point in contacting her, other than to scratch your itch to do so. But it's not going to make her change her mind, and is probably actually going to make you even more confused and hurt. Were both def over are ex's her's she was breaking up with him when we met. I know i said we both ended up single 4 months ago but that was actually me. My quick short summary is that she met me and wanted me when i was unavailable... we parted.. 9months down the road she found out i was available... chased me.. relized it wasent the fairytale dream that she was expecting.. ran off as soon as she found a new crowd of people to accept her. im just left drifting around in her wake. But your right i always tell myself "if she really wanted me then nothing would stop her from reaching out.. and i dont want someone who doesnt want me".. i wont text her. My friend said i should write her a hand written letter but i dont think thats a good idea. This experience along with previous r/s has really put a dim light on my faith in relationships Edited June 12, 2015 by kasop
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