Marco Valerio Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 Hi everyone, Just wanted to let you know that my ex gf has wished me a happy birthday today, after one year of full NC from my side and one attempt of contact from her side in Nov 2014 (she sent me a very self centered message, you can check it in one of my last posts). The thing is, that today is my birthday and tomorrow is hers. She's been very nice in the message, wishing me all the best and things like that, I nicely replied her message. I have no intention on wishing her happy birthday tomorrow. We are not friends, we've become strangers to each other, and from the relationship point of view, she wasn't a very "loving" gf (she cheated on me several times, she lied permanently and she dumped me to be with someone else). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted June 12, 2015 Share Posted June 12, 2015 Sounds like the proper course of action: short courteous reply and nothing more. Well played. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shaun777 Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 I personally experienced a similar situation and I handled it the same way you did. Believe me it's the best way to keep some dignity and self-respect. Continue to move on, and ignore breadcrumbs and avoid helping the other person to feel better about themselves, while you continue to hurt remembering how badly they treated you. Your birthday is special and should be acknowledge by people who truly care for you and respect you. From what you've written above the only conclusion I can see is that she is not your friend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Sounds like you handled it the way you felt comfortable. Personally, I would of ignored it. Silence speaks volumes.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Marco Valerio Posted June 15, 2015 Author Share Posted June 15, 2015 I personally experienced a similar situation and I handled it the same way you did. Believe me it's the best way to keep some dignity and self-respect. Continue to move on, and ignore breadcrumbs and avoid helping the other person to feel better about themselves, while you continue to hurt remembering how badly they treated you. Your birthday is special and should be acknowledge by people who truly care for you and respect you. From what you've written above the only conclusion I can see is that she is not your friend. Thanks for your comment, and yes, you are right. I just thanked her for the message like I did to other people and that was all. I avoided wishing her happy birthday the day after, no reason to do it. She doesn't get the chance to came back, not by the way she treated me. She has become a total stranger to me, I know nothing of who she is now and I was wrong for who she was, so there's no point in keeping contact. Link to post Share on other sites
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