blue_jay_bird Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Uh, I can't believe I'm posting here. I thought I was over this. Please no judgement of its been so long.. I get it. I was with my ex for 7 years and well out of the blue I was dumped. Told I'm not the one. That I wasn't a lot of things; strong, independent, secure. I took it pretty bad. I loved him deeply and thought he just wanted to get out there and their was all this pressure to get married. I rationalized my pain. Well its been three years. I'm currently dating this guy. it's fun and exciting. I really like him. I then heard my ex is getting married. I didn't think this would affect me. But it brought back all those insecurities. I feel. like ****. I feel like I'm not good enough for this guy. or any. That he will see all those faults my ex saw. I also feel a complete inability to trust this guy. I was so in love with my ex. And well I still love him, and think he's amazing. Which f u c k ing suck. I just feel like garbage. I feel like garbage for feeling this way. I also hate that it's affecting my feelings in my new relationship. Im dating this smart, funny guy. But I won't let myself feel.
davidromero43 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 That happens. You know it is all in your head. Maybe your Ex really is a jerk, and your love for him blinded you from seeing it. And he really saved you from being with an as$hole. Right now you are "loving" the memories of your EX. And probably just the good ones. I'm sure you can remember some bad memories of him. That jerk
headsashed Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Hi, blue jay, i actually remember you, you was on here around the same time i was when i was dumped by my ex. I can understand your feelings, but i think its just a shock to the system, or maybe deep down you feel hurt because your ex has the kind of happiness you want before you have? Or maybe you still have feelings for him.. If you have then theres nothing wrong with that, some people take longer to heal than others. I remember around a year ago a friend of mine told me that my ex had just bought an house with her boyfriend, i suppose it kind of hurt knowing that she was the 1 that cheated yet shes so happy and i wasnt and that it wasnt fair.. My point being, i think its basically just a shock to the system knowing that the person you once loved with all your heart is finally gone forever, if that makes sense,
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