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Thing is it has to do with wrestling thats what myself and life is ingrained and i was able to have no dull moment with this girl we clicked because of wrestling I was able to be myself and be funny and some things were just spontanous but how in the BLUE HELL can I operate this with every girl though? kino was good too she let me touch her I KNOW im in she texted me said that was fun we have to definitely do that again. I told her my stories and literally a couple just came out of me like the embarassing ones n stuff its so weird man I wish I can explain. So how can I do that?

 

ALSO would be okay 2nd date invite her over to my house I think I should be fine but... She is 33 years old and this date I was on she had her cousin who was a 3rd wheel and I felt kinda bad because me and her were having fun she just stood there oh well nothing I can do. I know she slept with lot of guys I was askin some kind of question she said lets not ruin this early on was laughing I said i wont judge lol. ADVISE GUyS??/? THANKS!

 

i left first on date ive been in charge of interactions i mean she has been texting be first in the day morning since i messaged her first I feel like this is GRAVY

 

id like to have this girl bring her home and do the duty what yall think!!!!????

 

i was doing the map around her leg hand on knee alot (not thigh yet) i pulled her shirt looked at tattoo and did thumb wrestling she said was lil weird i didnt care i did it she loled

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Baed on your posts here and in another forum I am starting to wonder if your posts are real... Now you think you are a master Pickup artist after one date? And want to invite this girl to your home to sleep with her? If you like this girl I would first start with another date, just the two of you and maybe go for a kiss first. Then you can see about inviting her to your place down the road.

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wow... you must be really thirsty.

 

It's too soon to be machining sex out of her. She's told you that she wants to take it slow. You not hearing that is going to make her drop you on your head. Don't invite her to your house for a second date. That's just tacky and obvious. What she's done with previous men does not mean she's obliged to do the same with you.

 

The reason why this won't work with other women is because they are not this woman.

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Really in poor taste....and by that I mean your post as for your "plan", even worse, how about actually getting to know her?

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Thing is it has to do with wrestling thats what myself and life is ingrained and i was able to have no dull moment with this girl we clicked because of wrestling I was able to be myself and be funny and some things were just spontanous but how in the BLUE HELL can I operate this with every girl though? kino was good too she let me touch her I KNOW im in she texted me said that was fun we have to definitely do that again. I told her my stories and literally a couple just came out of me like the embarassing ones n stuff its so weird man I wish I can explain. So how can I do that?

 

ALSO would be okay 2nd date invite her over to my house I think I should be fine but... She is 33 years old and this date I was on she had her cousin who was a 3rd wheel and I felt kinda bad because me and her were having fun she just stood there oh well nothing I can do. I know she slept with lot of guys I was askin some kind of question she said lets not ruin this early on was laughing I said i wont judge lol. ADVISE GUyS??/? THANKS!

 

i left first on date ive been in charge of interactions i mean she has been texting be first in the day morning since i messaged her first I feel like this is GRAVY

 

id like to have this girl bring her home and do the duty what yall think!!!!????

 

i was doing the map around her leg hand on knee alot (not thigh yet) i pulled her shirt looked at tattoo and did thumb wrestling she said was lil weird i didnt care i did it she loled

 

I was able to be myself and be funny and some things were just spontanous but how in the BLUE HELL can I operate this with every girl though? -- This is the "spark" of chemistry that we all look for and want. It doesn't happen with every girl or man, and shouldn't. It doesn't happen with everyone, because not everyone can be or is a match for you. It doesn't always mean that that person is the "one" either, but it is at least a sign that they are a closer match than previous dating partners.

 

What you need to do though, and I know it's exciting, is to manage your emotions and expectations so as not to get too involved too quickly and/or rush things. I would not invite her to your home for a second date. Keep the first few dates public.

 

What do you want for yourself in terms of your dating goal in the long-run? Do you want a long-term, committed relationship with someone?

 

id like to have this girl bring her home and do the duty what yall think!!!!???? -- This statement implies to me that you just want to get laid. If that is not your intent and you're hoping for more with her, don't send that message.

 

Sure, it's OK to have sex with someone on a first, second date if you both want it. But if you want a lasting relationship with someone and at least hoping at this point it could be her, build the relationship from the ground up. You don't start with the roof.

 

It's better if you establish some trust between you before you have sex. What happens is, even if she really wanted it but hopes you'll be around for a while, she can't be sure that you didn't just want sex and the seed of anxiety about the relationship is planted quickly. And, even if you call her again the next day and set up another date, etc., that anxiety stays with her for a while. She doesn't trust your efforts to date her even if you're being sincere and doing everything right going forward.

 

We see it all the time on these boards. A woman really likes a guy, is hoping for a relationship with someone, decides to have sex early and then retreats because she just isn't sure what he wants in the long run because they haven't had that kind of conversation yet.

 

Date her a few times, make sure you two are on the same page in terms of what you are looking for out of your dating experiences and then date each other in a way that sets the stage for a relationship to grow in a healthy, less anxiety ridden way. If you just want casual sex and she's looking for a relationship, you aren't on the same page. She can opt to have sex anyway and then the rest is on her.

 

she said lets not ruin this early . . .

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1) According to your other thread, this was a group outing with her cousin included. So she's communicating she wasn't even ready to be alone with you in public yet.

 

2) You two didn't even kiss.

 

My advice? First get her to be comfortable being alone with you in public first. If you have another really good 3-4 public dates with plenty of kissing and physical contact, then do dinner/movie in on date 5 or 6. But based on it being a group outing with no kissing yet, it's WAY too soon to invite her to your place. Also, a key part of seduction is actually being patient and building tension. A lot of women I date want to have sex with me after 1-2 dates. But that doesn't mean that I do. I plan a fair amount of public dates to feel them out as people and to make them anticipate. A woman's mind is her best sexual organ. Remember that.

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pjm123 Established Member

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Id like to invite her over for 3rd date dinner next week i do dave n busters is that cool?

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You don't have much experience dating, do you? You're all OVER the place. Your post is incredibly hard to understand due to all the missing words, but are you saying you asked her about her sexual history?

 

Just...ugh.

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Yeah why you ask?

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Id like to invite her over for 3rd date dinner next week i do dave n busters is that cool?

 

Nope. Still too soon. Remember this is a woman that didn't want to be alone with you on the first encounter. She brought her cousin along. Plus, you didn't even kiss her yet. So what about all that makes you think she'd be ready to sleep with you anytime soon?

 

I'd say that you should plan at least 3-4 more public one on one dates. If those go well and you have some nice kissing/physical contact, then invite her over. But trust me, you want to slow play this one.

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Ok i will on 4th date okay?

 

When can i see her more then once a week

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