loveishereagain Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Ok so I met this girl back in March, and we went on a date We hung out again a few weeks later and had sex and i stayed over. We continued seeing each other and she gave me a key to her place and I will be moving in to her place a few weeks. We basicaly hang out, laugh, cook awesome food and have lots of sex. BUT she has told me shes not looking for a relationship. Shes moving back home out of state next year and n January she left her boyfriend of 4 years after she caught him with another girl so basically we are fwb but she hates it when im on my phone around her because she thinks im talking to other girls. she tells me about her life and one time put her head in my chest and started crying after she told me a story about how she tried to commit suicide all her friends think we are dating but she says no we arent but she does act like it at times by holding my hand or calling me pet names what do you think of the situation? does she have feelings for me? she also wants me to meet her family in july
toscaroscura Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Sounds to me like she's definitely not over her ex, and is grieving and rebounding HARD. Why would you move in with a woman who won't even call you her boyfriend? 1
fitnessfan365 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I'm guessing she's trying to keep a bit of distance because she knows that she's moving back home out of state next year.
Author loveishereagain Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 Sounds to me like she's definitely not over her ex, and is grieving and rebounding HARD. Why would you move in with a woman who won't even call you her boyfriend? it doesnt bother me
toscaroscura Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 it doesnt bother me Then why did you make this thread? Not being a smart arse, it's a serious question.
Author loveishereagain Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 Then why did you make this thread? Not being a smart arse, it's a serious question. im curious
Redhead14 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Sounds to me like she's definitely not over her ex, and is grieving and rebounding HARD. Why would you move in with a woman who won't even call you her boyfriend? Yes, she likes the attention and the "feel" of a relationship because she's missing what she had. She's filling a void in a immature and unhealthy way for herself and you. Move on now. The two of you don't want the same thing at this point.
toscaroscura Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 This girl is only going to break your heart. Redhead is right, although I don't think this girl is doing this on purpose or anything. It's a grief response. Her last LTR ended, not only NOT of her own accord, but due to cheating. This is a horrific blow to her self-esteem. She does happy fun couple stuff with you because she misses him, and doing this stuff with you distracts her momentarily from her grief. I'll bet when things get quiet, her sadness rises up to consume her. While you are very nice, and I'm sure you're a great guy, you are not him and never will be. She doesn't like you talking to other girls because it brings back the trauma of the infidelity, but she tells people you are not a couple because her love is still reserved for him, and until she processes this, she won't be available for any other man. I have experience with this, as it's happened to me. I was hung up on someone, in love but he didn't feel the same. He ended things. I dated a good guy after and that wasn't fair of me, because I was NOT ready and still pining for my ex. Being with the new guy was both wonderfully soothing and crushingly sad. I ended up breaking it off with New Guy and we are still friends, but looking back, I should not have even been dating anyone. Not my proudest moment! Thankfully there was no cheating and it wasn't as bad with my ex in my case, but I imagine if it were my grief would have been tenfold.
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