Renton Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 But skinny guys are generally not seen by women as a 10. Skinny men can be in the same camp as overweight women dating wise. Depends if that skinny guy is tall though.
TheGuard13 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 But skinny guys are generally not seen by women as a 10. Skinny men can be in the same camp as overweight women dating wise. I can't tell if you're serious. That is not what I meant by "10".
123321 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Well thats just a bizarre comment which is not me at all. Not much for me to say on that. I have never left anyone. I would have loved for my relationship to have been permanent. Well I figured it being "Far more powerful" and all, you know. How much more power would have been required for it to endure, you figure?
Author Krieger Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 I don't think your observations hold much water, Krieger. I'm 6'2" and about 175 pounds (which is about where I want to be). Slim yes but a bit thicker than a string bean. I'm in decent physical condition, exercise at the gym, and I try to eat reasonably healthy (well, most of the time...every now and then I gotta indulge). Slim women (both petite and taller) have shown strong interest in me and some have openly complimented my looks, as have women with average builds. And sure, bigger women have also shown interest. Back when I was in college, I was 145-150 lb...not dangerously underweight, but pretty damn skinny. Didn't stop women of all sizes from being attracted. Yeah, some other women made fun of me...whatever, who cares. I know other slim guys who haven't had any difficulty attracting thinner and highly attractive women. Especially if the guys carry themselves with their heads up and have a bit of self-respect. Where I live, it seems more common for a thin dude to have a slim lady by his side, rather than a heavyset woman. Male body type matters, but I think that for many women there are other factors (even other physical factors) that trump body build when it comes to attraction. Attraction in general is not trivial and varies widely from person to person. So I suggest that you don't try too hard to understand it in some sort of intricate scientific detail. It's meant to be naturally experienced, not put under a microscope. That right there is a clear example of your insecurity. It's fine to have superficial preferences, but bear in mind that you can't easily predict who you will be strongly attracted to and/or mesh well with. That particular woman might just be bigger than you. I need to get back in the gym myself but finding time to do so. I what to get back to 180 pounds even though I am 5 feet 11 . I rather die alone that date a girl bigger than me no thanks .
empresario Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I don't think your observations hold much water, Krieger. I'm 6'2" and about 175 pounds (which is about where I want to be). Slim yes but a bit thicker than a string bean. I'm in decent physical condition, exercise at the gym, and I try to eat reasonably healthy (well, most of the time...every now and then I gotta indulge). Slim women (both petite and taller) have shown strong interest in me and some have openly complimented my looks, as have women with average builds. And sure, bigger women have also shown interest. Back when I was in college, I was 145-150 lb...not dangerously underweight, but pretty damn skinny. Didn't stop women of all sizes from being attracted. Yeah, some other women made fun of me...whatever, who cares. I know other slim guys who haven't had any difficulty attracting thinner and highly attractive women. Especially if the guys carry themselves with their heads up and have a bit of self-respect. Where I live, it seems more common for a thin dude to have a slim lady by his side, rather than a heavyset woman. Male body type matters, but I think that for many women there are other factors (even other physical factors) that trump body build when it comes to attraction. Attraction in general is not trivial and varies widely from person to person. So I suggest that you don't try too hard to understand it in some sort of intricate scientific detail. It's meant to be naturally experienced, not put under a microscope. That right there is a clear example of your insecurity. It's fine to have superficial preferences, but bear in mind that you can't easily predict who you will be strongly attracted to and/or mesh well with. That particular woman might just be bigger than you. I'm 6'2'' 175 as well but look very healthy (not 'slim', good tone). I think it depends on how you hold weight and how lean that weight is. Every body is different. I WAS skinny out of high school at 6' 135, though. On your second part, don't confuse chemistry and attraction. I've been attracted to people with whom I have no chemistry, and vice-versa. The perfect scenario is when you have both...but you can survive on one of the two if you're so apt.
Emilia Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 On your second part, don't confuse chemistry and attraction. I've been attracted to people with whom I have no chemistry, and vice-versa. The perfect scenario is when you have both...but you can survive on one of the two if you're so apt. Do you mean you were attracted to people you didn't like? To me chemistry means sexually and mentally clicking with someone. Ie liking them.
sampled Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 I need to get back in the gym myself but finding time to do so. I what to get back to 180 pounds even though I am 5 feet 11 . I rather die alone that date a girl bigger than me no thanks . gee thats extreme. there's some bigger girls that are attractive.
empresario Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Do you mean you were attracted to people you didn't like? To me chemistry means sexually and mentally clicking with someone. Ie liking them. There are subtle differences. Do you like the way someone looks and acts? You are attracted to them. Is there some reason you like someone but you can't objectively put a reason behind it? That's chemistry. Just like every person cooks scrambled eggs, yet every person's scrambled eggs taste different...same is with chemistry. One person could kiss you, touch you, or talk to you in the same way as another person but they set you off more. I dated a girl that I thought was average looking for 3 years because something about her drove me crazy. There IS science behind chemistry which I've posted on before. For example pheromones and bacteria production. People are scientifically attracted to those that grow the most opposite bacteria on their skin than they do. It promotes species vigor. Unequivocally that's been proven through numerous sociological blind studies. 2
Emilia Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 To me the two things are never separate I don't think. I always know why I like someone.
empresario Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 To me the two things are never separate I don't think. I always know why I like someone. Let me ask another question, then. If you ranked your sexual partners from best to worst (assuming you can), do you know why every one was better than the next in line? Sometimes you just have chemistry with someone else. There is no tangible way to infer the reason. 1
Author Krieger Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 gee thats extreme. there's some bigger girls that are attractive. How so ? I said thick or even chubby woman are ok just no fat woman for me. I have a thing for Mexican / Hispanic woman that are thick or a chubby with a cute face. Like i said I only date Asian woman and or Mexican / Hispanic woman. The reason I like Asian woman is less likely to get obese as once she has a few kids. However if she gains weight and fill out I am not a guy that will dump her it a turn on if she fill out somewhat . I wish there were more thick Asian woman but you do not see too many thick Asian woman .
Emilia Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Let me ask another question, then. If you ranked your sexual partners from best to worst (assuming you can), do you know why every one was better than the next in line? Sometimes you just have chemistry with someone else. There is no tangible way to infer the reason. Yes. All the ones that were really good were instinctive choices. The ones I didn't like all that much I picked based on rational thoughts. Unfortunately I'm attracted to men with a certain kind of intensity who merge sexually rather than just have sex. With a certain type it's very full on, I always recognise the pattern but can't seem to change it. 1
sampled Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 How so ? I said thick or even chubby woman are ok just no fat woman for me. I have a thing for Mexican / Hispanic woman that are thick or a chubby with a cute face. Like i said I only date Asian woman and or Mexican / Hispanic woman. The reason I like Asian woman is less likely to get obese as once she has a few kids. However if she gains weight and fill out I am not a guy that will dump her it a turn on if she fill out somewhat . I wish there were more thick Asian woman but you do not see too many thick Asian woman . people gain weight. im a fat guy. doesnt make me any less of a guy. same for ladies.
Author Krieger Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 people gain weight. im a fat guy. doesnt make me any less of a guy. same for ladies. I never said fat people are less human than skinny people . I just would rather find a skinny girl get to know her marry her have 3 kids and if she gains weight so be it.
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