ascendotum Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 The point I am trying to make is you can say you only date "tall guys" or "girls with round butts" because it's more about the "eye test." If you're going to start getting into numbers and say you only date women who weigh 110 pounds, or guys that are 6'1" to 6'3" in height, or women who wear only a size 12, then you're not going to get anywhere. Plus, it just sounds bad to have a checklist with numeric values on it To me its pretty much the same, its just that when a woman says I prefer tall guys (but will only date men over 6') or a guys says I prefer fit or slim build women (but will only date size 0) it leaves it open to interpretation and just sounds a lot less shallow. The 'eye test' is still basically ending up with the numeric outcome.
xxoo Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 What is the niche for skinny guys (apart from asian women and overweight women)? Women love a skinny guitar player/ artist type. No shortage of beautiful women of all sizes into them.
bebe23 Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 What is the niche for skinny guys (apart from asian women and overweight women)? Fans of the character 'Spencer Reid' on 'Criminal Minds.' Hottest skinny guy on TV. http://images6.fanpop.com/image/photos/35000000/Dr-Spencer-Reid-dr-spencer-reid-35086865-2250-3000.jpg
bluegreen Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 (edited) Maybe people are focusing on dating people, and not on body types. People have bodies--fat, thin, and in between. People--fat, thin, and in between-- are driven to mate and date. A sorts of pairings happen. Love is a beautiful thing. Thank You Dear!!! Edited June 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Off-topic commentary on other posts redacted
Methodical Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 Hey everyone, I've been browsing around here for a couple months and finally decided to register. I think deep down I am responding because I'm feeling defensive since my GF is more on the petite side and still has curves lol. I don't think you can have a specific checklist when it comes to attraction. My GF is in the size 0 to size 2 range, and even has a couple garments that are size 00. With that said, she is not a stick figure. She has a great shape and a really nice butt (yes, she looks healthy). Everyone's body is different. Size 0 may very well mean "no shape" for one woman but another woman could indeed be "shapely." The point I am trying to make is you can say you only date "tall guys" or "girls with round butts" because it's more about the "eye test." If you're going to start getting into numbers and say you only date women who weigh 110 pounds, or guys that are 6'1" to 6'3" in height, or women who wear only a size 12, then you're not going to get anywhere. Plus, it just sounds bad to have a checklist with numeric values on it Hi SA. Nice to 'see' you!! Yeah, people get too hung up on numbers/statistics/etc. Been adventurous lately?
kenmore Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 What does the big girl like about a skinny guy? Do we remind them of what they want to look like?Is it usually because really skinny guys and fat women feel ugly in there eyes. so they "settle" for each other, or look past the weight issue all together because they themselves don't feel like they deserve better. Most realize that better doesn't come with a scale, but some don't. I have found in my life that generally heavier women are attracted to me. I don't know why, I'm not "skinny" nor am I "fat" (well, I have put on a few pounds since separating from my wife but I'm working on it! ) but there's something about me that attracts bigger women, no doubt about it. Always has been. From my perspective, I have a good tolerance for weight either way, but if I had to choose, I'd take a heavier than ideal woman over a skinnier than ideal woman. I like my women to have some meat on their bones! Now don't get me wrong, I have nothing against ideal women! I'm not sure how much "settling" people do. Sure, everyone must compromise. I doubt there is a single person on the planet who is with someone they find perfect in every way, but I doubt there are too many people who will be unhappy with someone and stick to it because they think it's the best they can do. In order to make a relationship worth putting the effort into, it has to make you happy on a few levels. Overall, I'm happier that heavy women like me than nobody liking me. I'd prefer that all women liked me, and as was the intent of the OP I think, I'm not sure why heavier women would have a general preference in common. One would think it would be fairly random as far as likes are concerned regarding a specific group like that. I could see Asian women liking Asian men more or black women liking black men more but why would heavy women like me more? I suppose it has to do with the personality type. What makes a woman tend toward weight gain also makes them tend toward Ken. Maybe I'm just like chocolate!
guest569 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Interesting way to look at it. How do you know that what you have right now isn't "less" (whatever that is) than what will be in front of you tomorrow? Unless you also have tomorrow's winning lottery numbers, you can't know. Settling is about being satisfied with what you have, and settling for that. I simply dont describe relationships the same way as you do. Settling and being satisfied? No, it's about a lot more than that, far more powerful than being merely satisfied.
elaine567 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I suppose it has to do with the personality type. What makes a woman tend toward weight gain also makes them tend toward Ken. Maybe I'm just like chocolate! Maybe you just give off a friendly, non-judgemental, treat everyone the same vibe, so they feel comfortable around you. 2
Renton Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 http://40.media.tumblr.com/689c273ebc0a25f8afd3576166122f23/tumblr_nfcu81AM5e1s3mvf0o1_500.jpg Scientists thought Jessica was hot? They should have been at the lounge I was at when I picked the other, hotter girl over her. The girl in that pic is no doubt going for the "thigh gap". Or she has a very high metabolism and puts no weight on at all. I would be too frightened to touch her in case she breaks
123321 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I simply dont describe relationships the same way as you do. Settling and being satisfied? No, it's about a lot more than that, far more powerful than being merely satisfied. How flowery and ambiguous is that? "Far more powerful". ROFL. Sadly it just tap-dances around the question. Let me repeat it for you: How do you know that what you have right now isn't "less" (whatever that is) than what will be in front of you tomorrow?
toscaroscura Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 How flowery and ambiguous is that? "Far more powerful". ROFL. Sadly it just tap-dances around the question. Let me repeat it for you: Then why seek a relationship with anyone at all? Maybe you don't, and that's your choice, but this constantly grasping for something better lurking around the next corner sounds tiresome. It's just constant GIGS. If I meet a man that makes me extremely happy, but he has flaws both physical and non, but I can live with them and perhaps even find them endearing, why would I ruin what makes me happy just because there could maybe possibly be something better than him? I'm happy with him now! If I subscribed to that philosophy, I'd dump everyone because the world is a huge place and "maybe" someone better "out there" exists, and then I would wake up an old woman having really loved no one, nor been loved in return. 2
SummerDreams Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I will not date a female bigger than me it looks to funny to me. And it's universally known that love has to do so much with looks.
123321 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Then why seek a relationship with anyone at all? Maybe you don't, and that's your choice, but this constantly grasping for something better lurking around the next corner sounds tiresome. It's just constant GIGS. If I meet a man that makes me extremely happy, but he has flaws both physical and non, but I can live with them and perhaps even find them endearing, why would I ruin what makes me happy just because there could maybe possibly be something better than him? I'm happy with him now! If I subscribed to that philosophy, I'd dump everyone because the world is a huge place and "maybe" someone better "out there" exists, and then I would wake up an old woman having really loved no one, nor been loved in return. Um, that was MY point. At some point one can decide to be with a person who makes them happy, and 'settle' for that. It's not a negative thing, which is what *I* was saying. There is no way to know if someone 'better' might be in the woodwork 3 months away; if a person wants to settle down (hmmm, interesting turn of phrase ...) they have to learn to stop thinking like that. 1
carhill Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Probably repetitive but 'bigger chicks' are women first and bigger after, and women generally like and find sexually attractive a lean man with well-defined angles and musculature. A 'bigger' man appears softer, less angular, less defined and more feminine. One possibility is maternal instincts.... she wants to mate with the lean man and cuddle the bigger man like she would a soft, chubby baby. Heh...
TheGuard13 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 The answer to this is simple. Everyone likes a "10". Think about it.
GravityMan Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I don't think your observations hold much water, Krieger. I'm 6'2" and about 175 pounds (which is about where I want to be). Slim yes but a bit thicker than a string bean. I'm in decent physical condition, exercise at the gym, and I try to eat reasonably healthy (well, most of the time...every now and then I gotta indulge). Slim women (both petite and taller) have shown strong interest in me and some have openly complimented my looks, as have women with average builds. And sure, bigger women have also shown interest. Back when I was in college, I was 145-150 lb...not dangerously underweight, but pretty damn skinny. Didn't stop women of all sizes from being attracted. Yeah, some other women made fun of me...whatever, who cares. I know other slim guys who haven't had any difficulty attracting thinner and highly attractive women. Especially if the guys carry themselves with their heads up and have a bit of self-respect. Where I live, it seems more common for a thin dude to have a slim lady by his side, rather than a heavyset woman. Male body type matters, but I think that for many women there are other factors (even other physical factors) that trump body build when it comes to attraction. Attraction in general is not trivial and varies widely from person to person. So I suggest that you don't try too hard to understand it in some sort of intricate scientific detail. It's meant to be naturally experienced, not put under a microscope. Like I said I will not date a female bigger than me it looks to funny to me. That right there is a clear example of your insecurity. It's fine to have superficial preferences, but bear in mind that you can't easily predict who you will be strongly attracted to and/or mesh well with. That particular woman might just be bigger than you.
toscaroscura Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Um, that was MY point. At some point one can decide to be with a person who makes them happy, and 'settle' for that. It's not a negative thing, which is what *I* was saying. There is no way to know if someone 'better' might be in the woodwork 3 months away; if a person wants to settle down (hmmm, interesting turn of phrase ...) they have to learn to stop thinking like that. My apologies, I misunderstood. I also hate the term "settle down". 1
123321 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I also hate the term "settle down". It always sounds nice and comfortable to me. I just don't know if I have it in me to try again, but that's a separate story.
guest569 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 How flowery and ambiguous is that? "Far more powerful". ROFL. Sadly it just tap-dances around the question. Let me repeat it for you: I stated my opinion. ROFL. I've never been in a relationship where I was merely "satisfied" and would never have said I had "settled". Repeat the question and patronize me all you like. It doesn't change my experience.
xxoo Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Um, that was MY point. At some point one can decide to be with a person who makes them happy, and 'settle' for that. It's not a negative thing, which is what *I* was saying. There is no way to know if someone 'better' might be in the woodwork 3 months away; if a person wants to settle down (hmmm, interesting turn of phrase ...) they have to learn to stop thinking like that. "Settle for", as an idiom, means to be satisfied with something even though you'd prefer something else. In that context, no one I know wants their partner to settle for them. Personally, I thought I'd hit the lottery when I married my husband. I thought we had invented love, and there was no way others could understand the depths of our love and passion I believe that many couples feel the same when they fall in love, regardless of the body shape of the individuals involved. 1
123321 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 I stated my opinion. ROFL. I've never been in a relationship where I was merely "satisfied" and would never have said I had "settled". Repeat the question and patronize me all you like. It doesn't change my experience. Perhaps if you'd decided to settle you'd find yourself in a more permanent relationship. Perhaps if you waited for someone you were willing to settle for, you'd have fewer notches on your belt. Perhaps.
guest569 Posted June 14, 2015 Posted June 14, 2015 Perhaps if you'd decided to settle you'd find yourself in a more permanent relationship. Perhaps if you waited for someone you were willing to settle for, you'd have fewer notches on your belt. Perhaps. Well thats just a bizarre comment which is not me at all. Not much for me to say on that. I have never left anyone. I would have loved for my relationship to have been permanent.
kenmore Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 Maybe you just give off a friendly, non-judgemental, treat everyone the same vibe, so they feel comfortable around you. Thank you Elaine.
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 The answer to this is simple. Everyone likes a "10". Think about it. But skinny guys are generally not seen by women as a 10. Skinny men can be in the same camp as overweight women dating wise.
Renton Posted June 15, 2015 Posted June 15, 2015 But skinny guys are generally not seen by women as a 10. Skinny men can be in the same camp as overweight women dating wise. Depends if that skinny guy is tall.
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