treehugger101 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I hung out with one of my friends today and she suggested I should create a fake profile on Facebook and hit up my Boyfriend and just talk to him casual and then ask him if he is dating or in a relationship and if he would want to go out and see what his responses are etc. Then I would find out how he really feels about me and all that stuff. But part of me doesn't want to do this. What should I do?
deadelvis Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 has he given you reason to not trust him? I'd say go for it. What's the harm?
Author treehugger101 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 I trust him but he trusts me but sometimes he accuses me of cheating and I am not doing such a thing.
deadelvis Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I think all women should test their boyfriend like that. I considered sending an attractive friend (who my girlfriend has never met) into the restaurant where she works to flirt with her and ask for her number, and then report back to me if she was flirty or inappropriate with him.
h0000 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I personally wouldn't do this because I can't be bothered to create problems out of nothing. As the saying goes "don't fix it if it ain't broken" 3
Author treehugger101 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 Oh? I want to do it but I don't want to feel guilty about it.
h0000 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Oh? I want to do it but I don't want to feel guilty about it. Given that he gave you no reason to do it, its worse than snooping. You deliberately set up a trap for him because of what? Your own insecurity? I would be very angry if my SO did this to me. It would be a deal breaker. Can you believe your loved one set up a trap for you? I don't know about you but I would feel very guilty and embarrassed that I did such a low thing.... 3
Methodical Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 How long have you dated BF? If you need to create a fake profile as a trap assessment, maybe shouldn't be dating him. This sounds like an attempt to create failure. Wonder what his reaction will be when he finds out you did this, provided you go through with your friend's suggestion? Personally, I'd end the relationship if I discovered my SO did this. 2
CarrieT Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Sounds a bit like high school. That's what I was about to say....
lana-banana Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Please tell me this post and the encouraging responses are just trolling. Creating a fake profile to "test" your boyfriend isn't just childish, it's outrageously manipulative. I can't overemphasize what a terrible idea this is. - If I knew an SO did that to me I would end it immediately. - If you've reached the point where you're that suspicious of your boyfriend, you should probably end your relationship. - If it makes more sense to create an elaborate hoax rather than just sit down and have a conversation, you have no business being in a relationship in the first place. 2
Author treehugger101 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 Yeah I am not going to go through with it.
jen1447 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 It wouldn't work anyway unless he was really naive ....with your new one day old FB profile with no friends and 1 or 2 fake interests, you'd approach him out of nowhere as a stranger and see if he wants to date? And expect that he wouldn't find that the slightest bit odd? 2
Halcyon Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 This is just plain manipulative and is just fuelled by your own insecurity. If I ever found out someone I was dating tried this on me I would end it in a heart beat, no time for bull**** like this.
kendahke Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 a stupid and bad idea. What does your gut tell you about his fidelity? That is more than enough for you to go on to make a decision. If you cant' trust your gut, then you need to be by yourself until such time as you can. I would ditch that friend really fast--she's the one you need to be turning a stank side-eye towards for even suggesting that. Maybe she's been trying to get with him behind your back and he's kicked her away, so now she's mad and wants to get even with him.
Redhead14 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I hung out with one of my friends today and she suggested I should create a fake profile on Facebook and hit up my Boyfriend and just talk to him casual and then ask him if he is dating or in a relationship and if he would want to go out and see what his responses are etc. Then I would find out how he really feels about me and all that stuff. But part of me doesn't want to do this. What should I do? How long have you been dating him and how old are you? Then I would find out how he really feels about me and all that stuff. Why wouldn't you be a grown up and have that conversation with him in person. And, if you have to ask, he's probably not showing you enough to make you feel that he is invested in you emotionally anyway. If that's the case, just move on. Don't lower yourself and compromise your dignity to surreptitiously seek the knowledge you want. It makes you look childish and immature, and sends that message to other people as well.
Redhead14 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Geez, I just realized who this poster is . . . forget my last post. This is my last post to this member of the board. I'm sorry, Treehugger. All the best to you.
Gaeta Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 You already have enough reasons to break up with him you don't need to know if he's cheating.
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