Gloria25 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 You know, this thread got me thinkin of that Domino movie with Kiera Knightley I saw waaay long time ago... I love the scene where some dude tells her like 'she's just a scared little girl' and she punches him in the face... Anywho, Choco, one of the bounty hunters on the team had the hots for her - but he would stay in silence and would watch her in frustration. This video shows him getting all teeed-off cuz of his pent up frustration. But still, I think you should forget this guy you posted about...
Author Pompom Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 (edited) No, you shouldn't have quit. IMO, you should of had a mature convo with him - preferably with someone from HR/management involved cuz him being abusive towards you. But, then again, since you were fired from the shop A, the company might see "you" as the problem - not him. Actually, the boss of shop B immediately pounced on me when I got fired from A because he loved my performance there. Believe me, I've tried to talk to Beastie. The moment I said "I know you hate me" and saw his hurt face, I apologized, he told me not to and to go on my damned break. I refused and calmly said, lovingly pronouncing his name, "Listen, I really value you. I appreciate you, and I'd really like to work this out. This situation is very unpleasant, for both of us----" - "It's very pleasant for me!" he yells with his arms crossed and trying to pull his feat up on the chair. So I say, "Yeah, people enjoying themselves totally slam doors and yell at their coworkers." - "Don't talk to me, go on your break". And that was that. He treated me like crap, but somehow never screwed me over. Any sales he butted in and yelled at me to go do something else, he did on my name so I get the commission. He helped me out sincerely, ie. no foul tricks, and even got mad at me for trying to lift heavy goods without his help (he ended up doing it all by himself). I dunno, I guess I was too shocked at his niceness at those times or otherwise I could/should have confronted him then... After that "Go on your break"/"You try to stab me??" thing, I sent a message to our boss asking just for a heart-to-heart with the three of us because I'd like the work relationship to work out, but he totally ignored it. I mean, he promised to do it, and the next day he ignored me, so I clocked out and left the guy a note, "Happy now?". The guy has family backing. For some reason, they seem to insist that his career as a retail sales rep be protected at all costs.... I mean, he nearly hit the other girl, he sprayed her in air freshener, he threw stuff at her, and he's yelled at customers. He hasn't even been demoted from shift leader. I really don't get it; he's about to get his care diploma and start a career, his family is rich and influential, what the hell do they pull strings to keep him in retail for?? Why I care? If we could choose whom to have feelings for, life would be a lot easier. Much fewer murders, too. people can use facebook in pretty amazing ways too, if you were friends on facebook he may have snooped through your friends profiles looking for dirt No, we never interacted on Facebook, and of my 60 friends, most I trust, and the rest don't know about the things I trust the others with They're more discreet than I used to be, so if he learned something from anyone, it's not someone who's been my friend for the past 12 months. And then he'd first need to find that person and connect them to me. It's really unlikely. I had cleaned up after myself rather thoroughly, and whatever was left, wasn't easy to find as it was under a fake name and very specific and not even his language. Why wasn't any of this in the OP? He sounds unhinged, not at all adorable or a "sweet Jesus kid". You're unemployed now? I'm confused about the timelines... He is, to anyone but me. I see how he interacts with other people. Like a cat in heat. He rubs his head over their laps to get his hair ruffled. Hugs people and squeals terms of endearment. Donates to cancer sufferers. Everyone calls him sweetheart and his favorite emojis contain hearts. He's like the ferret that bit me yesterday and got named after him. Absolutely adorable until he snaps. I saw how he is on Facebook, people adore him. Baby, sweetheart, love you, adore you, miss you, my king, my angel, my prince, my gorgeous, my sweet little almond And I also met him that way. He used to be thrilled to see me, actually. The other girl he bullied told me the same - he's nice until he isn't - and when I confided in coworkers who asked what the hell this or that yell fest was all about, they were suprised to hear their "sweetheart" they've known for years, was being an ass. Thing is, shop B is very cozy and staff go out together and even celebrate Christmas at each other's homes, so they're all familiar with each other. So if they say the way he treats me is untypical, it is. One staff member took him aside to scream at him why the heck he's being an ass to me. Nobody but the manager seemed to have expected these issues. Timeline: a year ago, I started at shop A. In February of this year, I got fired there, and a month later started at shop B. I quit there 3 weeks into April. I still volunteer and hang out at shop A because, Phantom of the Petshop, and suck up to the new boss to take me back, and shop B has the cheapest drinks Nutty is from shop B. You know, this thread got me thinkin of that Domino movie with Kiera Knightley I saw waaay long time ago... I love the scene where some dude tells her like 'she's just a scared little girl' and she punches him in the face... Anywho, Choco, one of the bounty hunters on the team had the hots for her - but he would stay in silence and would watch her in frustration. This video shows him getting all teeed-off cuz of his pent up frustration. But still, I think you should forget this guy you posted about... I literally fell off my chair laughing, this is SO him! He did slam doors and drawers... For what it's worth, his ridiculously good looks and disturbingly fascinating personality (disorder) inspired the main character for a book that may earn me a bit of money... Edited June 12, 2015 by Pompom
O'Malley Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I mean, he nearly hit the other girl, he sprayed her in air freshener, he threw stuff at her, and he's yelled at customers. He hasn't even been demoted from shift leader.The other girl he bullied told me the same - he's nice until he isn't - and when I confided in coworkers who asked what the hell this or that yell fest was all about, they were suprised to hear their "sweetheart" they've known for years, was being an ass. Thing is, shop B is very cozy and staff go out together and even celebrate Christmas at each other's homes, so they're all familiar with each other. So if they say the way he treats me is untypical, it is. One staff member took him aside to scream at him why the heck he's being an ass to me. Nobody but the manager seemed to have expected these issues. He's not nice, he's an unbalanced a**hole that acts nice when he feels like it. I think he's perceived that what makes you insecure is your need for friendship, to get people to like you, so he's reacting in ways to create conflict. He apparently likes plenty of attention, positive and negative, so I'm wondering if this is a competitive thing. What you need to figure out is why you find this guy so compelling - I get the sense that you'd still like to win him over - and if this is something that's recurred in your history with men or people in general. On the occasion when I've sensed hostility off of someone I've had limited acquaintance with, I step back from the situation. Adopted a neutral tone and stance if I had to be in contact with them; why waste my time or energy on someone who dislikes me for no discernible reason? Some personalities rub each other the wrong way, the issues this guy clearly has aren't yours or anyone elses. Trying to engage with him is just going to result in making him more defensive and hostile. Best bet is to ignore. 1
Author Pompom Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 I've lost pretty much all interest in dating him. My mom once told me she guessed our relationship would be like hers with my father which might have ended in a murder-suicide hadn't they split up. Two hotheads whose moods can change ambient temperature, don't make a love story. I do crave to know why he is such an ass to me after we had a nice time previously. I like to know if I hurt someone, did something wrong, or why someone feels the need to abuse me and pushes me to a point where I apply for welfare. I still insist he's a good soul and if I hurt him to the point where he's angry 7 months later, it'd devastate me.
salparadise Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 Interesting read for sure... my take on it goes like this: he has some kind of abnormality related to getting inside people's personal space, overly affectionate, unable to control emotions and affect, etc. Part of this is an extremely rigid view and expectation of how others should be, how they should relate to him, and the assumption that his values are correct and any deviation is a real issue for him. And, I think he probably developed a big time crush on you, was unable to pursue an intimate relationship, was frustrated by that... and then he heard the rumor about your past and felt betrayed. He's unable to resolve or deal with it so it gets expressed as anger. Just a guess but seems to all fit. 1
Author Pompom Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 That makes a frustrating lot of sense. Frustrating because now I really have something good to go on, but I know I'm probably too damn chicken to put it to any use. Unless, and this may well happen, I just start laughing like a lunatic next time I have to buy something from him.... then I may get to it... After that impressions episode, I can't keep a straight face with him anymore LOL Before it was just red, now it's probably gonna be like, "Grrrmpfffahahahhahahahaha omg sorry dude you're just surreal".... I mean, scream and rage and run because someone mentioned my name? I love that. I really love that.
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2015 Posted June 13, 2015 You should have been bumping uglies.. then this wouldn't have happened. I think he got tired if it going nowhere and he wanted it to go somewhere.. 10-1 he now considers you a tease.
Author Pompom Posted June 13, 2015 Author Posted June 13, 2015 You should have been bumping uglies.. then this wouldn't have happened. I think he got tired if it going nowhere and he wanted it to go somewhere.. 10-1 he now considers you a tease. I would've bumped his uglies gladly, except, he never made a move unless his starting up a conversation on WhatsApp one evening and asking "where are you, whatcha doing" counts. Me, I don't make the first move on a dude who's a) a sweet Jesus kid, b) way younger, and c) working next to me. He had 10 months of working next to, or with each other, to make that move. I tried to show my interest subtly, but felt he didn't get it.
Author Pompom Posted June 15, 2015 Author Posted June 15, 2015 His studies just ended. Maybe without the stress he'll be accessible and we can make up or at least talk about this. If he stays a jerk, I'll just ship him a bag of gummy shniedels to tell him what he can eat
Author Pompom Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 Now this disturbed kid climbs onto the bench outside the store to better peek inside and see if I'm there to make eye contact with and angrily glare at. Once he succeeded in this solemn mission of his, he climbs back down and retreats. This kid, he makes me nervous, he drives me crazy, he raises my BP in a bad way, but he's so freaking fascinating I should phone NatGeo Wild. Or Animal Planet. Bought something from him today. Completely ignores me. So at some point I say, "Ring me up and I'll be out of your face". Doesn't speak a word. Not even common courtesy bullcrap like kthxbai or something. Only glares from underneath his bushy brow. Weirdo...
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