What's his deal?

[Pompom]

Hi I have a bit of a weird problem here.

 

Let's say: you work at shop A. Next to you, at shop B, works a young man who is really sweet, doesn't hang out with you much, but when he does, he's nice and funny. You exchange numbers, chat a bit, no romance, no BFF. He tends to get in your personal space a lot when he doesn't have to, and tends to smile really widely when you cross paths. Even starts a long conversation one night when he was looking for you at work but you're home. You think "Yay, a new friend!".

 

Then, after half a year of that and a week or 2 after that nice chat, he suddenly turns completely. Blocks your number (you didn't flood him with messages!), and instead of just avoiding you, actually turns around and flees into hiding when you appear, even if he had to do something. He glares at you with his jaw clenched, radiates an unpleasant kind of heat (all red!), yells at you at the drop of a hat... And I always find him making eye contact/glaring at me whenever I just look in his general direction. When I'm at shop A and look out the window, he sometimes walks past, ALWAYS looking inside and ALWAYS locking eyes with me and speeding up.

 

When we worked together after I got fired from shop A, he was only nice when I meekly asked for advice. Then he seemed surprised, got meek himself, and helped me out. But one day, he's been an ass all evening and I say, "I know you hate me, stop reminding me" and he suddenly slumps, jaw dropped, speechless, then gasps, utterly offended: "EXCUSE ME!?!? OMG THAT'S IT!!!!" like I just killed his puppy. He went "Lalala can't hear you" until closing time and kept behaving in an utterly infantile manner after I tried to apologize.

 

He's keeping this up. I quit 2 months ago, mind you. I visit both shops a lot as I made friends there and also need stuff there. So there's always that encounter.

It's driving me mad. I got a crush on the guy, but I never showed it as I didn't wanna freak him out. Meaning I never pushed myself on him, never spammed him, never harassed him by any standards. But he's been like this for 7 months now!

Today friends from shop A told me one of them did an impression of me at shop B (he loves doing impressions) in front of said guy. When he revealed who he was imitating, this guy tore at his hair, suppressed a scream (you know, that long, heavy snort like a raging bull?), and stormed off.

 

It's weird. I care about him. I hate how unpleasant things got between us. He used to be a ton of fun. I want to ask him why, but he's inaccessible. Yesterday I went to his shop to buy a drink and he hid behind a corner behind the counter until I left.

What could possibly set this kind of behavior off when I didn't run over his puppy???

Edited June 11, 2015 by Pompom

[gaius]

Pomzy. There might be something you did without realizing it, or he just might be one of those virgin types who ward off intimacy and was developing a crush on you. So he's literally treating you like a vampire now.

 

Either way it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere. =/

[toscaroscura]

What in the heck. He sounds like a tool. Why this burning need to have someone like this like you?

[Pompom]

Pomzy. There might be something you did without realizing it, or he just might be one of those virgin types who ward off intimacy and was developing a crush on you. So he's literally treating you like a vampire now.

 

Either way it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere. =/

 

I dunno, I didn't do anything I didn't do before he went "evil", and it must be something that was either horrible enough, or continuous, for him to still be mad.

He's really intimate (in a platonic way) with his other coworkers though, literally slithers over their laps and head-butts them like a cat.

 

What in the heck. He sounds like a tool. Why this burning need to have someone like this like you?

 

He used to be ridiculously adorable, and still is.. to others...

[Gloria25]

Pomzy. There might be something you did without realizing it, or he just might be one of those virgin types who ward off intimacy and was developing a crush on you. So he's literally treating you like a vampire now.

 

Either way it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere. =/

 

Agreed...

 

Forget analyzing what he does/doesn't do and move on.

 

Trust me, after almost a year of being the "imaginary" girlfriend, I know what I'm saying.

 

Nothing will materialize and you will waste your time being yo-yo'd...trying to make excuses for him, analyzing what he does/doesn't do, and wishing/hoping/praying that he'll come around one day.

 

Mind you, in the meantime, he's living his life and is doing fine...Worst, don't be surprised when you see him mustering up the courage to chat, date, and even marry another woman w/o one ounce of the ambivalence he had with you.

 

Some people have their "issues" when it comes to dating/intimacy. Don't take it personal when they reject you and/or can't bring themselves to date you - even "if" you believe you have something to offer.

 

Again, please, let it go - I speak from personal experience.

[toscaroscura]

I dunno, I didn't do anything I didn't do before he went "evil", and it must be something that was either horrible enough, or continuous, for him to still be mad.

He's really intimate (in a platonic way) with his other coworkers though, literally slithers over their laps and head-butts them like a cat.

 

 

 

He used to be ridiculously adorable, and still is.. to others...

 

What a bizarre man. And I'm the kind of girl who LIKES weird.

 

Maybe it's:

-he's gay and knows of your crush, and is trying to turn you off completely.

-he heard something about you from someone else and took it as truth. (Douche alert!)

-he's really a first grader in an elaborate, ridiculously adorable man costume.

[Gloria25]

In the future, remember always: INTERESTED GUYS ACT INTERESTED...so, if you see ambivalence and/or him not making a move - especially if you initiated and/or gave clear signs that you're into him, move on. Don't let it go on for weeks, months, etc.

[toscaroscura]

Reading again ..you say you got fired. What happened? Did drama go down? Another possibility is that he thinks you're a bad person for getting fired, or he heard rumors about it, or he sided with the people who got you fired.

 

It's just a guess.

[Gloria25]

What a bizarre man. And I'm the kind of girl who LIKES weird.

 

Maybe it's:

-he's gay and knows of your crush, and is trying to turn you off completely.

-he heard something about you from someone else and took it as truth. (Douche alert!)

-he's really a first grader in an elaborate, ridiculously adorable man costume.

 

Or, he could have intimacy issues (fear of rejection, mommy issues) and fears actually allowing himself to be open to love, trust women. So, he'll date - even marry women who he feels lukewarm about, and be ambivalent to a woman he really would wanna be with.

 

He's probably hostile towards you cuz it's like he's pushing you away cuz he fears the hold you have on him.

 

Some women are like that too. I get scared if someone gets too close - so, I keep my men and RLs at a distance cuz that's all I can handle. Coming from a bad childhood and having fears of rejection did that to me.

 

See, some people have deep-seated issues. You can't change/reform them.

 

Again, don't analyze, just let it go.

 

Same thing in my situation...if we cross paths, sometimes he's friendly, sometimes it's like he wants me to get lost. If I catch him staring my way or something, he runs and hides.

 

Again, let it go...you're gonna drive yourself mad and get sad from all the ying-yang in these types of situations.

[Pompom]

Reading again ..you say you got fired. What happened? Did drama go down? Another possibility is that he thinks you're a bad person for getting fired, or he heard rumors about it, or he sided with the people who got you fired.

 

It's just a guess.

No, he started being an ass way before that. He actually asked a mutual friend at shop A why I got fired. The guy who fired me, is a well-known jerk with an over-inflated ego and all the managers of the surrounding shops were glad when he left.

 

In the future, remember always: INTERESTED GUYS ACT INTERESTED...so, if you see ambivalence and/or him not making a move - especially if you initiated and/or gave clear signs that you're into him, move on. Don't let it go on for weeks, months, etc.

What about guys who go man-period at the mere mention of you? I find that intriguing.

[Gloria25]

No, he started being an ass way before that. He actually asked a mutual friend at shop A why I got fired. The guy who fired me, is a well-known jerk with an over-inflated ego and all the managers of the surrounding shops were glad when he left.

 

 

What about guys who go man-period at the mere mention of you? I find that intriguing.

 

Doesn't matter....cuz at the end of the day, nothing is going to materialize between you two...Again, I recommend you stop analyzing.

 

In my case, dude mirrors me. "Mirroring" is quite normal when a guy/gal is interested in you. But again, I'm telling you, the "mirroring" has been going on for a year now and dude turned down hooking up with me, and since then has moments when I try to chat him up, he pretends like he can't hear me and/or I'm not there...mind you, more "mirroring" continues to take place. Worst, some of the things he mirrors, he does it with other women - not me (ie buying my fav perfume for his gf).

 

Maybe he got upset cuz other people were bad mouthing you and yeah, it's normal for a guy to want to stand up for a chick (like defend her honor). Or, maybe he got upset cuz the mention of you stirred up emotions for you and he doesn't wanna feel them (again, the intimacy issues).

 

Either way, forget about it...just trust me on this one. Cuz, like I said...a guy could be doing all those things that "appear" to show "attraction" and/or "interest"...but at the end of the day, if he's not sealing the deal with you (ie asking you out, taking you out, kissing/sexing, dating you), then he's NOT THAT INTO YOU - regardless of the reasons of his lack of being into you (intimacy/trust/mommy issues, Krazy, gay, broke/no money).

Edited June 11, 2015 by Gloria25

[Pompom]

At this point it's not a matter of gauging romantic interest. More of a general "WTF dude" kind of thing. I can't even go get a nestea without him getting up from behind the counter, and storming away. It's as amusing as it's frustrating, so...

[Gloria25]

At this point it's not a matter of gauging romantic interest. More of a general "WTF dude" kind of thing. I can't even go get a nestea without him getting up from behind the counter, and storming away. It's as amusing as it's frustrating, so...

 

There's no romantic interest to be gauged...he's not into you.

 

Just change how you see him and let it go...so, when he does his stupid, childish, "high school crush" nonsense, it won't even get your attention.

 

So, from this point on he's just a co-worker. No one special and/or interesting.

 

Now, a word of caution...when you start moving on and he sees you're no longer interested and/or paying attention to him and his little stunts, more than likely he will escalate - like a little child craving attention. DON'T FALL FOR IT...that's just him dragging you back in.

 

Again, from this point forward he is a "nobody", a "co-worker", he is dust in the corner on the floor...nothing interesting and/or special.

[Pompom]

Doesn't this:

There's no romantic interest to be gauged...he's not into you.

 

 

Conflict with this?

Now, a word of caution...when you start moving on and he sees you're no longer interested and/or paying attention to him and his little stunts, more than likely he will escalate - like a little child craving attention. DON'T FALL FOR IT...that's just him dragging you back in.

Edited June 11, 2015 by Pompom

[deadelvis]

My opinion...

 

he found out something about you that he really doesn't like. in your past you must have done something he considers inexcusable. maybe you cheated on a boyfriend? had a lot of ONS's? sent nude pictures to other men? herpes? something along those lines I would guess. If you think about it you can probably narrow it down to a couple things. whatever it is, he found out about it, (some men will go to extreme lengths researching a potential GF) and he decided in his mind that it was inexcusable. his immature reaction is his childish way of making it clear that he liked you a lot but is disgusted by something you did.

 

that's my guess anyway

[Gloria25]

La

Doesn't this:

 

 

 

Conflict with this?

 

No, there's no conflict...

 

Cuz, him trying to drag you back in doesn't mean he's interested in YOU, it means he doesn't want to let go of the attention you give him.

 

I hope you get the difference....

 

The difference is, what's the point in allowing yourself to be dragged back in if it's only to please him? Cuz, once you start paying attention to him again, he's gonna go back into avoiding you, running and hiding - in other words back to square one, which is, he's not that into you, he just likes the ego boost and/or attention he gets from you.

 

Relationships are a two-way-street. Not fair if you give him attention/ego boost and in return, dude won't even take you out for a coffee...especially when he clearly knows that the day to take you out for a coffee will never, ever come.

 

But, if you have time to waste and a metal heart, then I guess you can sign up to the "imaginary girlfriend" club too...

 

Again, he's not interested in you enough. If he did, way before 7 months he would have asked you out....

 

The guy in my case, can barely speak to me and its going on for a year. With other chicks and w/o me going into details, by the 7th month mark they were lactched onto each other like glue and have been at warp speed in the advancement of their RL ...So, heed my warning - INTERESTED GUYS ACT INTERESTED...you wouldn't be here posting questions about him if he actually was interested in you.

 

Again, he's not interested in a relationship with you...he may have a crush, feel attraction, and/or like the attention, but he's never gonna date you. Mind you, I used the word "never"..."never" is an absolute statement. That means "never" - not "maybe".

[Pompom]

My opinion...

 

he found out something about you that he really doesn't like. in your past you must have done something he considers inexcusable. maybe you cheated on a boyfriend? had a lot of ONS's? sent nude pictures to other men? herpes? something along those lines I would guess. If you think about it you can probably narrow it down to a couple things. whatever it is, he found out about it, (some men will go to extreme lengths researching a potential GF) and he decided in his mind that it was inexcusable. his immature reaction is his childish way of making it clear that he liked you a lot but is disgusted by something you did.

 

that's my guess anyway

I used to sin for a living. Under another name, on another continent, years ago. No way he found that out. I tried to narrow it down that way. I have done many things that would offend him, but none he could find out just by googling. My friends here in Israel also don't know about those things.

 

What you suggest makes a lot of sense. But I just can't imagine him finding any of it out. He's this young, sweet, open-book (can't hide his moods anyway) Jesus kid. Obsessively researching a person instead of just asking, doesn't seem to suit him.

But now that you mention it, our boss did say he had trouble with something about me representing the company. He didn't say what it was, but he was obviously constipated with blood in his poop about the matter. He has avoided me ever since I left.

Holy ****, as I'm writing this, a lot of things are starting to make sense. Once, when I was still working at shop A and needed something at B, I walked past the guy in question, his (and my future) manager, and the co-manager. The manager said "We were just talking about you" and they didn't seem to be joking.

Then when I got hired, I confided in the manager that there might be tensions between me and the other guy. He said he was going to tell him that I was joining the team, then reconsidered because it wasn't his place to tell him that. As if he knew my joining the team was in any way something worth warning Nutty of. There is something, and the manager knows it. I know when something's up, I just don't always know what...

[Pompom]

La

 

No, there's no conflict...

 

Cuz, him trying to drag you back in doesn't mean he's interested in YOU, it means he doesn't want to let go of the attention you give him.

 

I hope you get the difference....

 

The difference is, what's the point in allowing yourself to be dragged back in if it's only to please him? Cuz, once you start paying attention to him again, he's gonna go back into avoiding you, running and hiding - in other words back to square one, which is, he's not that into you, he just likes the ego boost and/or attention he gets from you.

 

Relationships are a two-way-street. Not fair if you give him attention/ego boost and in return, dude won't even take you out for a coffee...especially when he clearly knows that the day to take you out for a coffee will never, ever come.

 

But, if you have time to waste and a metal heart, then I guess you can sign up to the "imaginary girlfriend" club too...

 

Again, he's not interested in you enough. If he did, way before 7 months he would have asked you out....

 

The guy in my case, can barely speak to me and its going on for a year. With other chicks and w/o me going into details, by the 7th month mark they were lactched onto each other like glue and have been at warp speed in the advancement of their RL ...So, heed my warning - INTERESTED GUYS ACT INTERESTED...you wouldn't be here posting questions about him if he actually was interested in you.

 

Again, he's not interested in a relationship with you...he may have a crush, feel attraction, and/or like the attention, but he's never gonna date you. Mind you, I used the word "never"..."never" is an absolute statement. That means "never" - not "maybe".

 

I understand you now.

Thing is, he's not really drawing my attention on purpose. Whenever he sees me, he just freaks out and behaves like a jerk because he has no control over his emotions. He's not like, "Oh there's Pompom, let's be a jerk so she notices me". More like, "Oh crap crap crap". He's not sticking around to get a reaction, either. He's not doing it on purpose. I also act weird sometimes but not on purpose, for example, when I realized I had a crush on him and felt that he MIGHT be coming on to me, I started blushing whenever I saw him, got red, and made sure to keep our encounters short before I embarrass myself. It's not something I did as a means of flirting, just like he's not being a jerk to get my attention.

[Gloria25]

his immature reaction is his childish way of making it clear that he liked you a lot but is disgusted by something you did.

 

that's my guess anyway

 

His immature and childish way of handling this is another reason why you should let this go.

 

I mean, how can you have an RL with someone who cannot/will not communicate with you?

 

In my situation, I believe that it would lower my (and his stress/anxiety) in crossing paths if we just talk out what's going on here. On OLD, you get dissed a lot - but quite frankly, when someone is polite enough to actually respond and say like 'oh, nice profile, but I can't do the distance'...then, you're like "ok, cool" and you move on.

 

But, when they don't even bother to respond and/or block your profile, you're like "WTF/WTH"? And it irks you and you start asking "why's"...

 

Like you, I sometimes wish he would just explain "why" he does what he does. Does he have feelings for me, but cuz of life can't act on it and just adores me from a distance? Does he think of me when he's having sex? Why run away? Why be mean? Am I seeing what I wanna see here? Am I crazy?

 

But at the end of the day, both you and I already have our answer - which is he may be attracted, crushed, or even 0.5% interested...but he won't seal the deal, so 0.5% interest isn't enough for him to make it a go.

 

I mean, I believe I am much like my dude, I am shy and have my insecurities and yes, this whole thing has me acting quite high schoolish and immature at times, but I have made many attempts to just "speak" to him and it goes sour. And yes, sometimes when I get a positive response from him, I get a sinking pit in my stomach that makes me wanna go run and hide - difference is he never sees that cuz I don't hide from him cuz I guess I have that Xtra "ump" to push past my fears...

 

Gosh, like several times I'll try to say "how's your day" and it's like he didn't hear me, then turns around after I'm walking off and he'll say "have a nice day" and I'm like, ok, I get tongue tied, but his tongue must be in three knots to have taken so long to respond and/or think of a response... And, that just makes me more nervous and throws me off my game

 

Rant over, forget this dude already...nothin's gonna come from it. If it did, he would have made a REAL move on you long time ago.

[Gloria25]

I understand you now.

Thing is, he's not really drawing my attention on purpose. Whenever he sees me, he just freaks out and behaves like a jerk because he has no control over his emotions. He's not like, "Oh there's Pompom, let's be a jerk so she notices me". More like, "Oh crap crap crap". He's not sticking around to get a reaction, either. He's not doing it on purpose. I also act weird sometimes but not on purpose, for example, when I realized I had a crush on him and felt that he MIGHT be coming on to me, I started blushing whenever I saw him, got red, and made sure to keep our encounters short before I embarrass myself. It's not something I did as a means of flirting, just like he's not being a jerk to get my attention.

 

Well, involuntary or intentional - doesn't matter...

 

He's not asking you out, he's not making a move...who cares why/how/when he does/doesn't do whatever.

 

Look, if you wanna waste your time and give it one more final go - then walk up to him and be like "Hey, at one point we were cool and now as of late, you blocked my tel/FB/etc, and when we cross paths - I can see you react different to me than you do with others. We work together and I also value you as someone I know, so, do you wanna tell me if there's something I did/said to cause this abrupt change in our interactions?"

 

And, if he does like my guy and tries to avoid you so you can't even get my statement/question (above) in edegewise, then move on...

 

And, if he actually lets you get in my statement/question in and does like my guy and plays the "I don't know what you mean" game, then move on...

 

But, if he actually levels with you, then maybe update us here and let's see where we go from here....BUT, based on what you posted about him, I'm certain he will avoid you so you can't have this discussion and if you do get to speak to him, he's gonna act like he's clueless as to what you're talking about.

[deadelvis]

Somebody found out about your past and let the cat out of the bag. Guys, even sweet ones, can be obsessive over finding out if a woman has a questionable past. In fact generally the sweeter and more wholesome the guy, the more likely he'll be hung up on your "purity and virtue", and more likely to do heavy research. And when a woman has a secret past of sin, and one guy finds out about it, his immediate reaction is to tell every other man who knows her.

[Pompom]

Well, involuntary or intentional - doesn't matter...

 

He's not asking you out, he's not making a move...who cares why/how/when he does/doesn't do whatever.

 

Look, if you wanna waste your time and give it one more final go - then walk up to him and be like "Hey, at one point we were cool and now as of late, you blocked my tel/FB/etc, and when we cross paths - I can see you react different to me than you do with others. We work together and I also value you as someone I know, so, do you wanna tell me if there's something I did/said to cause this abrupt change in our interactions?"

 

And, if he does like my guy and tries to avoid you so you can't even get my statement/question (above) in edegewise, then move on...

It matters because his behavior caused me to quit and now I'm unemployed with 7 cats and 2 dogs and feeling it's kinda unfair I have to take a ****ty job when a good job was basically taken from me by abuseI didn't deserve. Knowing why he's acting that way, allows for a solution to be found so I might return.

On my last shift, he went in on me so bad a customer went in on him for the better part of 15 minutes until he was curled up in his chair all defensive. He yelled at me, went delusional (said I tried to stab him because I gently pushed his chair out of my way and towards a CLOSED drawer with a box cutter in it), and I think I also heard the threat of a smack. I'd been sure I could take him on, but when he shut down and went "Lalala can't hear you, go away", I knew I was doomed to live in poverty. And that simply isn't right. Now I'm supposed to take a less fun job because he bullied me out of the previous? Not right.

 

Somebody found out about your past and let the cat out of the bag. Guys, even sweet ones, can be obsessive over finding out if a woman has a questionable past. In fact generally the sweeter and more wholesome the guy, the more likely he'll be hung up on your "purity and virtue", and more likely to do heavy research. And when a woman has a secret past of sin, and one guy finds out about it, his immediate reaction is to tell every other man who knows her.

There's one guy I've told, and he's a lawyer. He should know better than to talk **** he can't back up. Plus, he's not a gossip kinda guy.

[deadelvis]

people can use facebook in pretty amazing ways too, if you were friends on facebook he may have snooped through your friends profiles looking for dirt

[Gloria25]

It matters because his behavior caused me to quit and now I'm unemployed with 7 cats and 2 dogs and feeling it's kinda unfair I have to take a ****ty job when a good job was basically taken from me by abuseI didn't deserve. Knowing why he's acting that way, allows for a solution to be found so I might return.

On my last shift, he went in on me so bad a customer went in on him for the better part of 15 minutes until he was curled up in his chair all defensive. He yelled at me, went delusional (said I tried to stab him because I gently pushed his chair out of my way and towards a CLOSED drawer with a box cutter in it), and I think I also heard the threat of a smack. I'd been sure I could take him on, but when he shut down and went "Lalala can't hear you, go away", I knew I was doomed to live in poverty. And that simply isn't right. Now I'm supposed to take a less fun job because he bullied me out of the previous? Not right.

 

 

There's one guy I've told, and he's a lawyer. He should know better than to talk **** he can't back up. Plus, he's not a gossip kinda guy.

 

Ok, you just keep on listing more reasons why you should leave this guy alone...

 

Look, if he made your working environment so intolerable - to the point he falsely accused you of an attempt of physical violence - doesn't matter if he's shy, got the wrong impression of you from rumors, etc...Fact is he treated you like crap.

 

Look, I've seen guys kiss the feet of manipulative, town hos. Every guy/one talks about how she did the whole military command and he doesn't care. I had one guy do that to me. He said the town ho was "misunderstood" and he used to drive her to the club and right in front of him, she'd be hitting up other "marks" - while he sat there like a dummy. And, his little brain still didn't get it when from day one, she told him to tell everyone "they're just friends" cuz she doesn't like gossip...And, come to find out she had a lot of "friends". He still didn't get it when after she got some money and things out of him and reported him to his commander alleging that he was "harassing" her.

 

My point is, there are guys who make up excuses for crappy women - and this guy has done the contrary to you, he didn't even care to have a mature convo with you to find out "who" you are. He put your job at risk and falsely accused you of violence in the workplace.

 

Now "why" would you have and romantic interest in some guy who put you through this?

 

Same thing I worry about with this guy I speak of and why I put distance between me and him at times - cuz I'm afraid he'll do to me what this guy did to you - which is say like I'm harassing him...cuz quite frankly, this guy has posted things online about me to the point where he considers me a "disease".

 

No, you shouldn't have quit. IMO, you should of had a mature convo with him - preferably with someone from HR/management involved cuz him being abusive towards you. But, then again, since you were fired from the shop A, the company might see "you" as the problem - not him.

 

But again, I still don't see why you care....this guy, kicked you when you were down, didn't even care to find out who you are/were and what your side of the story is/was - regarding the job situation and/or rumors...while there are tons of stupid guys doing it every day for town hos and/or manipulative chicks.

 

Now, I escalate....he's a freakin' loser, let it go.

[toscaroscura]

It matters because his behavior caused me to quit and now I'm unemployed with 7 cats and 2 dogs and feeling it's kinda unfair I have to take a ****ty job when a good job was basically taken from me by abuseI didn't deserve. Knowing why he's acting that way, allows for a solution to be found so I might return.

On my last shift, he went in on me so bad a customer went in on him for the better part of 15 minutes until he was curled up in his chair all defensive. He yelled at me, went delusional (said I tried to stab him because I gently pushed his chair out of my way and towards a CLOSED drawer with a box cutter in it), and I think I also heard the threat of a smack. I'd been sure I could take him on, but when he shut down and went "Lalala can't hear you, go away", I knew I was doomed to live in poverty. And that simply isn't right. Now I'm supposed to take a less fun job because he bullied me out of the previous? Not right.

 

 

There's one guy I've told, and he's a lawyer. He should know better than to talk **** he can't back up. Plus, he's not a gossip kinda guy.

 

Why wasn't any of this in the OP? He sounds unhinged, not at all adorable or a "sweet Jesus kid".

 

You're unemployed now? I'm confused about the timelines...