bolase Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 So, I've been seeing this lovely young guy who I met on a training course a month ago. We are both late 20s and everything has gone well so far. However! On the course there was also a lady in her 50s who knew the guy I'm dating previously through work in a similar field; they go way back according to him. She was somewhat affectionate on the course, giving him shoulder rubs and so forth. I didn't mind; she's older! Fast forward to us secretly dating outside the course and a reunion lunch at one of the guys houses. She was clearly shocked to see me there and to recognise that we were a couple. She tactlessly told the table how when there was an extra table setting, she was guessing who the girl was who was coming with this guy, and saying girls names out loud (um, im here!) Afterward she made a fuss over how nice my dessert was and asked for the recipe so o sent it to her with a friendly brief email. No response. Am I overreacting or is this strange behaviour?
smackie9 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 She's just being a little possessive over your BF. Guess she felt special around him, but now his attention is on you....kinda deflating her ego. Don't worry, you can't be friends with everyone. 2
Arieswoman Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 bolase, It seems that this lady has some kind of a displaced mother issue and feels protective of your guy. When I started dating my present husband there were some "older" ladies at the church ( I was a newcomer) who made sure I knew how long they had known him (and his mother) and what "history" they had together. My husband laughed it off and said they were jealous because someone had taken their "little boy" away from them. I can see the same situation here. I'd just be super-polite and smile at her all the time. She'll soon get sick of this silly behaviour. 1
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