JamesDraper Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Here's the deal - I was dating this very nice, beautiful, interesting girl, been seeing her for 4 months and we were going steady... I could say she was my girlfriend already... But the problem is that she seemed a little indifferent and distant since the beginning of the relationship, she was always busy, working hard and she didn't seem very eager to go out with me all the time, she did not use to text me at all, I used to do all the texting and calling, she NEVER initiated conversation with me, but apart from that our conversations were fine and things were fun when we used to go out together. However I was getting tired of her lack of interest so I started dating another girl. Things started getting more serious with girl #2 so I talked to girl #1 and told her I had met someone else and that although I wanted to still be friends with her, I had met someone interesting and I had moved on. Then she simply smiled and said "Wow I'm really happy you found a nice person. That's a very good thing! I wish you the best and good luck in your life!" Then after that we asked for the check and she kissed me on the cheek and left . The thing is... 2 days have passed by, she didn't say anything... I'm not someone looking for attention, I didn't do this to test her but now I wonder - has she ever cared about me? because her reaction just shows me she didn't give a **** about me at all... or maybe she's just a very mature person? Really, she didn't seem pissed, not a little bit... she's either: 1. not giving a **** about me 2. really mature 3. a very good actress What do you think?
smackie9 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Sounds to me she was never that interested but your persisted. You should never had gone out with someone so flaky in the first place if your have stronger expectations. Tip: you can't force someone to like or care about you.....it was steady going because it was just hanging out and nothing serious so what the hell do you expect?? 3
Author JamesDraper Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 Sounds to me she was never that interested but your persisted. You should never had gone out with someone so flaky in the first place if your have stronger expectations. Tip: you can't force someone to like or care about you.....it was steady going because it was just hanging out and nothing serious so what the hell do you expect?? I was beginning to have feelings for her... I dunno, I thought at first that she may have thought I wasn't interested in a serious relationship, maybe she thought I was a player and was suspicious - sometimes she seemed suspicious I was not testing her feelings by breaking up with her, but I won't deny I expected her to be at least a little bit surprise or disappointed... needless to say I kinda wanted her to ask me not to do that because once again she's way more interesting than the girl I'm going out with right now.
smackie9 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 If this is true then I suggest you keep your options open and keep this one casual. There is nothing worse than settling. You will meet someone who turn you on your heels and regret being so committed to someone that is so so. I totally get your disappointment.....you can't get her out of your head....but it's because when one is less available they become more desirable. So with her not putting in any real effort, it increased your desire to have her even more. It's one of those tricks your mind plays on you. 2
kenmore Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Yeah, I have been getting the same thing and if the situation evolved like yours, I'm sure she wouldn't care either. I don't know about your case but in mine, I think she does not give a **** so neither am I anymore. At this point, I wouldn't waste my time telling her about any new rel. Be happy with your new girl, and the last one? G'bye!
goldway90 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I'd say you turned her off by being available too much, always texting and initiating the the conversation, btw i don't think she was your gf since you didn't mention if you discussed being exclusive. She either met someone new guy or her ex that's why she had now problem with you dating the new girl, plus a kiss on the cheek seems like friendzone. Don't ignore the red flags next time, when you are with a girl who's indifferent and distant, you just move on. No need to waste time.
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